To think that if everyone stopped having weddings everyone's life would be easier.

(47 Posts)
Pipbin Mon 28-Jul-14 23:04:41

I am happily married, and I like the whole 'being married' thing but will everyone just stop it with weddings?

Half the threads of AIBU seem to be about going to or having weddings. People who are invited to some bits but not other bits, people going to hen nights or stag dos, or not going to hen nights or stag dos.............

I think that if you want to get married then fine but will everyone stop with the weddings and related shit-storms.

Teddybeau1988 Mon 28-Jul-14 23:07:39

DH and I eloped. ( although we had to have a formal reception to keep our mothers reasonably happy and to give them their time in the spotlight)

King1982 Mon 28-Jul-14 23:27:11

YABU, to dictate what should or shouldn't be posted about.

The thing that pisses me off about weddings is the personal cost for guests. Stag/hen dos and wedding weekends seem to getting more and more expensive. Plus the days off work to attend these events eats in to holiday/paid leave.

HaroldLloyd Mon 28-Jul-14 23:28:47

People are miserable buggers about weddings on here.

Go, or don't go, it's an invite not a summons.

NewtRipley Mon 28-Jul-14 23:29:11

I think people should realise their wedding is less important to everyone else than it is to them, and not feel offended or hurt by that

NewtRipley Mon 28-Jul-14 23:30:10

And guests should realise that weddings are more important to the bride and groom than they are to them, so be a bit sensitive.

NewtRipley Mon 28-Jul-14 23:30:36

Basically, everyone should just grow up a bit

RudyMentary Mon 28-Jul-14 23:30:46

I love weddings and don't get invited to enough

Wheelerdeeler Mon 28-Jul-14 23:32:20

I've a wedding this Friday. Will be a good day out but expensive (new dress, hair, gift, taxi home, day off). And a wedding the following week. Can wear same dress but involves overnight stay.

It isn't easy to just refuse an invite. If it was, we'd all do it.

ICanSeeTheSun Mon 28-Jul-14 23:33:11

Hopefully people only get married once, then they should have the wedding they want.

Guest don't have to go

HaroldLloyd Mon 28-Jul-14 23:34:46

No I wouldn't refuse them all, because I like to celebrate things with my friends, and if your not good enough friends with them to want to go then it should be easy enough to not go.

Unless it's stupidly expensive then I have no qualms in saying no I just can't afford it.

HaroldLloyd Mon 28-Jul-14 23:35:29

EG if a wedding is on a work day and you don't want to habe a day off, perfect excuse, no time off.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Mon 28-Jul-14 23:40:37

When you're my age, weddings are the only chance you get to boogey on down.....
and embarrass the bejezus out of your kids
sad

BackforGood Mon 28-Jul-14 23:51:33

I love being invited to weddings, but I only seem to know normal people, who don't have ridiculous expectations of their guests, and I also understand that the way the day pans out might not be the way I'd have chosen to do it, but it's not my wedding, so I go along with an open mind, and I always have a nice time.

I do enjoy the threads on here though, for the entertainment values, even though I am convinced a good proportion of them HAVE to be made up.

Boleh Mon 28-Jul-14 23:54:42

What Harold said, their 1st post was the most sensible thing I've read about weddings on here!

Oh, and YABU, you had your wedding but now don't want other people to have one too hmm

Pipbin Tue 29-Jul-14 00:14:24

Of course I'm not trying to dictate what people post this is /lighthearted/ ladies.

What I'm saying is that they seem to cause do much worry and stress to so many people we just should stop them all together. This a humerous observation and not to be taken with any kind of serious intent.

Lally112 Tue 29-Jul-14 00:22:02

People should just elope, no pleasing others, no awkward threads about money or a gift, kids or no kids, plus ones or no plus ones etc. just bugger off and do it if you want to.

MrsD0nnaLyman Tue 29-Jul-14 00:23:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Squtternutbaush Tue 29-Jul-14 00:27:29

We're being boring, afternoon at registry office with close family then back to my mums for a few drinks and some food.

Too many people get caught up in the wedding day and forget its about the marriage IMHO.

LittlePeaPod Tue 29-Jul-14 00:30:55

I have to say, I can't remember the last time I saw so many threads about weddings. DH and I cancelled our UK wedding because MIL and my mother wanted to invite random people we didn't really know. Also people moaning about us wanting a child free wedding. We basically told them all that the UK wedding was off. DH and I had booked an amazing wedding abroad in the Seychells and we were blowing the entire budget our cash not parents on that wedding and the honeymoon.

Lots of pissed of people but to be frank DH and I didn't care less. The wedding was about us not the guests and my MIL/my mother. 12 months on they have all got over it not that I would be bothered if they hadn't.

HaroldLloyd Tue 29-Jul-14 08:09:12

The wedding threads give me inner rage, I don't know why.

I've not even had a wedding. grin

indigo18 Tue 29-Jul-14 08:22:09

Some brides seem to see their wedding as a way of excluding/annoying/thwarting the ideas of their mother. Some doubtless have valid reasons but for the rest, I hope this comes back and bites you on the bottom when your own spoiled, pampered DC plan their weddings and your views are not worthy of consideration.
No, not bitter, we haven't got to the wedding stage yet.

LittlePeaPod Tue 29-Jul-14 08:58:42

Personally I will support whatever my DD does on her wedding day if she decides to get married I certainly won't be dictating anything. What I learned from planning my UK wedding which we cancelled was it's really not about anyone but the B&G.

To this day I still don't understand why anyone would think otherwise. [cobfused]

callamia Tue 29-Jul-14 09:06:32

I love weddings! A big old party with my friends - what's not to like?

I am amazed at the faff that people get into about attending them though. That, and joyfully, my friends' weddings have all been pretty much free from controversy.

Mrsjayy Tue 29-Jul-14 09:23:31

I really didnt realise people got so arsey about weddings they really think they are the important ones that everywhim should be considered go dont go you were invited but you are not the vip, have to admit wedding threads are hilarious I love them my favourites are when the B & G have the audacity to only invite to the evening do grin

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