AIBU to be miffed at gift..

(64 Posts)
Squigglypig Fri 01-Aug-14 07:44:15

Well I probably am. It's our wedding anniversary. Neither of us have ever been great at gifts and we'd said to each other this year not to spend too much as we've just bought ourselves some new furniture.

Anyway his gift this morning to me was a set of writing pencils. I don't mind that, although I don't use them much.

No, the gutting but was when I read on the side "Squiggly Pig Accounts Lady". I hate the word "Lady" as it makes me think of toilets but worse is fact all he can think to get put on is what I do for a living! I am proud of my job but surely he could have found something better than that? We have daft nicknames he could have used. Frankly he could have written Squiggly Pig Is Awesome and that would have been better.

I don't know, it's not like I'm great at buying presents myself but being defined in his eyes as "Accounts Lady" is infinitely depressing.

CoffeeTea103 Fri 01-Aug-14 07:49:19

Yanbu, maybe he did it as a way of being affectionate and funny? I would be more upset to be given a pack of pencils.

ChippyMinton Fri 01-Aug-14 07:51:05

surely he meant it as a gentle joke and to take the pencils to use at work where you are the accounts lady?

look in the bright side, he went to the trouble of getting a personalised gift. what did you get him?

But maybe he thought that the pencils would be useful for your job, hence the connection?

ArgyMargy Fri 01-Aug-14 07:54:18

Is it your "wooden" anniversary ? I can't remember how many years that is but perhaps he was trying to buy you something nice made if wood? I think you are being a bit U.

What did you get for him?

Squigglypig Fri 01-Aug-14 07:55:00

Maybe, I think he knew it was a crap gift before I even opened it but I actually feel a bit offended that he couldn't think of something better to write.

And I have no idea what I'm going to do with 10 pencils. He suggested I took them to work. I rather sharply told him "I don't use pencils at work". Before turning over and staring at wall and sulking like a 5 yr old.

pippistrelle Fri 01-Aug-14 07:59:18

Yes, the personalised aspect suggests that he put in some time, effort and thought (although maybe not quite enough of the last...) And I expect he thought you'd use them at work rather than at home, so don't feel like it's a sad indictment of your relationship.

Some people just aren't very good at presents. My own DH recognises that I like clothes, so has a track record of buying me things that really aren't my style. (It's my birthday today, and I'm slightly afraid...)

Oh, and happy anniversary, OP.

Euphemia Fri 01-Aug-14 08:00:20

This would be my ultimate present. DH would get some serious lovin' that night. grin

Squigglypig Fri 01-Aug-14 08:01:21

Maybe, I think he knew it was a crap gift before I even opened it but I actually feel a bit offended that he couldn't think of something better to write.

And I have no idea what I'm going to do with 10 pencils. He suggested I took them to work. I rather sharply told him "I don't use pencils at work". Before turning over and staring at wall and sulking like a 5 yr old.

Toooldtobearsed Fri 01-Aug-14 08:03:49

Many a birthday/ anniversary was spoilt in this house in the early days of our marriage because I would try to be imaginative when choosing gifts for DH. He did not appreciate some of them, and let me know. 'Oh, a bike......okay'. I would then be upset that I had got things wrong.
Whether it is a crap present or not, fgs do not sulk. He has tried. It is horrible to be on the other side.
We laugh about it now, but I still remember the stomach dropping moment of realisation.

Ragwort Fri 01-Aug-14 08:04:45

What did you give him?

Seriously, present giving is a nightmare and my DH & I have long given up exchanging presents - despite being married over 25 years neither of us ever gets it quite right and I am the first to admit that I have never really chosen a 'perfect' gift for him.

chocolatemademefat Fri 01-Aug-14 08:06:09

My birthday presents usually consist of flowers from a garage forecourt, CD's I already have or a promise to 'buy me something at the weekend' which is then completely forgotten. Despite the fact I make a big deal of everyone else's birthdays!

At least he went to the trouble of a personalised gift......hmm

Squigglypig Fri 01-Aug-14 08:06:34

Sorry posted twice. Yes perhaps he thought it was for work and I'm being over sensitive. I am being over sensitive/unreasonable but I will be chucking them in bin when I get home.

Ragwort Fri 01-Aug-14 08:06:40

Tooold - totally agree with what you said, I too remember the tears of disappointment in the early days of marriage (love your user name btw grin - my sentiments exactly !!!)

ginslinger Fri 01-Aug-14 08:09:13

Ah, Squiggly I'm sorry that the present wasn't what you wanted but he thought about it, he pushed a thought into action and okay, it ended up being the wrong thing but it was done through love. He loves you, it's your anniversary. Write him a note with one of the pencils.

Euphemia Fri 01-Aug-14 08:10:05

At least throw them in the bin at work so he doesn't see.

Toooldtobearsed Fri 01-Aug-14 08:11:02

Ragwort 'tis the best thing about getting oldergrin.
With 35 years of marriage under my belt (I was a child bride), it is funny to see how little things change.
If only we knew then what we know now eh?

Squigglypig Fri 01-Aug-14 08:11:42

Oh god, sorry I thought I'd posted but yes it's our wooden anniversary and I gave him one of those chopping boards with grooves in that catches the meat juices as it's something he always mentions when we've having a roast. I did say I was just as crap.

PlacidApricots Fri 01-Aug-14 08:12:15

Why though, is she not allowed to show her displeasure at home, just tell him 'don't buy me pencils, I am a grown up I'm allowed to use pens now you know.'

ChippyMinton Fri 01-Aug-14 08:12:56

Wooden anniversary - YABU smile

Missunreasonable Fri 01-Aug-14 08:13:22

Maybe he doesn't like his gift either and will also put it in the bin.

ginslinger Fri 01-Aug-14 08:13:52

the pencils are made of wood? a pen wouldn't be.

Missunreasonable Fri 01-Aug-14 08:14:10

The chopping board is worse. At least he personalised your gift.

scrivette Fri 01-Aug-14 08:14:15

Ahh that would be a perfect present for me! I think that he tried to do something different, it just didn't quite work!

whereisshe Fri 01-Aug-14 08:14:27

The way forward is no presents or indeed remembering it's your anniversary. That's what we do, it's very liberating.

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