to not like people swearing in public?

(103 Posts)
carlajean Wed 30-Jul-14 19:34:38

We had lunch outside a pub today. There were three guys at the only other table, which was very close to ours, and there was a fair amount of 'fucking this' and 'fucking that' going on. It was just me and my partner, no children, but I feel uncomfortable when people do this, and it spoilt what was otherwise a nice meal.
I swear myself, but not in those circumstances.
Perhaps we should have said something- but we didn't because we didn't know how they'd react.
Aibu to not like this, and would you have challenged them?

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 30-Jul-14 19:36:53

I hate it too I find it intimidating even if its not got anything to do with me. My neighbours have been out in their garden a lot during the nice weather and every other word is a swear word, I swear myself but not constantly and not shouting it in the middle if the street

CatKisser Wed 30-Jul-14 19:37:54

Well, it's a pub so surely not entirely unexpected that people will be swearing?
I agree when it's every other word though. Just makes people look <whispers> common. grin

punygod Wed 30-Jul-14 19:38:42

Adults sitting outside a pub?

Swearing will happen. I suggest you don't go to pubs if you don't want to hear swearing.

it's a good job you didn't follow me round Go Ape a few days ago blush

Yanbu not to like it but yabu not to expect it in that setting...

dawndonnaagain Wed 30-Jul-14 19:46:59

I swear like a trooper. I am anything but common.

Smilesandpiles Wed 30-Jul-14 19:57:34

I just don't like people. Let alone that crap they say.

henrysmate Wed 30-Jul-14 20:01:15

In a play park, yes, you'd have a point. In a pub you're not really on strong ground, it's an adult place. YABU.

Freckletoes Wed 30-Jul-14 20:03:13

I too swear like a trooper but don't out in a pub or restaurant. Not necessary!

Namechangearoonie123 Wed 30-Jul-14 20:04:38

I swear lots.

But not in public, I'm just not scumbaggy enough

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat Wed 30-Jul-14 20:06:22

There's the difference between the odd expletive and people that fucking use the fucking word fucking as a fucking adjective though

londonrach Wed 30-Jul-14 20:06:39

I hate this. Just think it shows the person has limited words... grin

whatshallwedo Wed 30-Jul-14 20:22:32

I hate hearing people swear in public mainly because dd aged 2 is likely to repeat what she hears.

I also wouldn't have a problem asking someone to tone down their language if we were in a family friendly place. A pub however, I would just move is away from them.

CarryOnDancing Wed 30-Jul-14 20:25:13

Hmm I don't know, MIL and FIL use flippin as every other word-even when talking about something positive - and even without children around. I think I'd rather they just used the proper word like adults!

CarryOnDancing Wed 30-Jul-14 20:25:58

Note the lack of a "g" on "flippin" too. Argh drives me fucking mad!!

Nanny0gg Wed 30-Jul-14 20:26:55

Just because they're adults sitting outside a pub it doesn't necessarily follow that there has to be swearing.

Not that long ago, language would be tempered due to the setting and the audience.

It's sad that's no longer the case.

Bowlersarm Wed 30-Jul-14 20:27:39

I hardly ever swear.

You would be very unreasonable to pull them up on it.

Bowlersarm Wed 30-Jul-14 20:28:56

It's nothing to do with being 'common'.

Nanny0gg Wed 30-Jul-14 20:29:18

Hmm I don't know, MIL and FIL use flippin as every other word-even when talking about something positive - and even without children around. I think I'd rather they just used the proper word like adults!

I don't know if your in-laws are the same age as me, but 'flippin' ' (without the 'g') was a very common word used by most adults. It wasn't only used as a euphemism for 'fucking'.

riverboat1 Wed 30-Jul-14 20:29:46

YANBU, I don't like it either. I swear but not at length and loudly in public. But I don't think it's really something that you would be justified in pulling them up on. Or that you'd be likely to get an obedient reaction if you did.

CarryOnDancing Wed 30-Jul-14 20:50:12

Ooo Nanny, so I may have been misinterpreting the IL's for all this time?
What does it mean when it's not a euphemism? Please don't tell me it means "amazing" or something when I've been silently judging them!

SlicedAndDiced Wed 30-Jul-14 20:51:53

I don't like it.

Obviously I'm a huge hypocrite because I do it (but in private, never in front of kids etc.)

Have you tried a more, ahem, up market pub?

Mintyy Wed 30-Jul-14 20:52:48

Yanbu. I don't mind swearing, quite often do it myself, but people who swear all the time, loudly and in public are tossers.

dawndonnaagain Wed 30-Jul-14 22:15:55

Have you tried a more, ahem, up market pub?
That would be the one where you'd get twice the swearing at twice the volume.

Nanny0gg Wed 30-Jul-14 22:20:42

No Carryon you use it instead of saying something stronger, usually because you'd never dream of saying something stronger.

So it's a 'real' word IYSWIM.

I was never allowed to use it as a child!!

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