To think it would be nice to be offered a drink if DH is making one?

[JuanFernandezTitTyrant]

He says I should ask if I want one. But a) I often don't know until he's coming back with his drink and b) isn't the nice thing to do to offer? It's what I do if I'm making one for me.

[PickleSarnie]

YANBU.

LTB.

[picnicbasketcase]

YANBU. My DH always assumes that because I don't drink coffee very often, there's no point him asking if I want one when he's making one for himself. But I do drink it sometimes, and the offer would be nice!
He should return the favour if you ask him when you get yourself a drink.

[JuanFernandezTitTyrant]

I'm glad you think so. It's such a little thing, but it drives me potty.

[Jinty64]

YANBU. Just make your own next time. See how he likes it.

[Scrumbled]

If he does this regularly I'd stop making him one.

[Thurlow]

YANBU. Well, not so much with a cold drink unless you are making something more exciting than a glass of squash. But I thought it was law to ask anyone else in the house if you were making a hot drink?

I'd stop doing something else small and petty to annoy him too. Like making a sandwich without telling him you're having lunch.

[KillmeNow]

How about you making yourself a meal and not one for him. After all he didnt ask you for it.

[JuanFernandezTitTyrant]

Wife drinks service shall henceforth cease. See how he likes it

[HecatePropylaea]

I agree.

Once you stop doing it, if he says anything, you can point it out to him.

petty but satisfying.

[susiedaisy]

Yanbu my exh used to only make himself a drink even if I was only in the other room. It's rude and selfish IMO.

[SisterNancySinatra]

My DS threatened to leave home a few months back after we had a terrible row over him
Making a cup of tea and not offering one to me, he's mother, who he saw was busy watering the garden. It didn't matter that I was in garden I should of been offered a cup of tea. My DH did say I was in the right but wouldn't be drawn into argument.

[notallytuts]

my rule of thumb is that if it would take less time for me to ask than to make the cuppa, then I would offer

So in our small terraced house, if DP is in the attic and id have to trek up two flights of stairs to ask him, I wouldnt bother. If hes in the next room, I would.

But I am maybe a little selfish about offering because DP rarely thinks to make one, but will always have one if I'm making them..

[WitchWay]

My DH never makes me a drink. He never makes himself one either. He just doesn't bother but will always have one if I offer

[brotherhoodofspam]

I fell out quite badly with DH about this exact thing not very long ago even though it send so petty. I always make coffee for both of us in the morning every single day while he walks the dog. One morning I was later coming for breakfast as I was sorting laundry and he came back from his walk and made himself a cup and not one for me. I was so cross I couldn't hide it - just felt unappreciated. So I understand. He's never fine out since!