Lots of past history PIL are nice people but massive favouritism to SIL and her family (although they do live closer so its easier for them to be involved).
We have no help at all and very rarely ask for help. We are going to wedding this weekend and we asked if PIL would come and look after DC aged 2.9 & 9 months. They agreed, it's MIL birthday so we checked they had nothing planned and they actually offered.
There is a bit of back story and built up feeling of resentment if I'm honest, last time they visited was in Jan (it's a 2hr train journey) they don't return our calls or FaceTime etc but they are amazing and involved grandparents with SIL family. Last time we went to visit (we went in march & June) they basically ignored us and our DC. All quite upsetting
So DH was hopeful for this weekend. They had booked thurs to tues to stay. Anyway in the last 48hrs plans have changed, they are now going back on the Monday, they have arranged to meet an old friend today and tomorrow when I'm bridesmaid at the wedding & it's the first time DC2 (10months) will be put to bed without me or DH PIL have arranged for aunties, uncles, there son & his girlfriend to come round. Nobody even asked the auntie just left a message on my voicemail.
I've said no to extended family coming as wanted them to concentrate on DC for just one day and esp as I'm worried about him going to sleep/staying to sleep (he is breasted & not very good with bottle) and he isn't too sure on who PIL never mind all extended family coming as well - I just didn't feel it was fair on him. I've said they can come on the Sunday instead (at least I will be here then)
Anyway PIL have arrived and its very frosty, MILbasicallynot speaking to us, they came last night and it was so awkward and this morning she has got up and not even said good morning to us! They are off visiting old friends today - rather than seeing their grandchildren. We had booked a birthday meal for MIL but considering cancelling now!
AIBU, maybe I am a bit overly previous but I would like them to spend some time on their own with grand kids. TBH I'm really upset that someone can be so rude to me in my own home - really want just kick them out!
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Albertatata · 08/08/2014 08:44
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