I'm having one of those moments when whenever I talk to the teachers school I feel as if I'm being totally unreasonable and overly precious about my kid, and then when I step away from them adn think about it I feel angry all over again, so would really appreciate some perspective.
We have moved abroad to a place that is very 'progressive' in educational philosophies. DS is 3, nearly 4 and has just started near the end of the academic year in a new preschool. He is the youngest in the class of 20 and all the other kids have been there since the start of the year (last september.) he is having some understandable problems settling in, which is normal and to be expected, but one thing is really bothering me. There is one kid who is constantly hitting him and taunting him (the kid is nearly 5 and quite big.) When DS first told me about it, I assumed it was normal kid behaviour, jsut a little overly aggressive, and mentioned it to the teacher. She said that this kid was always like that, and they had been working with him on his aggression issues all year, and that I just had to tell DS to handle it better/ tell him to stop etc. Over the course of the next couple of weeks, DS went from being a confident happy independent boy, to a wreck- constantly crying, desperate not to go to school, very clingy with me, telling me that this boy was hitting him and mean to him at school. I mentioned it again to the school and asked them if they had a no hitting policy, how they were handling it, and what was going on. They said that such a policy wouldn't be effective, and that they didn't want to make this kid feel like he was a bad person, and so they preferred to try and help him understand why he was hitting rather than stopping him/ telling him off/ using a firm tone, which they said was counterproductive. This seems very odd to me and I am devastated for DS who is losing confidence quickly and retreating into himself. I saw the other boy at a school picnic and saw him corner DS, start pushing him and laughing and taunting him in a systematic way until he cried, and then carried on laughing with his friends at DS.
AIBU in thinking the school should be taking a harder line? Any advice? I'm desperately worried.
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deliverdaniel · 18/08/2014 04:31
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