Me and DP have ended things. Lots of reasons. His, mainly. He doesn't find me attractive anymore (I had our daughter ten months ago and haven't managed to shift much weight while looking after our 4yo), he doesn't much like my personality anymore either (well, PND and me having the gall to resent him for not helping much around the house probably makes me a bit of a drag to be around).
It's early days, but long-term I don't want to live with someone who doesn't particularly like me let alone fancy me. He found this very surprising. He was expecting the arrangement to now be that we just co-parent in the same house, everything carrying on as normal except we're not a couple anymore.
I couldn't afford the rent on our house by myself, so I told him that by this time next year I'd like to have a deposit together for me and the children to find somewhere cheaper to live, instead of asking him to leave I'll leave myself.
So I'm irrational. Selfish. Nasty, because he won't see the children as much and all I'm doing is punishing him for no longer loving me. All I'm thinking of is myself and my feelings and I'm punishing everyone around me. He thinks we should just stay as we are, that I'll never be able to provide the same standard of living if I were to go it alone, and therefore I'm irresponsible.
So is he right? AIBU?
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To move out with our children because we've ended our relationship?
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DarthVadersAunty · 08/08/2014 13:14
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