Nanny etiquette

[Agggghast]

I currently have my DB's 3DC and their nanny staying with me for two weeks whilst my SIL is staying with her mother who is recovering from surgery. She is a lovely woman inher early 20's who is brilliant with the children. She asked me if her boyfriend could come down to stay for the couple of days she will have off. I am happy for that but does he just stay in her room? At the moment she is in one bedroom but next door to the room the DC are sleeping in. I have a guest room, quite basic, which is over the garage, would it be better for her to sleep there whilst he is here or do I just put him in there? I doubt the children will notice she is elsewhere, they come into my bed if they wake in the night. I don't want to bother my SIL with this since she is having a difficult time but don't want to upset her. I asked DB who said I should do what I want and he didn't know! He arrives SUnday so I would be grateful for advice

[emsyj]

She's in her 20s, she's an adult - I would just ask her if she would prefer that her boyfriend stays in her room or would she rather they have more privacy and share the guest room over the garage. She can make her own decision. Are you worried the DCs might hear them shagging??

[Purplepoodle]

I would ask her. I know if it was me I would really appreciate someone offering me a little more privacy with my bf on my days off. Prob give you a little space too

[Agggghast]

Yes I am worried about the children hearing/ walking in. I didn't have a nanny so I am unsure as to whether my SIL would expect her to sleep near the children though since it is her time off I feel it would be better for her to be out of the house and be able to relax. I will ask her tomorrow. Thank you for your replies.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Put them both over the garage and they can shag to their hearts' content

[Birdsgottafly]

Offer her the garage, she should really accept this, gladly, the children hearing her have sex, orcwalkingbin on them, is highly inappropriate.

The Nanny is off duty, so should have her space.

If there was an incident, your Sis doesn't need to deal with it.

[ikeaismylocal]

I think if it's her time off then sil should have really talked to you about you being responsible for the children at that time, so if one of your dn was sick or had a nightmare they should come to you rather than go to the nanny who isn't on duty.

Your plan of them sharing the spare room is a nice idea.