to not have special kids food at a wedding?

(62 Posts)
ikeaismylocal Fri 01-Aug-14 10:05:55

We are getting married next week, it only just came to my attention that people sometimes have a specific part of the buffet dedicated to "kids food" a friend of mine who is extremely limited in what he eats said "don't worry about doing something special for me I'll just take some food from the kids food section".

We weren't planning on having any "kids food" despite having 20 guests who are children, we have a toddler and he just eats normal food, it didn't really occur to me that there needed to be special kids food, there will be quite a selection of food including some quite plain options like pie and bread/crackers and cheeses.

Aibu to provide the same food for everyone? If we should provide food specifically for the kids what should it be?

CoffeeTea103 Fri 01-Aug-14 10:08:00

Yanbu, have never heard of this. Your friend sounds precious, her child can eat the 'adults' food. I wouldn't stress over this.

MrsWinnibago Fri 01-Aug-14 10:09:37

YANBU. Kids are humans and should be able to eat pie, bread, fruit and cake and cheese like adults!

Keep to your original plan, same food for everyone.

Kids food? I wonder what they mean.

CuttingOutTheCrap Fri 01-Aug-14 10:11:25

Wtf is kids food? confused I assume he means the more 'junk food' type foods? - mini pies, pizzas, cocktail sausages? I'm sure there'll be something to please him whatever you've chosen, if not I'm also your friend can survive on 'grown up food' for one buffet!

EarthWindFire Fri 01-Aug-14 10:11:32

YANBU. Stick to your plans smile

toomuchtooold Fri 01-Aug-14 10:12:46

Ask your friend what she would put in? I have no idea, am uncharitably thinking maybe it is.mini pizzas and fish fingers. My toddler would want a massive spread of blueberries and smoked salmon. The other one would take ham and ice cream. But no cheese. DT1no like cheese. DT1 like ham.

Sorry, I am not sure I'm being very helpful here!

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Fri 01-Aug-14 10:13:40

If you're having a sit-down meal people sometimes offer a plainer kid's choice, but I've never heard of that on a buffet. Surely that's the point of a buffet, lots of choices and people can pick the things they like?

Stick to the plan and have a wonderful day.

Gileswithachainsaw Fri 01-Aug-14 10:14:20

Yanbu.

Unless it's all squid and goats cheese and caviar I can't think what the hell you could be serving that he couldn't eat confused

mommy2ash Fri 01-Aug-14 10:14:23

if you have 20 kids there I would have had some bits you are sure they would eat. nobody wants a hungry child at a wedding. I wouldn't have much of an issue with my dd as she isn't really fussy but some kids are. maybe ask some of your guests if their kids will eat from the regular buffet

MyNameIsSuz Fri 01-Aug-14 10:14:46

My friend had this issue, her MIL wanted chips and nuggets for the children and was pretty horrified by the thought they might have to have the normal buffet (which was nothing unusual either). They didn't give in and I don't remember anyone having an issue. Don't worry about it! Though maybe give your friend a heads up if he's really that fussy so he can bring himself some snacks grin

Middleagedmotheroftwo Fri 01-Aug-14 10:15:41

Restaurants' and other catering establishments' ideas of kids' food is junk food. Cheapo nuggets, sausages, chips etc. I always used to ask for an extra small plate and we'd both give the DDs a bit of whatever we'd ordered.
I've never given them anything different to what we're eating, at home, or out and about.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Fri 01-Aug-14 10:16:55

And, unless it's for medical reasons, I wouldn't provide special food for fussy adults either.
If medical reasons, I'd ensure that several of the dishes at a buffet were suitable for the relevant condition.

beccajoh Fri 01-Aug-14 10:19:52

I've never heard of a kids food section at a buffet. Most people can find something to eat from a buffet! I wouldn't worry about it.

specialsubject Fri 01-Aug-14 10:20:29

do nothing beyond what you've done. If you offer some items without meat, some that are plain for those that don't like spicy tastes and some without nuts, that's all the options anyone needs.

same for drink - non-alcoholic and non-fizzy options for those who are thirsty.

if your mate has serious allergies or health issues, he'll know how to cope. Otherwise he can always bring a sandwich. :-)

littlewhitebag Fri 01-Aug-14 10:21:15

This is an actual adult we are talking about? He is being ridiculous.

What sort of stuff are you having on your buffet? i assume there will be some plainer stuff?

If parents have an extremely fussy eater like my DS1 wouldn't they bring extra snacks themselves for their DC? that's what I (and a lot of my friends) do. Just in case.

ikeaismylocal Fri 01-Aug-14 10:21:49

My friend really struggles with food, he doesn't eat pasta, pizza, rice, the only thong he'll eat when we go out and eat is a burger with nothing on it, no sauce, no lettuce. We don't have cooking facilities so I can't make him a burger, I asked what he could eat that could be on a cold buffet and he said please don't do something special, he's quite embarrassed about the things he can and can't eat. The wedding isn't until late afternoon/evening so maybe he plans to eat before the wedding.

I'll ask around my friends with kids if they are likely to eat standard buffet food, it's good to hear it's not a huge no-no not having specific kids food.

littlewhitebag Fri 01-Aug-14 10:25:14

He knows he is fussy so i suspect he will eat before he comes.

ElephantsNeverForgive Fri 01-Aug-14 10:25:23

Please make sure you have ham, cheese, bread, crackers and cocktail sausages and piles of ice cream.

I have one brilliant eater, with expensive tastes who would eat smoked salmon, prawns and quiche and drink champagne at three and one utter pain who still won't at 13.

5 minutes thought really can make your guests lives so, so much easier.

Likewise, lots of soft drinks and a bit of variety is really appreciated too.

Wantsunshine Fri 01-Aug-14 10:26:09

Just interested what is your friend limited by what she can eat or does she just only like bland or food with chips. Just being nosy really!

Wantsunshine Fri 01-Aug-14 10:26:59

Ignore my last have just refreshed thread

NurseRoscoe Fri 01-Aug-14 10:28:05

I wouldn't expect a special kids buffet although some plain food like breadsticks, simple-ish sandwiches, crisps, fruit, cold meat etc would be nice if children were invited, I have a 1 and 3 year old who eat most things although things like sushi, strong cheese and spicy chicken on bones and stuff they wouldn't eat and I would happily bring them a sandwich or something (if this isn't rude) rather than expecting the hosts to cater for them

TestingTestingWonTooFree Fri 01-Aug-14 10:28:30

I'm not quite as hard line as some posters, although it depends on what arrangements you've made. I take the view that 1. I'd like people to enjoy my wedding and 2. If I'm buying them dinner, I'd like them to eat/enjoy it. I'm a somewhat reformed fussy eater and have frequently gone for the veggie option at set dinners because I'm more likely to like it.

AnAwfullyGoodOxymoron Fri 01-Aug-14 10:30:17

I went to a 40th party where they had a separate buffet table for the kids. Not that they couldn't have anything from the adult one. Just that it was a small selection of finger foods on a lower display so the many 2 year olds could all reach it. Carrot sticks, cherry toms, sausage rolls, bread sticks, cubed cheese etc etc.

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