to not use a supplier because they spelt my name wrong?

(32 Posts)
Blueuggboots Mon 18-Aug-14 09:17:11

I sent an email to a company I am interested in using for wedding decorators.
They replied but spelt my name incorrectly, when it was printed on the email very clearly.
AIBU to not use them if they can't even spell my name correctly when it is right in front of them???!!!

BloodyClarey Mon 18-Aug-14 12:23:19

Attention to detail innit. I wouldn't use them, I'd also tell them why you aren't using them. People spell my name wrong ALL THE TIME out of laziness. There are three proper ways of spelling it, mine's not that unusual.

Blueuggboots Mon 18-Aug-14 12:14:11

If you think of names that have two spellings, like Jane or Jayne, Elinor or Eleanor. It's that sort of mistake....but if you're replying to an email, it takes 2 seconds to scroll to check which spelling it is.
Yes, I'm precious about it. It's my NAME!! grin

Peppa87 Mon 18-Aug-14 12:06:16

As I imagine their services will probably require attention to detail, it would put me off.

Do you know who responds to their emails? It could've been some half arsed person perhaps doing the admin work, rather than the person providing the actual service you want, in which case it would be unfair to base their work on that.

If you really like the look of whatever they do, but don't feel confident because of this, perhaps ask for samples or see previous work something before committing?

GrapefruitILoveIt Mon 18-Aug-14 12:02:39

looking through the fog, I was at the bank effecting a transfer payment and the space allowed for text reference (so recipient would knwo who the payment was from was quite short) so I gave the name, supposing it was Juliette for Abseiling course. The girl at the bank told me 'oh that didn't fit, so I just put Abseilling Julie. So, great, everybody will now think that my name is Julie. Why not just put J Grapefruit.

DS2's named when shortened is the same as a shortening for another name. I have a good friend who lengthens it to the wrong name (e.g shortening is Ed, actual name is Edmund, friend thinks it's Edward kind of a thing). I have mentioned it ages ago but she hasn't remembered. It's now got to the point where he got a certificate of achievement at school from her (she is a Governor) and it has the wrong name on it. Oh dear.

OP I would give them another change. However if they are going to be spelling out your name in the decorating then you need to be sure they are going to get it right and tell them they have spelled your name wrong.

AnotherGirlsParadise Mon 18-Aug-14 11:35:54

My name gets spelled wrong frequently as it's unusual - I let people get away with it once. If they repeat the mistake, they just obviously aren't paying attention or are basically rude. I mean, if someone's name is unusual, copy and paste it! It's not hard to get it right.

I agree. My surname is Finnish and by all accounts, nigh on impossible to spell and pronounce. I've had to correct the spelling with the doctor's surgery, the local city hospital and even the electoral roll. I always make sure I block print my name very carefully and clearly when I hand-write it, but if it's in a web-based document, there's no excuse for not using cut and paste.

ADinnerofHerbs Mon 18-Aug-14 11:14:11

I get strange spellings of my first name and it is a bit annoying but it is more annoying when people cannot pronounce it. It is fairly simple to say but people cut off the last vowel and then my name becomes a man's name. A Nurse bellowed the masculine name across a packed waiting room just the other day. Prefixed by Mrs! All my life people have done this and even my nine year old now asks why people don't just pronounce it as it is spelt!!

LookingThroughTheFog Mon 18-Aug-14 11:01:31

I have an unusual Surname (Name A). When you say it out loud, it sounds the same as another name with a different spelling (Name B). It's also similar to a fairly common surname, but doesn't sound like it at all (Name C).

A lot of the time when you say Name A, and spell it out as you have to spell it out, you see people fighting the urge to write Name B. If I have to fill in a form and write my name in boxes, it will almost always come back converted to Name B or sometimes a strange amalgamation of Names A B and C as people try to work it out. I'm pretty used to both of these types of misspelling. It's not their fault I have a strange name.

The only time my name's ever spelled right is if I type it into a form myself.

A few months ago, I set up a subscription to a magazine. I typed my details into an online form, set up the payment on a card that, surprise surprise, has my name on it (Name A!).

I type my name a lot - it's second nature to me. I always type Name A.

When the magazine arrived some weeks later, it was marked as for Name C.)

Now this doesn't bother me - it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things and I want the magazine rather than the wrapper, but still it had me boggling.

At some point someone has gone through their database, seen my name and thought 'but there's no such name as that! She must have got it wrong! I know, I'll fix it for them by giving them an entirely random name...'

EndoplasmicReticulum Mon 18-Aug-14 10:59:48

If I was put off by every company who spelled my name wrong I'd hardly ever buy anything - as with Elephants above it's one letter different from a much commoner name so people always make an assumption.

First parents' evening at son's school I took a pen and changed it on his books!

