We were leaving my bf's house this morning at 6.40am as he was dropping me off at the station for me to catch a train to work.
We were on a tight schedule and as we came out of the house we saw there was an Ocado van blocking the road so that no vehicles could pass.
My bf started cursing and shouted - rudely and angrily - at the driver: "Oi mate, can you move your van as we need to get past and we're in a hurry".
The driver looked at him as though he were mad, said nothing but finished his delivery and moved the van.
I said nothing but my bf said something like "that f-ing meat head should be parked on the verge so cars can pass, like all the other delivery drivers".
His anger is an issue between us -we've been together 9months. I said: "I don't think you should have shouted at him, you could have asked him nicely".
He said "Oh right, so to up and ask him nicely, then wait for him and make you late for work. Would you prefer that?" etc etc.
The other day I was trying to follow directions on my smartphone and couldn't figure out which way was north, south etc - and he raised his voice at me then, saying "We could have found the way ourselves by now!"
His default response to any kind of pressure or even mild frustration is to lose his temper. He denies shouting but to me his response is quite frightening and hurtful.
Back to the Ocado man, I was embarrassed and felt sorry for him, and I also wondered what the neighbours must think.
Last winter he went ballistic when a neighbour blocked his car in. He called him a f-ing pikey and screamed at him, waving his arms, face red, eyes bulging.
There was a row between him and the neighbour and I ended up trying to calm everyone down.
Regarding this Ocado delivery incident, am I being over-sensitive? My friend says her DH shouts at her sometimes. Am I just being unreasonably thin skinned?
I know he's upset with me now as I haven't heard from him all day, when usually I have by now.
Thanks for reading.
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stargirl04 · 21/07/2014 14:45
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