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AIBU?

To think my colleague fancies his patient?!

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MojitoCake · 23/07/2014 16:03

This will probably sound strange and I could just be reading too much into things because I'm bored on maternity leave with 2 weeks until due date and jealous of anybody even remotely attractive.

My colleague is a young (30) guy and easy to talk to although not previously flirtatious to any colleagues or patients. Anyway, before I left for maternity leave he had an appointment with a very pretty and strikingly tall and curvy young woman, I noticed how his face lit up as soon as he saw her and he seemed quite awkward when standing next to her. Obviously I don't know what happened during the appointment but it went on for longer than a standard appointment for her issue would and during his lunch break he kept talking about how unexpectedly different the appointment was and how he was amazed he and the patient share such similar political interests. He kept smiling at her across the room as she sat waiting for her prescription in the waiting room.

Anyway, the same girl then came in yesterday (I was visiting my colleagues for lunch) and his face literally lit up when he saw she was in the waiting room. He said 'hello there, how are you?' and she raised her eyebrows at him and smiled

I feel so tragic even making this thread because it clearly shows how I have far too much time on my hands but aibu to think my colleague wants to shag his patient?

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SlicedAndDiced · 23/07/2014 16:04

Is that not allowed?

Grin

Nancy66 · 23/07/2014 16:05

if they're both single and like each other that's ok isn't it?

Coldlightofday · 23/07/2014 16:07

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thecuntureshow · 23/07/2014 16:08

So what if he does...? I guess we need to know what she's a patient of? If he's treating her for sex addiction it might not be good I guess

Player67 · 23/07/2014 16:08

You sound a bit jealous

MojitoCake · 23/07/2014 16:10

I'm not sure whether there's a nationwide ban on it but we've always been told to never be in any form of a romantic/sexual relationship with a patient and (this may just be our surgery) to try to avoid having friends and family as patients but to actually become romantically involved with somebody who he met as his patient is not allowed at our surgery. And he's married with a 2 month old baby!

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Letthemtalk · 23/07/2014 16:10

As long as he doesn't actually try to shah his patient, or do any thing inappropriate then there is no issue.

Letthemtalk · 23/07/2014 16:11

*shag not shah

Topaz25 · 23/07/2014 16:11

I thought relationships between doctors and patients were against the rules because of the power imbalance but it sounds like he just has a crush, no harm done if he doesn't act on it.

thecuntureshow · 23/07/2014 16:12

being married doesn't stop you fancying people.

Meh

Who cares. He only fancies her

SlicedAndDiced · 23/07/2014 16:12

Oooo the married with two month old baby bit makes it quite a bit more dodgy doesn't it?!

thecuntureshow · 23/07/2014 16:12

No, Sliced it doesn't

MojitoCake · 23/07/2014 16:13

He is a medical dr and the appointment wasn't for a sex addiction Grin, apparently it was because she had a pain behind her eyes (no idea why she didn't go to the optician first). I'm jealous of anybody who doesn't have swollen ankles and receives male attention Envy

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Gruntfuttock · 23/07/2014 16:14

It's perfectly normal to fancy someone - even if you're married - and not the kind of thing that can be banned.

SlicedAndDiced · 23/07/2014 16:15

It bloody does.

At two months old a dad should be way too knackered to be eyeing up the local talent surely Grin

From that I surmise he is dodgy because he's obviously lying, he doesn't have a baby or wife at all.

Sandthorn · 23/07/2014 16:20
  1. How long her appointment took, what it was for, and whether the time was necessary is really none of your business.
  2. Even if he fancies her, that doesn't indicate he has done, or is likely to do, anything inappropriate or immoral.
  3. I'd bet his face did not literally light up when she came in again.
MorphineDreams · 23/07/2014 16:22

He can't have a relationship with her whilst she is under his care, but even if he does fancy her so what?

Rhine · 23/07/2014 16:26

He probably does fancy her, but as long as he doesn't do anything about it I don't really see a problem in it. She probably just brightens up his day a bit.

MojitoCake · 23/07/2014 16:27

Yes I think being married with a baby makes it more dodgy! I don't know, we work in a very quiet and boring surgery but all he would talk about after his appointment was how 'different' it had been to his usual appointments ffs. No it doesn't directly affect me if he does fancy her but it is unprofessional if he is flirting with her and I doubt his wife would be happy about it. I don't have to approve of a married man flirting with a patient.

He also wrote a list of blogs for her to check out regarding their shared political interest. Sorry but there's no way I'd discuss my politics with a patient, to then write a list of recommendations during the appointment is unprofessional and wasting surgery time.

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Gruntfuttock · 23/07/2014 16:32

So, are you asking for opinions because you are wondering whether you should do something about it? If so, what were thinking of doing exactly?

MorphineDreams · 23/07/2014 16:34

You don't have to approve of it but you could perhaps keep yourself out of it and stop condemning him?

Baaaaaaaaaaaa · 23/07/2014 16:34

Hmmmmm, so you're a doctor and don't know about the GMC guidlines?

www.gmc-uk.org/guidance/ethical_guidance/21170.asp

Emough said.

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Coldlightofday · 23/07/2014 16:37

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settingsitting · 23/07/2014 16:38

They seem to like each other. Thinking so far as he would like to shag her is going a bit far imo, though I may be being naive.
And I dont think that you can definitely surmise that he was flirting with her?

I dont see what you could report him for.

SlicedAndDiced · 23/07/2014 16:38

Hang on...

We're NOT going to condemn a married man with a two month old baby acting very unprofessionally with a young woman because he fancies her?

Or condemn a man who has increased waiting times in one gp surgery to suit his desire to gaze upon a pretty face and impress her with his political knowledge?

You've changed mn, you've changed. Grin

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