More of a WWYD

[Lucyccfc]

Not sure where to post this, so this seemed a good a place as any.

My DS is 9 and like a lot of boys of that age have heard people swear, but he doesn't do it himself. I'm not naive enough to think he won't hear people swearing.

Anyway, 1 particular boy, who he goes to football training with has a bit of a reputation for swearing. Last week my DS said that he had tackled this lad and he called him a f@@king idiot. I told my DS to just ignore.

Yesterday, they were both together as some of the local childminders had hired the church hall. There is a grass area at the front where the boys can play football. Anyway, DS told me that he had tackled this lad and got the ball off him and he called my DS a f@&king Tw@t.

Now call me old fashioned , but I really don't think that language is acceptable, especially for a 9 year old.

I told the CM what happened, just so she can be aware in the future and I will be bumping into his Mum at training tonight.

Should I mention it to her? Not really sure how to tackle this, as no one likes to hear bad about their own children. 100% sure that DS is telling the truth - he tells tales on himself, he is that honest.

[AMumInScotland]

I think as the CM was there, and you told her, it would be excessive to also tell the mum.
Just focus on helping your DS develop strategies for dealing with people when they're being sweary and aggressive. TBH I'm more bothered that he thinks it's ok to be like that when someone legitimately tackles him - if he does that at training I hope the coach pulls him up on it!

[Lucyccfc]

Thanks Ladies.

I am not aware if the coach has heard him. I am sure he must have done, as some of the parents have. Most of the parents are well aware of his bad attitude. Such a shame as he has quite a talent (and not just for swearing lol).

[BackforGood]

I would have a chat with the coach.
I don't think that language is acceptable. If he's using it that regularly, then I have to assume that his parents do. If the coach agrees with you, he has some influence as he is 'in charge' when they are training and playing matches. If the coach thinks it's fine, then you have to decide if this is the right team for your ds. I'm not sure I'd want my 9 yr old when I had one spending a lot of time with that kind of language.

[Smilesandpiles]

Tell the coach.

For 9 year olds (or any age to be honest), it's not acceptable, it's a team sport, you are training as a team - you don't call the other players, fucking twats because they tackled the ball from you - like they are trained to.

If the coach doesn't see anything wrong with it, I'd find another team.

[Lucyccfc]

Funnily enough the lads mother wasn't there tonight and I did have a word with coach. When I went back to pick him up, he told me that the coach has spoken to the boys collectively and made it very clear that swearing was not acceptable.

Hopefully that is now the end of it.