This is long, but I feel like once I get it written down then it's out there and I can start to feel better.
I made friends with a girl who moved to our area and didn't know anyone. She seemed really sweet, and she was pregnant at the time and my age, so we got chatting. After she had her DD she reached out to me because she knew I'd had PND with my DC and she said she was struggling. Her DH was in the forces and away a lot, so she was on her own also.
We became more friendly and I used to help her out with her DD, bring her cooked meals, do her food shopping sometimes when they were struggling financially, introduced her to my friends, and just generally was there for her. There was also a situation where she was being harassed severely by another woman, and I physically stood up to her and called the police for her and encouraged her to make a statement. I was just really there for her and after she came through her tough patch, we remained really friendly and texted and met up all the time, just us and in our group.
However, I announced that I was moving away at Christmas. She suddenly stopped returning my calls and turned down my invites out. I didn't push the matter and just left her to it, thinking she'd come to me if she needed me. Also; it was Christmas; everyone is busy! For Christmas, I bought her and her DD tickets to Peppa Pig for the summer. She never mentioned having received them, but tbh I was so busy with finding a job and getting a new house, I didn't chase it up.
Between then and the move I got a few messages saying we should meet up, then always cancelling last minute; including my birthday.
When I moved, a few weeks later she tagged herself in at the Peppa Pig show and put up photos. I liked the photos, and then the next day she removed me from Facebook.
I texted her to tell her I'd seen she'd removed me from Facebook, and was there anything she wanted to talk about? I got nothing. I relayed to other friends back home how upset I was about it.
Today I got a message from her. In it, she said that she'd heard I was upset about the whole thing, and she was sorry but there was no point in being friends now I'd moved (even though I've booked flights with DH and DS to go and visit!) I have other friends and family there!) and that she'd made new friends and I should respect her choice.
I just feel so... Down about it. Down on myself. I thought we were super close and I counted her among my nearest and dearest. I feel stupid to have judged someone so badly, and I don't know how to behave when I go back if I bump into her. I'm really hurt.
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ziggiestardust · 12/07/2014 17:35
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