"Why every woman secretly craves a daughter" - Telegraph article

(210 Posts)
channing55 Mon 21-Jul-14 16:53:16

Apparently 80% of British couples who have traveled to America to choose the gender of their baby want a girl.

What do people think? Is Beverly Turner right? Do all women secretly (or not) crave a daughter?

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/10980660/IVF-sex-selection-why-every-woman-secretly-craves-a-daughter.html

Paloma12 Mon 21-Jul-14 16:55:13

Ha ha ha. Daily Mail?

CatKisser Mon 21-Jul-14 16:56:44

Interesting when in many parts of the world the desire for a male child is so overwhelming.
Not reading the article though - it drives me mad when they use dickish sweeping statements about "every woman." Lazy writing, IMO.

ICanSeeTheSun Mon 21-Jul-14 16:56:51

I didn't want a girl. Adore my DD now.

I didn't think I would connect with a daughter as I'm not into thing typically society deems female like shopping, makeup and hair ect.

SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum Mon 21-Jul-14 16:56:57

I really, really wanted to have boys. I don't have a good relationship with my mother and I was petrified when I learnt that DC2 and 3 were girls.

I love them with all my heart, no more or less than my son, but I am afraid I will be a crap mother for them.

BertieBotts Mon 21-Jul-14 16:57:10

I don't think that correlates to "all women" want daughters somehow, I think it correlates to "People who are crazy enough to travel thousands of miles and pay thousands of dollars to choose the sex of their baby" want daughters.

TheGrinchWearsStripes Mon 21-Jul-14 16:57:25

I got about two lines in before the sexist cliches made me feel nauseous an I had to stop.

Hakluyt Mon 21-Jul-14 16:58:09

I did. I longed for a daughter.

BertieBotts Mon 21-Jul-14 16:59:09

Which probably means <sweeping generalisation> that they want said daughter as a fashion accessory they can dress up in pretty dresses and hair accessories. Not so much of a market for this with boys.

I mean if you want a friend you would just, um, make a friend. You wouldn't travel halfway around the world to produce one in a lab.

BertieBotts Mon 21-Jul-14 17:00:10

I'm not saying everyone who wants a girl wants a fashion accessory, BTW. I would love to have a daughter. But based on the "80% of people travelling for this reason" thing.

0dd Mon 21-Jul-14 17:01:41

I have two boys and have never craved a daughter.

I'm not planning any more DC but if I did I'd secretly hope for another boy. Though obviously love a girl just as much as any of my DS's. I just don't feel the craving for a daughter.

PostHocErgoPropterHoc Mon 21-Jul-14 17:03:49

I'm not going to read it. Any article that starts with the headline 'Why every woman [does anything]' is automatically bollocks.

FidelineAndBombazine Mon 21-Jul-14 17:04:03

Beverley Turner is turning into a bit of a prize arse, is she not?

Branleuse Mon 21-Jul-14 17:05:47

its because people objectify little girls just as much as they do women.

A baby girl is a toy to dress up, for people to vicariously live a princess fantasy

#armchair psychology

HoneyDragon Mon 21-Jul-14 17:05:56

I wanted Elmo. I'm happy with ds and dd though.

GalaxyInMyPants Mon 21-Jul-14 17:06:02

My dd is 13yo and has never wanted to lay the table in her life. Must be doing something wrong. grin

myotherusernameisbetter Mon 21-Jul-14 17:06:09

I longed for a baby - I had a slight preference for a boy. I had a boy and with the second one I was happy with another boy. My OH had a slight preference for a girl first time but was happy with a son and 2nd time he too had a prefernce for a boy as that is what he was now used to having.

Regardless of gender we loved and wanted them. I still have no hankering for a girl - clearly I must be abnormal.

thatstoast Mon 21-Jul-14 17:07:21

If I could have picked, I would have picked a girl. Now I have a 6m old son, I'm so glad it wasn't up to me.

imip Mon 21-Jul-14 17:07:47

Good lord, I have 4 dds. The image she paints of compliant dds is not remotely near the truth. My dds would rather plsy football than prepare TV!

Sadly though, I often hear mums tell me how sad they are not to have a girl :-(. One mum told me (in front of her sons) that she'd consider the £20k it costs for selective ivf, but was concerned it would be wasted money if it didn't work. I felt sorry for her little son standing there at her legs...

DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution Mon 21-Jul-14 17:11:48

I want boys. We have two of them & I'm pregnant with our third & final, I want this one to be a boy.

I don't feel like I'm missing out by not having girls (but dh wants this one to be a girl).

motherinferior Mon 21-Jul-14 17:12:44

I'm terribly partial to daughters, and have two of my own.

That feature, however, is uproarious bollocks.

Hakluyt Mon 21-Jul-14 17:16:50

Her children are called Croyde, Trixie and Kiki.

She is an arse.

Needingthework Mon 21-Jul-14 17:17:00

Whenever this topic of feeling sorry for those with all boys/all girls/missing out, and so on, comes up, I really don't know what I am supposed to be missing out on?

I have 3 boys and I had a preference for boys, but would have loved my daughters if I had any. I assume that some mothers of girls wonder what they are supposed to be missing out on by not having a boy confused

BertieBotts Mon 21-Jul-14 17:18:59

Croyde, Trixie and Kiki?? Are they shih tzus or children??

I don't crave a daughter. Never have. I craved a baby for a while, got pg, had DS, was happy. Never wanted another.

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