Crying my eyes out, I'm being completely pathetic

(14 Posts)
CarryOn90 Mon 18-Aug-14 23:31:49

Had a light hearted thread about my awful colleague a couple of days ago, who goes on stupid rants about women and immigrants and hates children and doesn't like animals, refused to put up decorations in the office last Christmas because he didn't see the point of them, blah blah.

I work in a very small office and it's just me and him a lot of the time. Things have just come to a head this evening, I feel like such a stupid wuss because nothing's even HAPPENED, I'm just horribly stressed because I think I've booked the wrong holiday weekend and I'm dreading this awful training day tomorrow and I've run out of bloody money and I thought payday was this week and it's not and the thought of spending one more day of my life working with this cynical, grumpy heartless old man makes me MISERABLE.

I will actually be leaving in about 12 months to go travelling with a friend so it's not all bad, I can just feel my soul draining away every day at this job.

Ugh, just one of those days. Really needed to vent. Advice for surviving the next year very welcome.

Dramatic, childish rant over.

LadyLuck10 Mon 18-Aug-14 23:33:20

Rant away thanks

CarryOn90 Mon 18-Aug-14 23:42:34

Thank you thanks

jackydanny Mon 18-Aug-14 23:49:07

It's not dramatic or childish.

Just keep it in the day. A day at a time.
Horrible to be around those life draining people.

Stop trying to be his friend or win him over.
Look objectively, without emotion.
He's a miserable so and so.
This is just a job.

Think of his negativism as a fire.
Don't chuck a log on.

Aheadofyourtime Mon 18-Aug-14 23:49:23

Poor you, 12 months is a longtime with a horrible boss

Amy106 Mon 18-Aug-14 23:58:41

Just wanted to send you wine and flowers and say that YANBU. Does the training day mean one less day of him? That could be one small silver lining.

TheFillyjonk Mon 18-Aug-14 23:59:55

You aren't being pathetic. Really you're not. Your colleague sounds horrendous to be around. A poster uptread said 'This is just a job' - is that a mantra you think you could by?

Can you honestly cope for the next 12 months? Take care, OP.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine Tue 19-Aug-14 00:19:05

Can you apply for other jobs? He sounds a knob!

Just sit and think of all the horrible things that could happen to him.
Start with the fleas of 1000 camels infesting his underpants, and work your way up to dismembering by disco-dancing elephants.
Give yourself points for style and inventiveness, or start a chat thread and get us to help think of things too. Then you'll know we're here virtually hand holding/glaring at him and we can all be amused grin
Or just say "That's naice" (like Mrs Brown where it translates as Fuck Off) to everything he says, and let it wash over you, while you plan your travels to lovely exotic places where he isn't.

HayDayQueen Tue 19-Aug-14 00:32:35

I had a misery that I used to work with, not as bad as your colleague though.

For Christmas I gave him a couple of buh humbug sweets - you can buy something similar here

Said colleague at first looked at me in askance at being given a gift, saw what they were, and had the grace to laugh and say 'Fair play'.

tigermoll Tue 19-Aug-14 08:50:09

I used to work with someone like this. The game (for me) became to try and get her to express her dislike of something utter innocuous in the strongest possible terms. For example, if I said I liked scones and she said she didn't, I would keep mildly saying 'i think they're quite nice really ' as she worked herself up into lather about how dreadful they were.

noblegiraffe Tue 19-Aug-14 08:53:40

Can you listen to music through headphones while you work to help you concentrate?

FunkyBoldRibena Tue 19-Aug-14 08:54:31

I'm with tiger; I'd just do things deliberately to see them rant.

Which would include making my own scones to bring in [in that example]. And saying 'oh you don't like scones, never mind but you should have said and I'd have made [something she likes].' Haw haw haw.

Women, children, immigrants, kids AND decorations. I'd have a field day. Whilst smiling innocently.

JustAShopGirl Tue 19-Aug-14 08:56:53

Trouble is you know you are going.... you have a rough date you are leaving. That means you are detaching yourself from the job as well as all of this going on. It is natural.

If you were staying you would put all sorts of defence mechanisms in place to make it a more enjoyable experience.

It is just a job, you will be leaving - but you haven't left yet - I take it you can't for financial reasons? So use the mantra of minimum wage, dead-end-job staff everywhere - turn up, work, go home....

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