AIBU to wear black to a wedding?

(89 Posts)
Silvercatowner Sat 12-Jul-14 09:56:18

I have absolutely no idea about these things….

Numanoid Sat 12-Jul-14 09:58:12

No, YANBU. I was at a wedding reception recently and saw a couple of people in nice black dresses. I wouldn't be offended if guests wore black to mine, either.

I think it might be a bit unusual if you were the mother of the bride/groom, but otherwise I'd say it's fine.

TweeAintMee Sat 12-Jul-14 09:59:16

Hope not - I always wear black, whatever the occasion. The only rule is NOT to wear white. grin

dexter73 Sat 12-Jul-14 09:59:25

I think it is ok. Rules about not wearing black, green or white to a wedding are becoming a bit dated now.

I say wear what you like, all black can look stunning.

TweeAintMee Sat 12-Jul-14 10:00:08

What is the issue with green?

TeenAndTween Sat 12-Jul-14 10:00:22

I would say it is not etiquette to wear black.
However if you teamed a black dress with coloured (or white) accessories it would be OK.

dexter73 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:00:43

It is supposed to bring bad luck if you wear green to a wedding.

Silvercatowner Sat 12-Jul-14 10:02:55

Flip….. I got married in green. 28 years ago so can't've been that bad...

limitedperiodonly Sat 12-Jul-14 10:03:24
ICanSeeTheSun Sat 12-Jul-14 10:04:15

I would and have.

edwinbear Sat 12-Jul-14 10:04:57

I dressed my bridesmaids in beautiful, black evening dresses. Very classy they looked too. YANBU.

PedlarsSpanner Sat 12-Jul-14 10:05:21

Green sposed to be Bad Luck

SIL issued a No Green notice before her wedding

dexter73 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:06:05

I know Silvercatowner - my bridesmaids wore green and I have been married 19 years!

SaucyJack Sat 12-Jul-14 10:06:08

Unless it's an ex's wedding it be reet.

I wear black all the time. No one ever comments on it -- except my mother--

TweeAintMee Sat 12-Jul-14 10:07:37

Ah yes, but the success of a marriage is not based on luck is it? And only the seriously nutty are superstitious so issue of green not really relevant surely.

mangomodellingclay Sat 12-Jul-14 10:10:45

It depends on the bride - I couldn't have cared less what people wore as long as they had a nice day but my SIL almost had a melt down because someone wore a green dress. Ask the bride.

dexter73 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:11:05

The success of things may not be based on luck, but people still say it before e.g. exams, childbirth, a performance.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sat 12-Jul-14 10:13:03

I wouldn't wear all black to a wedding and don't think other people should either. Black and another colour is ok. I think it depends on whether you look like you're dressed for a funeral.

TweeAintMee Sat 12-Jul-14 10:13:59

Bit stunned that people let other people's colour choices govern their lives. Was this bride a particularly disempowered individual?

dashoflime Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:29

My gran not only wore black to my mum and dads wedding- she organised all the grooms side of the family to do the same.
In her case it was to make a malicious statement. They were "mourning" the wedding shock
I'm not sure it carries the same message now though. I guess I would check with the bride first

Jackie0 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:14:46

Be prepared for some disapproving looks from older guests. You do need to check with the bride really. It's becoming more accepted but personally I wouldn't . In days gone by it was a sign you disapproved of the union.

SocialMediaAddict Sat 12-Jul-14 10:16:26

I've worn black with bright accessories.

mustbetimeforacreamtea Sat 12-Jul-14 10:16:57

YABU unless you are the mother of either the bride or groom as it will be the main topic of conversation amongst the other guests. My xMIL wore cream to mine. Didn't bother me but the horror and psychoanalysis of her choice among the guests was incredible.

Jackie0 Sat 12-Jul-14 10:19:26

A family member did this at my wedding and it was absolutely intended as a snub to the mother of the groom, her dh's ex dw. Everyone was pretty insulted , not least my parents. Really out of order, she shouldn't have come.

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