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My Partner is not happy that I still see my step children

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Zante111 · 21/08/2014 18:30

My partner has a problem even if I mention the name of my step children from a previous relationship let alone meet them.
I think its the link to my previous partner that is at the root of the problem.
I have no feelings for my previous partner whatsoever.
And I do not need to see my previous partner.
Its difficult to cut people out of your life and I would like to know
Does anyone else have similar issues?

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AnyFucker · 21/08/2014 18:33

You could tell your "partner" to like it or lump it

Does he expect you to cut off these children that I presume you grew to love and be a big part of their life ?

YouTheCat · 21/08/2014 18:33

You can see whoever you like, step children or not.

I'd keep the step children and get rid of the partner.

gertiegusset · 21/08/2014 18:34

Easier to cut a relatively new partner out I would think...

AnyFucker · 21/08/2014 18:34

Yup

Does he realise how shit like this makes him look ? Like a Fucking tool, that's how.

WhereforeArtThou · 21/08/2014 18:36

What a horrible thing for your partner to comment on. Sad Is this typical behaviour for him?

Zante111 · 21/08/2014 18:38

TBH I am not sure.
I just know he has a problem dealing with it.
We had a rocky start to our relationship and maybe there are trust issues.
That said I have never been unfaithful to him.
I don't expect him to meet my ex just the step daughter and her child would be nice.

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deakymom · 21/08/2014 18:38

how old are they do they need there dad to see you or old enough to see you independently?

gertiegusset · 21/08/2014 18:39

Jeez, a grown up step daughter, she must be a real threat Hmm
He sounds like a knob.

AnyFucker · 21/08/2014 18:39

Define "rocky start"

Tikimon · 21/08/2014 18:39

He's jealous that a child is getting more attention than him? What a baby.

AdoraBell · 21/08/2014 18:40

Partner must be very insecure to object to step children.

Insecure is never a good personality trait.

Is there anyone else would rather you have no contact with?

gertiegusset · 21/08/2014 18:40

I wondered about the rocky start too, has he been unfaithful?

ohfourfoxache · 21/08/2014 18:41

He sounds vile

See your step children and get rid of him Sad

Whereisegg · 21/08/2014 18:41

This doesn't bode well, how is he when you see other friends?

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 21/08/2014 18:41

Run for the hills. He's trying to isolate you and that's how it starts.

Do you want a sulky controlling man child or a man?

ThatBloodyWoman · 21/08/2014 18:41

Dump him rather than the step children.

Zante111 · 21/08/2014 18:43

Define Rocky Start..Ok
At the beginning a 3 months into the relationship
I had a function where my ex was attending.
I asked my new partner but they declined probably due to the reason my ex would be there.
This issue has never left his mind that I went without him and never gave him my time at xmas.
Its always being brought up and he can not let it.
In answer to your question stepdaughter is 30.

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gertiegusset · 21/08/2014 18:45

See I would get very bored with someone like that very quickly, never letting something go.

Tell him to pack it the fuck up or move on.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 21/08/2014 18:45

This is a very nasty character trait. Jealous, possessive, selfish. I would be assessing his role in my life rather than the step children's.

YouTheCat · 21/08/2014 18:45

Zante, it's not going to go well if he's having these issues already. You have done nothing wrong.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 21/08/2014 18:46

He's a total dick. Why are you putting up with him?

Whereisegg · 21/08/2014 18:47

So he's jealous, petty, won't let things go, is demanding of your time, and expects you to give up friends (dsd and dgc)?

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Fairylea · 21/08/2014 18:49

Well for a start the only reason that's a rocky start is because he's an arse. Most people would hardly bat an eyelid. When you said rocky start I thought you'd been having it away with the ex not just happening to be in the same place at the same time - sheesh!

Your partner is trying to control you and quite frankly sounds about 12.

Run. Run far away.....!

Zante111 · 21/08/2014 18:51

Yes but I'm not squeeky clean in this relationship.
I have told a couple of lies early on that I have come clean about now..
Personal things..
But like I said before I have never been unfaithful.
I love him but his constant regurgitation on this subject is annoying to say the least.

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DoItTooJulia · 21/08/2014 18:51

Zante, it's lovely that you still see your step daughter and her child. I would have thought a new partner would like that you are like that.

It sounds like hard work being in a partnership with this person. Are they worth it?

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