Commenting negatively on my Christmas due date

(145 Posts)
Amber76 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:02:55

I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all - just want to vent.

I'm pregnant and due on Christmas day (though it will be a caesarean so likely to be one week earlier). I am sick, sick, sick of people saying "oh, terrible time of the year to have a baby" - yes, thank you for your opinion, I'm aware its not ideal but there's not a whole lot I can do about it.

My sister in law, who has a child born on the 13th December, said how "awful" it would be to have a baby on the 18th December as that was the same week as Christmas. But that her darling born on the 13th was , thankfully, born far enough away from Christmas so that the birthday wouldn't get lost in Christmas celebrations. I just said we don't care when the baby comes as long as its healthy which is true but wish I'd said something more to show her what nonsense she was spouting.

Rant over..

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Sat 12-Jul-14 10:06:27

Tell them to fuck off.

Christmas is an awesome time to have a baby. Everything is sparkly and cosy and everyone is chilled.

You can also buy loads of buffet stuff so you won't have to worry about cooking proper food!!

Gumps Sat 12-Jul-14 10:07:53

My ds is the 19th dec and I think it's a lovely time of the year to have a birthday. Everyone is happy and lots of nice things going on. I just make sure I keep his birthday and Christmas separate.

goodtimesinbontemps Sat 12-Jul-14 10:08:00

Don't mind her! Ds1 was born by c section on Dec 23rd and he loves having a Christmas birthday.

ClearlyMoo Sat 12-Jul-14 10:08:51

Oh codswallop. The gift of a child is so amazing and exciting the time of year is irrelevant. I have friends whose baby had an induction resulting in EMCS on Christmas Day. They celebrate her half birthday and she has a lovely summer party each June with just one extra present from Mum & Dad on Christmas Day. All friends and family are trained to celebrate her half birthday and she's well into infant school now and it's working out well.

Please enjoy your pregnancy and the anticipation of your joyful arrival and tell everyone where to stick their negativity!

Just respond with "I'm so happy to be having a baby, and they arrive when they're ready" -with a stony glare to put off any further discussion. OR burst into tears and tell them they're being insensitive!!

BlueThursday Sat 12-Jul-14 10:09:07

I get this too - due January 1.

Got a lot of "if only you'd waited 2 months" Presumably due to the Scottish school intake.

Well after TTC for as long as we had I'm just delighted to be due at all!

edwinbear Sat 12-Jul-14 10:09:24

I can't imagine a nicer Christmas present that a healthy, chubby, delicious smelling new baby.

MissMilbanke Sat 12-Jul-14 10:09:46

Congratulations on your pregnancy !

I know exactly where you are coming from as one if mine has a birthday on the 22nd.

On the plus side we love Christmas and make an extra effort to do something lovely like the pantomime or seeing Father Christmas at some lovely place followed by a meal. Last year Blenheim palace followed by Cotswold hotel.

Ds loves it and the bonus is he is never at school on his birthday.

For those negative people I think you just have to give them the look and ignore. What's done is done and can't be changed.

Hoppinggreen Sat 12-Jul-14 10:10:48

My children were born on 23rd and 14th December.
It's not ideal and is very hectic and expensive at Christmas - despite what we say people buy them loads of stuff. We had a big joint party once and we literally brought home 4 bin bags of gifts the week before Christmas ( donated a lot of it to Sally Army) but I have to day that when we brought DD home on Christmas eve it was absolutely magical and it was the best Christmas ever- we had a great excuse to just hide away and enjoy our new family.
You can't win, summer borns will be behind at school apparently!!

tumbletumble Sat 12-Jul-14 10:11:24

My DH has a 27th Dec birthday and hates it. I've heard him moan about it so many times that it would be difficult for me to respond positively if you told me your due date without sounding false. Sorry!

buggerboooo Sat 12-Jul-14 10:11:54

In due the 4th jan. It is rubbish timing, but ee have been waiting a long time!

x2boys Sat 12-Jul-14 10:12:59

Ds1 birthday is boxing day he loves it ,its fine I wouldn't recomend labour on Xmas day but apart from that its fine he was my best ever Xmas present !

