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To hit 'D'P with a fly swatter

(30 Posts)
Friedbrain Sat 23-Aug-14 03:53:27

So 'D'P has had a good drink, and is now snoring beside me, and has been for 4 hours.

Everytime I wake him, to roll over, I get abuse and called a c##t.

Charming, a!

Turns into a right dick when had a drink angry angry angry angry angry

BitOutOfPractice Mon 25-Aug-14 15:15:24

Hello op. I hope you're ok

Did you expect a reaction like this? Or did you think we would all laugh along?

Because I can assure you that I was horrified when I read your post. What he does to you is not on. And a drink is not an excuse. You know what they say, drunks and children tell the truth.

Friedbrain Mon 25-Aug-14 10:31:32

Sometimes I wish I had the strength to walk awaysad

Nomama Sun 24-Aug-14 11:27:40

My DH is extremely violent when asleep, even without alcohol.

He has punched, kicked, grabbed, threatened and sworn at me. He also assumes the most ridiculous of sleeping positions, like a starfish across the middle of the bed, head covered in quilt, feet out in the cold, sweating like the most sweaty thing. And he snores like a herd of thundering wilderbeeste.

My solution was to sleep in another room. He's perfectly reasonable in most other ways.

googoodolly Sun 24-Aug-14 10:26:47

Nah, don't video him. he knows what he's doing he just knows he can get away with it because the OP is letting him.

I rarely say this, but LTB, he sounds horrible sad

Longdistance Sun 24-Aug-14 08:00:45

I vote for electric fly swatter on his balls.

But, serious op, what a nasty arse of a man. When my h shat himself on holiday after drinking with randoms, and we were in a room with dds. I was very close to divorcing the wanker still don't know why I haven't I have warned him, another episode of that, and he's packing his fucking bags and out the door he will go. I took a photo, and his face when I showed him, was a picture.

Maybe video his behaviour, and show it to him. Watch his face...

Inertia Sun 24-Aug-14 07:43:55

He sounds really unpleasant. I wouldn't want to be with someone who treated me like that.

daisychain01 Sun 24-Aug-14 06:47:10

Yy to:

Cattle prod
Electric fly swat
Any fly swat

Or
A horse crop with a leather garrotte for extra welts

This is what I'd use on my DP when he snores! But I suffer in silence most of the time. Hey ho.

Why do blokes say "sorry" the day after? It's as if its some big surprise, I just don't know what happened I somehow ended up pissed. Why not try not getting in a state to begin with, then you wouldn't have to apologise the day after. flowers

Tikimon Sun 24-Aug-14 06:08:11

He knows he's a dick to you drunk. But he continues to do it.

I think that really speaks for itself.

AgentZigzag Sun 24-Aug-14 01:45:34

I've just thought that I actually call DH all the names under the sun, including cunt, when he wakes me up or keeps me awake with his nocturnal noises.

But he knows I don't mean it, which sounds like a lame excuse on my part when you're talking about your pissed up aggressive DH, but I genuinely don't think he's a cunt, even though I regularly call him one.

I know if he said it to me if he was pissed (which he doesn't get as such, and wouldn't say it anyway) I would brush it off because it wouldn't be a regular thing and I'd feel confident that he doesn't think that about me.

The problem with your DH is that he's treating you like shit all the time and letting the alcohol take the blame, but he may as well be saying it to you sober because the effect it must have on you is the same.

How does the conversation go when you talk to him about it?

OohQuack Sun 24-Aug-14 01:27:00

I got dp with one of those electric racket shaped ones today, wr were testing to see what happens :-D it hurts apparently. So go ahead do it

AgentZigzag Sun 24-Aug-14 01:23:11

You're not a mug or a cunt!

Does he assure you it won't happen again after each time, or have you got to the point where you don't even bother taking it up with him anymore?

Is it something you can live with if he can't or won't change?

If it isn't, have you ever thought about leaving him and what that might mean?

Friedbrain Sun 24-Aug-14 00:57:37

I do put up with it, I'm a mug I know...

The next day is all apologies etc... But it happens again and again...

AgentZigzag Sun 24-Aug-14 00:38:46

What's he said when you've told him what he's like when he's pissed? How come he's OK with calling you a cunt and being a twat regularly and for avoidable reasons?

That must be a pretty uncomfortable atmosphere for you to have to live in OP? Does it affect other times when he's not actually pissed or recovering from a hangover, like do you know it's coming up and start dreading it days beforehand?

('My DH has been known to yell "go and stand in the garden you crow"' Love that grin)

LuluJakey1 Sun 24-Aug-14 00:25:34

Seriously, LTB. He calls you a cunt and you just put up with it because he's drunk!

Friedbrain Sun 24-Aug-14 00:23:46

Atleast once a week sad sad

googoodolly Sat 23-Aug-14 08:57:06

So he gets aggressive and abusive when drunk. Charming.

DollyMixture5 Sat 23-Aug-14 08:50:33

My reply very much depends if he's sleep talking or conciously calling you a cunt. My DH has been known to yell "go and stand in the garden you crow" confused at me in his sleep.

If you're going to use the fly swatter try and get an electric one!

EhricLovesTheBhrothers Sat 23-Aug-14 08:07:35

He turns into a selfish, abusive dick when he's had a drink? How often does he drink?

Humansatnav Sat 23-Aug-14 07:57:33

He called you a cunt ? Strong words when he wakes up op!

BitOutOfPractice Sat 23-Aug-14 06:41:49

I'm not sure why everyone is bring so lighthearted about this. He sounds vile.

CheerfulYank Sat 23-Aug-14 05:37:15

I'd "accidentally" nudge him very hard in the kidney and/or balls. <bloodthirsty>

Friedbrain Sat 23-Aug-14 05:23:38

We have a guests,

So literally, nowhere else to go....

I finally managed to go to sleep......
within 5 mins, i get woken up, for a cuddle....... Seriously......

5 minutes sleep, iv had all night!!!!!

however Sat 23-Aug-14 05:11:00

Nor me.

BitOutOfPractice Sat 23-Aug-14 04:52:28

Anyone who called me a cunt would not still be sleeping in the same bed as me

TapWellies Sat 23-Aug-14 04:50:13

Preferably one of those electric fly zappers.

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