Very long story short exDH and I need to agree on ferrying DD between us. I'm very scared of him, have PTSD because of him & don't want to be anywhere near him. Police or protective orders are not an option. I have to agree to be alone with him for handovers and have him at my house for pick up & drop off or go to his and see him at school events etc. The thought of it alone petrifies me. It's not so much that I think he will say or do something there and then, frankly I'm more likely to given how I feel about him, it's just the thought of being anywhere near him sends me into panic, I can't eat, I can't sleep, I suffer hysterical panic attacks when I think of it, I start catastrophising and thinking terrible black thoughts and having nightmares, I start wanting to escape any way I can... its not good. But I have to agree. How do I do this? Solicitor suggested meeting "outside a police station or McDonald's or somewhere public" - that's not the point! It doesn't matter that it's public, it matters that I'm scared to be near him. He suggested asking for an undertaking but what the hell does a piece of paper do?? We've had them before and he still breaches them constantly and the police say it's a civil matter and the courts do fuck all. Help!
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MrsDowneyJunior · 21/07/2014 12:40
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