MyFairyKing Sat 12-Jul-14 10:13:16

Tell them to fuck off and also that you're going to call the baby 'Jesus' to get a reaction that you can then go home and snigger about. wink

ElBandito Sat 12-Jul-14 10:13:17

Better than an August birthday. Young in the year and everyone is away on holiday for your party.

TheFantasticFixit Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:11

I would just be super facetious and say something like "at least it'll be out in time to get rat arsed at Crimbo"

They are being dicks. I had my DD at the end of November and there was a lot of debate about not letting her birthday merge with Christmas (i wanted to yell OBVIOUSLY so many times) so i know a bit of where you are coming from!

Pico2 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:24

A friend of mine's response to people who say that his Christmas birthday must be really annoying, is that the only really irritating thing about it is the comments he gets from other people about how annoying it is.

People are such idiots about this.

We have a 24th birthday - all the family have the day off work and are free to come round. It's great!

Just remember to buy party plates etc in the middle of summer and put them away!

DannyShouldHaveChosenRizzo Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:57

My sister was bornbon Christmas day. My other sisters and I were VERY jealous. Our parents went to great lengths to make sure her birthday was kept separate from the Christmas celebrations though.
For a couple of years during her early teens she hated the idea of a Christmas birthday so she decided she would like a mini birthday celebration on 25th July.
She now loves her birth date as she says she doesn't have to lift a finger on Christmas day so gets out of all the things she doesn't want to do!
A birthday is a birthday regardless of the actual date.
Enjoy your Christmas baby.

SocialMediaAddict Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:59

My best friends DH is born on Christmas Day and he loves it. Everyone is always happy and he had an excuse to drink Bucks Fizz from breakfast grin

mangomodellingclay Sat 12-Jul-14 10:15:50

I was due the 2nd of January, cue much fussing and how awful comments. How can a baby being born be an awful thing?! It didn't matter anyway as I was two weeks overdue.

pantsjustpants Sat 12-Jul-14 10:17:31

You have my sympathies, people can be so thoughtless!

Ds3 was due on the 22nd Dec, but held on long enough to be the first New Year baby in our county.

It's great actually! I hate new year, but now I have something lovely to celebrate. The huge influx of toys is not so good....

Well what are you supposed to do about it now? Not as though you can change your due date to suit their preference.

Sod them! Anyone who comments negatively about someone's pregnancy is a tool and can safely be disregarded.

PickleMyster Sat 12-Jul-14 10:19:08

A friend of mine was born on Christmas Day, we always get her cards/presents for her actual birthday, but go out/have party to celebrate it the last weekend in June as then the weather is better. So she gets to celebrate full birthday and a half birthday smile

VodkaJelly Sat 12-Jul-14 10:19:13

My DD was due on Christmas Day, I never had any negative comments at all, mostly people were saying how lovely it was.

She was born on New years Day, again no negative comments.

Maybe my friends are nicer or maybe they know me too well and any nasty comments wouldnt be tolerated!

ilovelamp82 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:20:21

My birthday is on 20th december. And I love it. My first son was due on 11th December but I went over and went in to be induced on 23rd December. It went on so long that I thought I was going to have the baby on Christmas Day but ended up with an EMCS at 6am on boxing day. It was magical. I was cuddling my newborn with the salvation army playing outside my room.

My dh was able to take holiday along with the bank holidays so had more time at home. It was gorgeous having the baby home chilled with Christmas lights and candles. It was lovely. So much so, my youngest was born on 13th December so I could have the sae kind of experience. I would do the same again.

I just make sure there are lots of birthday balloons so that it can differentiate. I figure when he is older, everybody is out on boxing day, so everyone will be out to celebrate.

Congratulations!!! You are going to have such a lovely Christmas time.

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