I will try to keep this brief. I can't make up my mind in AIBU or not as this happened to my Dsis.
There was a really drunk man on the train. He almost didn't get on but the mannies were keeping an eye on him. dsis initially had been asleep at the table with her boyfriend and his mum and dad. Her bf then moaned about being uncomfortable and asked Dsis to move. so Dsis moved to a seat of 2 by herself. About half an hour before they got in the man sat beside her and she was really scared. He had previously sat down next to another girl and She said to them all 'omg I feel so sorry for her'.
Bf's mum then gave the man crisps. The man said 'is this tie daughter' and then she said 'no it's his girlfriend'. The man then asked Bf (very politely considering how drunk he was) if he would like him to move. And bf said oh no it's totally fine.
Dsis mentioned when they got off the train that she wasn't entirely chuffed with that response because she very uncomfortable and wanted nothing less that to have a very drunk man dropping crisps all over her. Her bf then went in a huff saying that he could have been beaten up but considering it was the man that asked if he should move then that would be unlikely. Bf's mum then spoke to dsis about how Dsis could have moved and it's not fair on Steven who would have just been avoiding confrontation. Dsis merely pointed out that she was uncomfortable and if the situation
arose the take the drunken man up on his offer to move away from me. The bf and his family are now in the living room and Dsis in the bedroom. Bf's mum says that it has ruined the holiday.
Her bf is coming to bed and Dsis has just heard his mum saying 'now I don't want things to kick off'.
AIBU in thinking bf's mum should just stay out of it?
And AIBU to think Dsis bf should have moved to the single seat himself instead of asking a girl to make herself vulnerable like that?
Background: his mum has a habit of only seeing bf's side of things and telling Dsis she is wrong all the time.
Bf lives with Dsis without contributing to the household as he is a student.
None of bf's family drive but expect Dsis to run them around everywhere. She doesn't then they sulk.
This had been a holiday Dsis and bf had arranged then his family decided to come too, expecting Dsis to pay more towards this. Again Dsis said no, cue more sulking.
Dsis really loves bf. He is a nice guy but the apron strings are very tight and he is in no hurry to cut them. I think she should consider their future as bf's mum would be a 3rd person always in their relationship.
There is the added problem that our mum and dad have both passed away. Bf always asks his mum for advice instead of making decision by himself. Dsis feels rail-roaded into things without having her parents to run things past. Therefore everything they do is always done the way bf's family do things. No compromises. I think that will become a huge issue if they were to have kids.
AIBU to think Dsis should think carefully about continuing this relationship?
It is hard as I want to support her like my parents would but don't want to become overbearing like bf's mum.
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A single girl in the train felt vulnerable.
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dramajustfollowsme · 06/08/2014 02:37
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