To be grateful for having a boy so I don't have to worry about ponytails, plaits, braids and bows!!!

(58 Posts)
BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 15:02:42

Was out today and saw a mum desperately pulling on dd's fine hair (aged 10 months) to put it into one of those micro ponytails like Yorkshire terriers wear whilst her dd screamed and squirmed. Then finished it off with a clip on bow. I can't do a french plait (my girls world head of hair was clearly wasted on me) and I just think those tiny weeny sprouts of hair look ridiculous. I feel blessed I have a boy as in the country where I live, bows, bands and clips are de-rigeur from birth for girls.

CruCru Tue 29-Jul-14 20:11:02

I've had DD's hair cut into a pixie cut. However, she is 9 months so hasn't yet expressed a preference.

BocaDeTrucha Tue 29-Jul-14 20:02:52

bigboobiedbertha, you've got it exactly.... When he's old enough to do his own hair, he can do what he likes and spend all the time in the world on it, but whilst he's of the age where he's asking me to do it, I can't imagine him asking me for French plaits etc, thank god!! Not that I don't like them, I just can't do them!!!

It's the Yorkshire terrier-esquema micro tails I just simply dislike.

wigglesrock Tue 29-Jul-14 19:38:02

I have 3 daughters, they all have short fringed bobs until they are hold enough to put it up themselves. My 9 year old has long hair, my 6 year old has started to grow it out and my 3 year old can stick a hair band in herself. I can't say I've ever found it that big a thing.

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 18:41:28

I cant do bunches\pigtails I always ended up unevev

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Tue 29-Jul-14 18:41:26

The key to these styles is a good you tube video. There are loads of tutorials on there and I have found some really good ones.
I can now do a French plait, or as DD calls it Frozen hair!

Ah but OP, dont you know that a tight ponytail is The best protection against nits!!

Clam, another mom of girls that is rubbish at hair. I can do a decent high ponytail. Never mastered French braid, and even have problems with two plaits/ponytails as I never get equal amounts of hair in both... And I use the 'just blast it dry' method with the hair dryer without using a hairbrush.

DD1(12) is showing signs of also being useless with hair, but DD2 (10) can at least dry her hair and try straighten it with brush at same time, so she is showing promise!!

MrsPnut Tue 29-Jul-14 17:29:18

DD2 has a very short bob, no effort required and she can brush it herself - which is just as well after the nightmare of dealing with DD1's hair.

Ledkr Tue 29-Jul-14 17:20:55

Dd2 has a head of orange curls that I ignore for as long as possible before tackling it with bribery and threats.
The mere mention of a plait or pony tail sends her into a meltdown of "idonwannaponytailinmyairmommy"
So I don't bother.

itsbetterthanabox Tue 29-Jul-14 17:18:11

If the girl has long hair just brush it and put it in a ponytail for school. If it's short then it's the same as most boys. Lots of boys have long hair too. Short hair can be just as annoying as you have to get it cut much more frequently.

Laundryangel Tue 29-Jul-14 17:17:49

2yo DS likes to have his bunches put in every morning like his 4yo sister. As he has a traditional boy hair cut, this was causing me more misery than doing his sister's long, fine, wavy hair was, especially when he started throwing a tantrum if I used the wrong bobbles, put the bobbles in the wrong place etc. I had a major victory the other day when we were in the supermarket & I spied some Peppa Pig hair slides and said I would buy those as a treat if he used those rather than bobbles. It now takes seconds. Like the bobbles were, these are handed to me each morning just before we go out to the car to go out for the day or to nursery.

MrsRogerSterling Tue 29-Jul-14 17:17:03

I have 2 dd's aged 7 and 3 and have never had to worry about ponytails or plaits, they both have bob's. I love bob's on little girls, so cute and no effort required, both have a selection of hairbands to wear if they feel the need for an accessory.

I think it's quite cool too, Idontsee - so I am rather torn between 'Oh how cool' and 'Oh my god, my baby's perfect skin is going to be ruined!' I think it is going to be quite expensive (someone who knows about this sort of thing has said minimum £300) - and he has pretty expensive taste in clothes etc, so I am hoping it will take him a long, long time to save up for it!

