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Mim78 Mon 18-Aug-14 21:51:04

Occasional poster, long time frequent lurker.

At the moment I am on maternity leave with DS (nearly 6 months). DD (5) is on school summer hols so I have them both at home all day. This is great and I'm really enjoying the holidays before I go back to work in September.

DH is working long hours at the moment and so I am doing all the cooking in the week. On the weekend just passed he did all the cooking on Sunday; we were out on Saturday.

This evening I made penne with a bolognaise sauce I had made from the left overs of Sunday's dinner. Tasty and economical I thought.

DH asked me this evening "can we not have meat every day?". This was on health grounds as he does not think it is good for him to eat meat every day.

My initial response was "I am not a restaurant" and am not going to cook to order. TBH we don't have meat every day, but I was planning a meat based meal tomorrow (also incorporating some [different] left overs). I also said I am not having a meat based argument with him, but then we agreed to ask the MN jury to see who is BU.

He is probably right on health grounds, but AIBU to say I am cooking so I will choose what we will have? His response to that was, "fine I will cook something else for myself", which seems to me a waste of time.

Additional info that may be relevant:

1. I am weaning DS, who is just starting to move on to a wider variety of food, i.e. passed the one ingredient/food at a time phase. I am doing a mix of puree and finger food.

2. DH recently lost weight doing the 5/2 diet and exercise and is looking good on it!

ICanSeeTheSun Mon 18-Aug-14 21:53:27

I think every one should have meat free day.

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 18-Aug-14 21:53:46

Err sounds like you're making the most of your leftovers.

LokiBear Mon 18-Aug-14 21:54:19

I think he has a right to ask, but perhaps you should alternate cooking?

PurpleWithRed Mon 18-Aug-14 21:54:36

What's the issue? Asking for some meat free days is hardly equating you with a restaurant , seems a very reasonable and relaxed request to me.

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 18-Aug-14 21:54:50

ICan why should everyone have a meat free day?

LokiBear Mon 18-Aug-14 21:54:51

I think he has a right to ask, but perhaps you should alternate cooking?

OutragedFromLeeds Mon 18-Aug-14 21:55:45

YABVU.

He made a perfectly reasonable request. It's hardly the same as treating you like you're running a restaurant.

momnipotent Mon 18-Aug-14 21:56:03

I think everyone should be meat-free at least once a week. Your DH sounds a bit like I was before I just gave up meat all together...

wasacasa Mon 18-Aug-14 21:56:33

Would he prefer you to throw away the leftovers? Have a couple of non meat evening meals to follow no harm done. He is BU

PersonOfInterest Mon 18-Aug-14 21:56:54

I agree, not meat every day is healthier (for you weaning dc too).

He's not putting in an order, just requesting something other than meat.

Agree you get the final say (as cook) but it would be pleasant to consider his requests!

You could just leave out the meat for him eg baked potatoes, beans, cheese (extra for him) but no sausages for him.

Crinkle77 Mon 18-Aug-14 21:58:03

It makes sense to use the left overs first. If he wants meat free meals then maybe he can come up with some ideas.

PinkAndBlueBedtimeBears Mon 18-Aug-14 21:59:04

I think it's a reasonable discussion point, yabu to be so dismissive of it and accuse him of treating you like catering staff, however he is BU about the meal plan this week- using up leftovers should take priority over not fancying meat every night (I'm my eyes, anyway!)

ThatBloodyWoman Mon 18-Aug-14 21:59:40

I think you should join him going predominantly meat free.
We eat way too much meat.

AlpacaYourThings Mon 18-Aug-14 22:00:15

He is probably right on health grounds, but AIBU to say I am cooking so I will choose what we will have? His response to that was, "fine I will cook something else for myself", which seems to me a waste of time.

Seems like he can't win there, if you cook he has to eat meat. If he cooks it's a waste of time. confused

It's great to make the most of your leftovers but I think it's important that you take your husbands dietary choices into consideration.

FunkyBoldRibena Mon 18-Aug-14 22:00:41

Is he actually asking for meat every day; or is he saying he doesn't want meat every day?

Bit confused as to what he is actually asking here. Are you leaving out meat because he said it wasn't healthy and he wants it more; or are you always cooking meat and he wants it less because it isn't healthy?

Mim78 Mon 18-Aug-14 22:01:35

I think wasacase has put finger on my pov - that I wanted to use up leftovers so was surprised at what sounded like a criticism.

My plan for tomorrow was to add meat to some left over vegetables, as this is the only meal I could think of to use them up! I will still do this, but we do go meat free some days, just when it happens to suit, not on a pre arranged basis.

We can't really alternate in the week as he is back late, and I cook early and eat with kids while he has his later (at the moment).

Yes I will consider his request of course.

I think I may have felt annoyed at perceived criticism (not sure if meant that way) rather than the actual request.

But I also wanted to canvas your views about meat free days generally, plus whether the cook should always have final say.

WitchWay Mon 18-Aug-14 22:02:15

"can we not have meat very day?" could be interpreted as "can't we have meat every day?"

grammar pedant

so serve it & be damned grin

p.s. I like what you're doing with the leftovers I do the same

mommy2ash Mon 18-Aug-14 22:03:02

it's fine to want some meat free meals it's also fine to use leftovers. I would have said that's no problem once im finished using these leftovers the next meal can be meat free

Scarletbanner Mon 18-Aug-14 22:05:14

There was just a really interesting programme on bbc2 about meat. Concluding that too much red meat - especially processed meat like bacon, sausages and ham, is not good for you. So you should probably all not have red or processed meat too often.

BornToFolk Mon 18-Aug-14 22:05:45

YANBU to want to use up leftovers, YABU to decide what to eat every day just because you do the cooking.

I do all the cooking (lone parent) but let my 6 year old have some say in we eat....within reason (i.e. asking nicely, not asking for something expensive/too elaborate/unhealthy)

Why does it have to be a meat-based argument? Can't you just agree that once the meat leftovers are used up, you'll plan a few meat-free meals? I'm not sure why having a weaning baby makes a difference - even babies don't have to eat meat every day! But then I may be biased as DS has been vegetarian since birth.

AlpacaYourThings Mon 18-Aug-14 22:06:41

No, I don't think the cook should have the final say.

Janethegirl Mon 18-Aug-14 22:07:48

Sorry but no meat equals no eat in my eyes. Anyone else may cook what they want in my house but if there's no meat I'd sooner have a bag of crisps and a glass of wine for my tea. Flame me now grin

WitchWay Mon 18-Aug-14 22:08:25

I have been slinging extra veg & pulses into stuff for yonks carnivorous DH hasn't noticed yet

Tomato pasta sauce becomes bolognese becomes chilli becomes soup

ICanSeeTheSun Mon 18-Aug-14 22:08:34

because meat every day is not good for you.

I don't think her DP meant tonight.

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