ElephantsNeverForgive Mon 18-Aug-14 10:57:22

I'd never have been able to do or order anything if I'd worried about the spelling of my maiden name. It's one letter away from something a 1000x commoner and people always got it wrong.

Castlemilk Mon 18-Aug-14 10:47:30

No, absolutely YANBU.

On their very first communication with a potential new client, their attention to detail is shoddy? Of course I wouldn't use them.

This is what advertising is, surely? Catch the attention of your potential clients. Show them in as many ways as possible that you will be better, quicker, greater value for money.

That first email with you was one of their most important advertising points. That's where they really should be hooking you in. Friendly, professional, indicating to you that they can do the job.

Total fail.

mumeeee Mon 18-Aug-14 10:44:55

YABU. It was probably just a one off mistake. Perhaps it got changed by autocorrect in typing.

DaisyFlowerChain Mon 18-Aug-14 10:40:35

It wouldn't put me off, everybody can make mistakes.

However names don't bother me, I don't care if somebody calls me Miss or Mrs or even addresses me with my husbands name. Never understood the angst.

I once declined the services of a financial advisor who couldn't even spell her own company's name correctly!

My name gets spelled wrong frequently as it's unusual - I let people get away with it once. If they repeat the mistake, they just obviously aren't paying attention or are basically rude. I mean, if someone's name is unusual, copy and paste it! It's not hard to get it right.

MsAstronaut Mon 18-Aug-14 10:22:58

Yes it depends. I'm a terrible pedant but I have become more understanding about this since having DS who is dyslexic. I'm still not very impressed if schoolteachers, or educational institutions like museums, get spellings wrong, because it's possible to check carefully and they should. But people whose business doesn't involve writing/spelling/information, then I assume it's not one of their strengths.

However my address includes a word that people mis-spell all the time, including my own sister and several publishing companies that I work for. It's not a matter of being bad at spelling, because the mistake is always the same. It's that the word is unusual and people just assume it has a different spelling (and pronunciation) and go with their assumption.

I don't act on it but I do privately think it sorts the sheep from the goats. People who are just so sure they are right they don't bother to read properly. When someone has bothered to get it right they go up in my estimation.

RedToothBrush Mon 18-Aug-14 10:12:29

It depends on the business and what the competition was like. If it was a printers for example then this would be a massive no no for me and I wouldn't use them.

In this case, it being a wedding decorators, attention to detail is important, so it would definitely be a real concern to me. I would be looking at alternative companies, and seeing if there was anyone better out there. If there wasn't I would make a real issue about the error and make it very clear from the outset, that I expected a better level of service. I would also triple check everything and insist on things being in writing to avoid mistakes (so I could withhold payment if they did make a hash of it)

So no YANBU.

FoxSticks Mon 18-Aug-14 10:09:45

It is annoying but I guess I am understanding about it. My old boss who I look loved dearly and told me I was like a daughter to her didn't spell my name correctly in five years! Come to think of it the extended family don't get it right either grin

momnipotent Mon 18-Aug-14 09:58:06

I always take this as a general sign of lack of attention to detail so it makes me think twice about using a company. I wouldn't cut my nose off to spite my face, but if there was another company that I could use that did bother to spell my name correctly, then I would use them instead.

Squidstirfry Mon 18-Aug-14 09:52:33

I would have thought 'Precious much' really. But I suppose as it's for wedding stuff, they'll need to be able to spell names as a granted.

So in this instance YANBU but any other time YABU and precious.

StrawberryCheese Mon 18-Aug-14 09:48:25

Hmm not sure. Autocorrect changes my name so I have to let it go if it's misspelt in a certain way as it's obvious it's an accident. However if someone continues to pronounce my name wrong even though I have told them how to say it, then that's just rude. Strangely enough that was with a wedding supplier too.

FamiliesShareGerms Mon 18-Aug-14 09:43:10

Cross post!

FamiliesShareGerms Mon 18-Aug-14 09:42:15

Depends if it was misspelt in such a way that you think you're getting a generic email, when you're looking for a more personal service, or if it was a typo and their stuff is so lovely you'd be cutting your nose off to spite your face

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Mon 18-Aug-14 09:37:36

Sorry.
Other decorators' work isn't as good, you might be cutting off your nose to spite your face.

redexpat Mon 18-Aug-14 09:37:21

I think it shows either lack of attention to detail, or the fact that admin isn't their strong point, but perhaps they are kick ass decorators. It would put me off, but I wouldnt write them off just yet.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Mon 18-Aug-14 09:36:13

Same here Fox. I'm surprised when anyone spells it correctly.

It depends whether attention to detail is higher on your want list than 'love their stuff'. If you really like what they're offering and can't get it elsewhere, it might be better to email them telling them your concerns. If they can reassure you that they will get it right on the day and other

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