Happydaysatlastforthebody Tue 29-Jul-14 17:09:43

Ha ha op. My teen dss spent just as long and just as much money on hair products as their teen dd sisters.

As said up thread gender is no barrier to hair drama.

imip Tue 29-Jul-14 17:04:30

4 dds here, dd1 beautiful long head of hair. She's 7, but it'd make an adult weep. Grows like wildfire. Very girly-girl. I always put her hair up for school because of nits.

Dd2 6 she's a tomboy (apparently). A short bob, but grows like wildfire, so it frequently touches her shoulders before it gets cut again. It's very, very thick. Suits her short unlike dd1 who could probably wear it anyway.

Dd3 has really fine hair. Terrible, but she is girly girl also and wants it like rupunzel, apparently. Fucking rupunzel...

Dd4 is 2.5. It's probably chin length. Can't really tell what type of hair she will have yet.

I'm pretty fussy and like their hair up when at school/nursery, because I have suffered the hell that was all of us getting nits. And <whispers> doing little girls' hair is my guilty pleasure!

Mine is long too, btw. I have a theory that mums and daughters tend to have similar hair styles. Though, I tend to be a chameleon...

Thurlow Tue 29-Jul-14 17:00:39

YANBU.

One of my very first thoughts, on finding out we were having a girl, was to wail "but I don't know how to do plaits!!!"

However you can keep it in a bob and just scrape it into a ponytail or clip the fringe back as necessary. It's not too hard. Yet.

I am going to refuse to let her grown out said fringed bob until she is old enough to wash, dry and style her hair herself. This is genuinely going to be one thing I am not going to budge on, especially as she seems to have inherited my irritatingly fine but thick hair.

YANBU. I ordered 2 boys for that very reason. wink

I have barely ever combed their hair since the day they were born (it doesn't really need it tbh). I have enough trouble with my own without worrying about theirs!

And for all who say that their DS spends more time on their hair than the average girl, that is the point. They spend their time. Their mothers don't have anything to do with it. It is those formative years when the child's hair is the mother's responsibility that the OP is talking about. If my boys want to have a perm, dye their hair purple and have a mohawk they are welcome to do that (when they have finished school) just so long as I don't have to do it. They can wear a powdered wig too - DS1 would look very fetching with ringlets.

CrumblyMumbly Tue 29-Jul-14 16:56:05

Snap Skylander1 - I feel quite relieved if I've managed to wash my dds hair without her scaring the neighbours with her screams. There's no way she would even have a pony tail let alone clips/hairbands etc. I feel quite sad when I see all the pretty hairstyles at nursery.

Idontseeanyicegiants Tue 29-Jul-14 16:47:45

Oh god don't mention tattoos! He's currently counting down the days until he's old enough to get one of his own, only 4.5 more years to go grin
Your DS's idea sounds rather cool though.. wink

Heathcliff27 Tue 29-Jul-14 16:47:09

YABU, my son takes longer to get ready than my two daughters put together, if I were you I would reserve judgement until he's older

Skylander1 Tue 29-Jul-14 16:46:24

I have a three year with beautiful golden curly hair, it's beautiful at least once a week anyway, rest of the time it's just a frizzy mess.

Clam - snap. She also told her pony club instructor for good measure.

It's not me. It's her wriggly hair. <<stamps foot>>

clam Tue 29-Jul-14 16:39:28

My dd told her whole class that her mum was "rubbish at hair."
Her teacher told me. blush

EndoplasmicReticulum Tue 29-Jul-14 16:35:25

Oh I don't know, I have a son who hates haircuts. He wriggles and cries and flinches, have managed to take him to the barbers once and he refuses to go again.

He's 9. Hair is now getting a bit long, so will need to work on the plaiting soon I think.

Ericaequites Tue 29-Jul-14 16:34:28

For school neckties, teach your daughter to take it off by loosening at her neck, the way drunks do. Then, one just has to pull on the short end to dress again. My brother did this in school, as he has dyslexia and dyspraxia, although only diagnosed with the former.

DefiniteMaybe Tue 29-Jul-14 16:23:21

I love playing with my dds hair but she's not so keen. We've been practicing keeping pigtail french plaits in her hair ready for starting school in September, I've got it down to taking 8 minutes which when added to helping her with her shirt and tie is going to make us in a rush every morning.

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