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to be fed up with everyone's holiday pics/brags on FB?(127 Posts)
In the old days, you sent a postcard or were shown someone's holiday snaps after they'd returned from holiday. Now with the advent of social media, I can't turn on my FB without a constant feed of shots of manicured feet in front of a swimming pool, blue sea and beaches, marinas with big boats, interiors of plush villas etc. All very much 'look how lucky I am' blah, blah. Some are posting a pic EVERY DAY with a description of what they got up to.
I just keep thinking of all of those that can't afford a holiday and I just can't get over the constant bragging, it seems so vulgar. Or is it just me?
Yes, I know I can stop looking, perhaps I should. But there's some other stuff I like seeing in it.
I'm on a lovely holiday right now but wouldn't share picks as I worry about people knowing I'm away and fb security etc.
I take it all with a pinch of salt. I generally like many Facebook posts, and often know that life can be complicated behind the happy smiley posts, my own included.
Well I agree with you OP...if they are funny, great, but hundreds of photos with no irony or funny side is deadly dull.
No, I read the previous posts you made. I just don't happen to agree, thats all.
Jeez Louise! Well it is clear that most of you haven't read my comments upthread. Yes, I accept we're all different and I am clearly more private than most, however it wasn't holiday photos per se, but the NATURE of some of the pics, the Instagram type ones that IMO do come across as bragging. I'm not the only one to notice this.
Luckily I CAN afford lovely holidays and I am not jealous, just bewildered, I wondered how it would come across to others that couldn't, but I was proved wrong.
In life, there will always be people more intelligent, successful, richer, slimmer, prettier, confident, etc, etc.
Deal with it.
I see Facebook as a great way of keeping in touch with those that, on a day to day basis I don't see or talk to as much as I would like. Given most Facebook friends are people I knew through school/college/uni/work/social groups etc I see my Facebook posts as the kind of thing I would share if they were with me. Funny anecdotes, few holiday pics, days out. Either that or sharing with people who were with me so they have the pics too.
The less happy stuff I keep to close friends, just as I do in everyday life. When I am quiet on Facebook close friends generally know I am on a bit of a downer.
I like to see other's posts on the same basis. So yes some people over post and I skim through them,I think some people do try and brag but that says more about them than me (would question why they feel the need) anyone who posts offensive stuff gets unfriended/defollowed but generally I love seeing what people are up to. I might occasionally feel envious but I guess I would have done in real life anyway.
I really enjoy Facebook. I love Timehop too to see what was happening a year ago.
Wise words (I thought) off another thread 'don't compare everyone else's highlights to your behind the scenes'.
Exactly sebsmummy. I love taking photos and at the end of a day I upload to my iPad and see what I have. It is the work of seconds to press upload to FB. You don't have to look at them. If it says Delph has added 12 photos you can see the first one and scroll past.
Thing is you have your phone on you all the time and can upload photos instantly, do it's not as though it's any faff or hassle at all, hence why you end up with daily timelines.
Seriously for those people getting upset by it then social media isn't for you, take some time out. When life cheers up and you have some photos you want to share you'll be amazed how differently you view FB etc. Suddenly it's a cheerful friendly medium again and not full of braggers and stealth boasts.
Plane wing after plane wing after plane wing...
Yabu, get a grip.
I have a few friends who share loads of photos of their kids and I like it. At least kids are funny and cute, posting 38 photos of the ducks, swings and the grass is dull as hell unless you're an arty photographer.
"Would you walk into someone's lounge & say 'please don't show me your holiday photos, it is bragging & vulgar" just because you can't afford one?"
I think real life is a bit different to FB. Online, you're 'talking to' a wider audience. I'd be a bit miffed I went to a friend's and they showed me hundreds of photos of their hols if I was having a really tough time financially and struggling to hold it together. A friend saying "let me show you a hilarious photo of me trying to dive in a pool" is different to "let me show you 678 photos of the beach, pool and hotel and 3 of me and the kids". On FB, I understand it's their space to share as they see fit. In the same way, I wouldn't go on and on about my fab new job to my friend who is the process of being dismissed. It's about being sensitive in RL.
You can be fed up if you want but I personally haven't had an 'abroad' holiday for over 5 years and I am perfectly happy. We try to get away to MiLs caravan once a year but if we cant then theres plenty of other things we can do. Personally I would look at these snaps of holiday villas and hotel rooms and think 'bugger packing all that again'.
I like seeing peoples holiday pics. I have a friend who crews a boat around the Caribbean, her photos are gorgeous. Another friend spends six months a year travelling everywhere
the lucky sod, I am happy for him, and love seeing his photos!
Mind you I got told off for boasting on fb once by a friend who was aggrieved that I was posting too many photos of us having fun in the sun (bbqs etc) , and was obviously trying to rub peoples noses in it. I live in Australia FFS, what do you want me to do? If you don't want to see my photos, scroll on, my family and real friends do!
Bread that made me laugh out loud xxx
amy has added 79 photos to the album walk to the pond.
We might be friends with the same people. Sophie has added 122 photos to the album Lucas sits in a shopping trolley for the first time? Claire has added 43 new photos to the album Magnus holds a spoon with his left hand for the first time.
Lying in bed chuckling to myself.
So just because you can't afford a holiday (I can't either), you don't think people should be able to post about theirs, in a place that is theirs?
Would you walk into someone's lounge & say 'please don't show me your holiday photos, it is bragging & vulgar" just because you can't afford one?
We all have our things that irritate us about fbook I certainly do. I personally don't enjoy seeing people having public slanging matches on there or having a snide dig at someone. I also hate the mysterious (attention seeking) "Well, at least I know who my real friends are." and then nothing type of post.....that is kind of annoying. However, I just ignore them.
For me fbook is hugely entertaining. I LOVE the funny pics, reading people's news and random observations on life, I love the campaigns and the way I am now in touch with nearly everyone in my extended family reaching across the globe. It is brilliant.
I wouldn't feel jealous, I can afford my own holidays, it's just that when there are lots of photos its the online equivalent of talking about yourself too much/ being a bore. Depending on the approach and depending on the person.
To those asking how many pictures do you have to wade through before you get bored, well in my news feed it says something like Amy has added 79 New photos to the album 'walk to the pond'. Now, I've walked to that pond before and don't think theres anything along that route particularly worth taking a photo of, so I'll just scroll on past it. Nothing against Amy, I still like her, she's still my friend, I just happen to know she likes taking 10 photos of her dc in the same pose, so I'm guessing the New photo album won't be of interest to me.
That's the beauty of Facebook, you, can ignore anything you don't want to see.
It's good if they are funny or interesting .
But it's a bit annoying if they are posey and braggy.
I use fb to upload holiday photos, not to brag but to have a record of my holiday in case I lose or break my phone.
But by the same token 90 per cent of my fb friends post special night out/holiday photos.
I compare my "holiday bragging" to those who put photos of their lovely houses on, we will never own our own home. So to be jealous of someone else's fortune is men spirited.
Andsmile you can just post to her though or use Flickr. I delete people that post to many photos. A couple a week great anymore is strange.
We all need to start watermarking pics for the bitter among us.
"This pic is just to share the fun I'm having. It is not in anyway a comment on your life, a boast or some insult directed at you or your way of living!"
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