Both are smokers, both are drinkers. Fil in particular is very small minded (believes the earth is flat, women on 1 side, men on the other in the pub, scared to go anywhere were there may be "foreigners", you get the picture). Ive posted tons about them before as they drive me insane.
They take ds out for a few hours once in a while to the park by their house. One time though a few weeks ago theyd asked to take him to a fair a train ride away, we agreed as it was his birthday he loves things like that, hes only 2 so loves the lights etc..
To cut a long story short, they agreed to feed him and be back around 6ish. 6 came and went and i asked dp to call them to find out if ds had eaten tea (hes teething so not eating well atm). we didnt get an answer so he kept on trying to get through. at 6.45 mil finally answered her phone, dp was mad by then, his bedtime is 7pm and this was 15 minutes before. He asked where they were, oh were in the beer garden in the pub. The dirty old mans pub that fil has to be in every weekend on the dot at precisely the same time. The one they said they werent going to go to at all this weekend as they were taking ds out for the day somewere nice instead. and the beer garden is not a garden, its a bit of wasteland next to the pub, some use it to park in some use it as a tip to dump things in. It has 4 chairs and a table in it.
So after dp went to get him we were raging mad all night, I cant believe they thought it was ok to take 2 year old the pub and still be there at half 6 on a sunday evening. They hadnt even fed him, they got some fish and chips and he had a few of those at around 4pm.
So again this arguement has gone on for the past week now with them, they can see no wrong, they think its acceptable what they did and mil in particular is loving the drama by telling all the family blow by blow accounts of how horrible we are being to her.
Its now ended with us telling them we dont want them smoking around him yet again as we could smell smoke on his clothes this time, their response " were in a beer garden, we were outside" yes but sitting right next to him still. Fil's reply is always well you were brought up that way and your alright. apparently we need to stop wrapping him in cotton wool as we ask people not to smoke around him. they called at the weekend and said they wont bother with him again. so far fil hasnt been in touch at all, but he a stubborn tit who always has to be right. they will all give into him but im ready for a fight if need be.
Mil has called 3 times since then abour other things, trying to make conversation with dp. think shes waiting for an invite here, she'll be waiting a long time.
Is there any hope for a narrow minded man stuck in a 1970's time warp... I dont want to cause more arguements but im not backing down on this. so he either does as we ask with regards to his only grandchild or he doesnt get to see him. aibu if i say that to him. It probably will cause murder if it comes to that but im not giving into him over this. Dp thankfully feels the same, weve had arguements about them before and e usually does take their side but im grateful he thinks the same as me on this.
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Vix1980 · 09/07/2014 11:32
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