Some background:
DH and I are having some difficulties and are in fact planning to separate. One of my friends is being a good listener and rings me nearly every day to check how I am and be supportive. This particular friend has been friendly with H in the past (although she is primarily my friend) but they recently had couple of disagreements so they haven't spoken for months.
Fast forward to a few days ago - she had a long phone conversation with H (she had phoned to speak to me but I was out). They both told me separately that they had talked about our relationship but that the conversation was private so they didn't want to divulge details of what had been said. I was curious but accepted that.
So today my friend asked me a fairly direct question about our sex life which made me suspicious that H has told her something (I'd rather not go into details here). But she phrased it in such a way as to make it sound innocent. I evaded the question and later phoned H to ask him if he'd told her this thing - he immediately admitted he had and was apologetic for doing so. I'm annoyed with him because she is my friend and I hadn't chosen to tell her this this thing, but at least he has admitted and apologised.
But I don't know what to think about my friend's behaviour. The way she phrased her question to me was really leading and made me feel quite uncomfortable. But I suppose she was given this information by him, and that's hardly her fault, yet I feel she is prying now, trying to get the truth out of me by stealth means.
Or maybe she was just trying to open the doors of communication and let me know I could talk to her about that if I wanted. But the way she phrased it was just so ... leading somehow. Like she was inviting me to lie to her or fess up.
Sorry if it's all a bit vague. I don't know what to think of either of them over this (why would H tell her that when they don't even get along most of the time and she's my friend?) but I'm particularly puzzled by her. In her shoes I would have taken what he said in confidence and left well alone - not pried friend for some disclosure.
What do you think? What would you do?
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farendofafart · 14/07/2014 14:34
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