My DM suffers from a multitude of illness. She has lupus, osteoporosis, ulcerative diverticulitis, heart attack years ago and just been diagnosed with a leaky valve and in March was diagnosed with alzheimers. She is on a lot of medication which is administered by district nurses morning and evening as in Feb she took an accidental overdose which culminated in her being admitted to hospital and as she lives on her own they put a care package in place. Meds are in a safe.
DM also eats very little and carers go in twice per day supposedly to encourage eat. In reality they do nothing partly because my DM refuses to let them and partly because they constantly change them so no sort of relationship is built up. It does however mean I have some comfort in the knowledge that she is seeing people plus they write how she is in the care diary so I have some idea of what is happening.
I live an hour away but phone at least 3 times per day and pop in one evening during the week after work and 1 day at weekends. I do all the shopping and pay all bills etc. Plus deal with all appointments and go to most routine hospital visits roughly two per month. Sorry but I am trying not to drip feed.
I appreciate I need to go to appointments when information needs to be retained. But for very routine ones such as mammogram etc I was led to believe by the Doctor from memory services that social services could just book a carer for a couple of hours to go with my DM. Hospital will provide transport so it should be so simple.
DM has to have an infusion on Wednesday and I cannot go due to work. SS are refusing to provide a carer to go with her. I said if it is a case of money to cancel mornings for a week as they don't do anything anyway and District Nurse is there but point blank no. Am I expecting too much? I feel ground down by the whole lack of support that has been ongoing.
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Ceasre · 02/08/2014 00:00
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