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AIBU?

That this reaction has riled me still

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IscreamUscream · 12/07/2014 22:29

I'm still riled at this womens reaction to her husband crashing his car into the back of mine at speed whilst it had two kids in the car. He had been behind us for half a mile and could see that kids were in the back seat as mine is an old car with a low back screen.
After impact the kids were screaming so I pulled the car into a safer position and my friend in the passenger seat tried to calm the kids down. The driver and his partner got out and started shouting at me that it was my fault, to which I said I have two kids in the car, his partner then came up to my face and said "so what". At that point she really riled me by her reaction of "so what" . The kids had hurt their necks and back and eventually had to be cut out of the car by the roof being taken off my car. The kids were taken to hospital and were okay in the end just a bit sore. But she has really pissed me off with her reaction. Aibu

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Mumof3xox · 12/07/2014 22:30

You did well not to lamp her one

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AnyoneForTennis · 12/07/2014 22:30

Well yes, so what? Doesn't matter who was in your car, he should have been watching what he was doing!

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ImperialBlether · 12/07/2014 22:32

Hope you're all OK; it's a terrible shock for everyone having a crash like that.

Surely if he ran into the back of you, it's his fault anyway?

I'd be off to the Daily Mail with this one, I think!

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steff13 · 12/07/2014 22:32

Wow, if the kids had to be cut out of the car, I'm impressed you were able to get out and walk.

That said, it really doesn't matter who was in the car, he shouldn't have rear-ended you.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 12/07/2014 22:36

He would have been unreasonable to crash into you if your back seat was entirely empty. They were (I assume) unreasonable to suggest it was your fault; your response to that mentioning your children doesn't seem to have any logic to it.

Hope you and the children are feeling better. I'd pursue a claim for compensation in these circumstances if the injuries/distress lasts for more than a few days.

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SquigglySquid · 12/07/2014 22:38

Fault is for the police and insurance to decide. Who was in the car is irrelevant.

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IscreamUscream · 12/07/2014 22:38

She was really nasty calling me vile and scum as I did lose it because her husband was shouting at the kids that they weren't in car seats. Then she started saying we were shit parents for not having them in car seats. Both kids are over the height and age for booster seats anyway. They made the kids cry even more and they were already scared.

Whilst the roof was being cut off they both stood there with their arms crossed giving dirty looks to us, we were both distraught at the fact the kids were being put in neck braces and taken out on spinal boards. I hope to never come across such nasty people ever again.

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Loopylala7 · 12/07/2014 22:39

Definitely his fault he went into the back of you. Thats how the insurance company would see it. That woman was a silly cow. Hope you're all ok

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 12/07/2014 22:40

I think this calls for my yellow sign idea, which I always trot out on suitable occasions. It's like the one that says 'baby on board' but it's more like 'if you hit my car with my kids in I will kill you'. That's what you need. She'd have known then not to come out with such selfish thoughtless bollocks.

Hope you're all ok. Thanks

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ADishBestEatenCold · 12/07/2014 22:56

Were the police not there? Did they not deal with the pair?

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ImperialBlether · 12/07/2014 23:00

I don't understand how they were allowed to stand and stare while your children were being taken into an ambulance.

Were your children wearing ordinary seatbelts?

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IscreamUscream · 12/07/2014 23:11

A policeman came and took both of our details. There's were taken first so they should have left after this but they chose not to and stood there looking at the paramedics tending to the kids. The firebrigade came and started to cut the roof from my car. At this point the kids were terrified and crying. I asked the policeman to please ask if the couple could leave the scene but they refused to. We were all wearing our seat belts front and back.

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 12/07/2014 23:18

Oh dear sounds awful must say it's unusual for the roof to have to be cut off from a rear end collision must have been going some

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IscreamUscream · 12/07/2014 23:26

The paramedics advised it was a precautionary measure to remove the roof as the kids said their neck and backs were hurting. And they needed to remove them carefully incase of possible spine injury.
The so what comment was uncalled for as her husband had caused the accident. I would of felt so bad if the boot was on the other foot, and wouldn't have thought to come out with a comment like that.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 12/07/2014 23:42

Unfortunately some people are so ignorant that when they feel shame and guilt they automatically try and turn it around and blame the other person. You were unlucky enough to be hit by them. You know, and they know, it was their fault.

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cariadmawr · 12/07/2014 23:44

Sorry this has happened I hope all of you are OK . the most frightening thing in the world to me is having a RTA with your kids in the car I felt so guilty for having an accident when ds1 was 2 he is now 21 . painkillers and cwtch

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steff13 · 12/07/2014 23:47

Did they pay to repair your car?

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arethereanyleftatall · 12/07/2014 23:48

What happened to cause him to crash in to the back of your car?

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SistersOfPercy · 12/07/2014 23:53

Ummm stuff, I think having the roof cut off makes the car way beyond repair...

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Norfolknway · 12/07/2014 23:54

They sound like arseholes Shock

I hope you and your children recover well Smile

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steff13 · 12/07/2014 23:55

Ummm stuff, I think having the roof cut off makes the car way beyond repair...

Well, then replace. I was asking if they took financial responsibility, sorry if that wasn't clear...

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MiscellaneousAssortment · 12/07/2014 23:58

I love the posters critiquing the OP on logic and perfect transactional conversation in the minutes after a collision, in which her children were hurt.

There's this thing called shock.

Imagine your children are stuck in a car and you're not allowed to cuddle them or hold them or know if they are ok.

Imagine being faced with the person who had done that.

Imagine them dismissing your children and their potentially serious injuries with a aggressive 'so what' 'so what'

Well errr the so what is that the children are hurt, perhaps badly, they are the most precious things in the entire universe to their shaken and panicking parents. And someone stands there shouting 'so what' about them.

Kinda understanding why the OP might be upset about that. Particularly when they decided to hang around to watch the aftermath. Must have been horrible. So terrifying. I'm glad everyone was ok in the end. What an awful shock.

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RitaConnors · 12/07/2014 23:59

Some people are just wankers.

In situations such as this I find it helpful to think that these people are not in my life all the time. Like married to my sister or living next door.

Obviously they are wrong so just try to forget them. They will be on to the next fight or drama now anyway.

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IscreamUscream · 13/07/2014 00:03

Car is a total loss/write off without its roof. I agree Ilovemydog but at the time a simple ounce of symthathy would have been nice,especially since it involves two children. I was also hurt in the crash but my main priority were that the kids were tended to first. It boiled my piss that they still chose to spectate at it all.
I was slowing down to turn left into a road and they hit us from behind. I don't know why he wasn't paying attention to my indicator and break lights giving him pre warning that he should have slowed down.

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notapizzaeater · 13/07/2014 00:08

Sounds like a right pair.

A bit of compassion and empathy would have helped, especially as it was their fault.

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