AIBU that im going to lose him

(147 Posts)
Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:08:00

My lovely fella is very anaemic, has abdomen and pelvic pain, and is losing weight at a very fast rate.
He is diabetic and has an auto immune illness. They are currently under control but these new symptoms are frightening....
We are currently waiting on test results but im so afraid im going to lose him soon.

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:13:40

He looks like he has milk in his veins, not blood.
I love the bones of him and I cant lose the fear that he wont be here.

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:37:24

I guess IABU....
Its serious isn't it?????

Didn't want you to have no reply. flowers What are the tests for?

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 07-Jul-14 01:40:11

(((Hugs))) Ludoole

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:40:36

Thankyou Mrs.
Cancer, colitis and crohns disease but he looks awful. Gone from a 38" waist to 32" in weeks sad

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:41:51

Thanks Luis

Oh love, it's shit.

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 07-Jul-14 01:44:31

No wonder you're scared - anyone would be. When do you get the results?

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:48:31

It is shit!! The auto immune illness he has means he wont be able to have certain treatments anyway.
Im hoping its something stupid, but....
Its frightening but I know its so much worse for him. Ive told my children he isn't well (they aren't his) but its the scariest thing ive had in my life so far.

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 01:49:07

Hopefully this week Luis

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 07-Jul-14 01:53:27

Waiting seems to be the most cruel thing. Your mind turns itself inside out with the possibilities, doesn't it?

Meantime, you have to find some respite, that's a hell of a challenge. My heart goes out to you both.

LuisSuarezTeeth Mon 07-Jul-14 01:59:30

Got to go now, but keep talking ok? Loads of support here smile

I'll check in with you tomorrow x

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 02:01:34

Thankyou Luis.
I think I need to sleep cause I know I cant help until the results are in... and maybe not then....
He knows how much he's loved and whatever is wrong I hope he can fight it.
Its just crap how some bad people seem to live a "charmed" life but my fella who has a heart of gold and never has a bad word to say about anyone, has to go through pain and heartache.

Whatever happens I guess nobody can take away that I was one of the lucky ones who found my best friend and the love of my life in one person. He really is amazing!

maras2 Mon 07-Jul-14 02:07:37

So sorry that your lovely fella is so ill Ludoole.I say my Rosary daily and if you don't mind I'd like to tack on an extra prayer for you,DP and the people involved in his care and treatment. Mx.

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 02:15:24

Maras- Thankyou!x

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 07-Jul-14 02:21:06

Prayers for you both, Ludoole. Thinking of you. thanks

Mine seem to be quite potent. I prayed that 'the crimson bastard' wouldn't start tomorrow - and it came today. blush... sorry, trying to make you smile and it's probably not funny at all.

Ludoole Mon 07-Jul-14 02:30:26

Lying- that made me smile!! grin thanks

socksandsandles Mon 07-Jul-14 04:30:18

Flowers: Cake:

socksandsandles Mon 07-Jul-14 04:31:41

Can't seem to post you flowers and cake (duh) but you get the gist x

KoalaDownUnder Mon 07-Jul-14 04:40:48

Oh, I am so sorry. sad He is very lucky to have you.

Your opening posts made me tear up. Wishing you strength, Ludoole
thanks

TestingTestingWonTooFree Mon 07-Jul-14 06:38:43

Just try to hang on until you know what you're dealing with.

chanie44 Mon 07-Jul-14 06:44:18

Thinking of you.

TheFirstOfHerName Mon 07-Jul-14 07:17:06

DH is not diabetic but had similar symptoms about ten years ago. Change in bowel habit, sudden dramatic weight loss, anaemia, night sweats, aching joints, generally looking a bit grey. I convinced myself it was colon cancer and was worried I was going to lose him.

It turned out to be Crohn's. He got better with treatment, and was well for several years. Sadly he has had another flare-up in the last six months, but at least he knew what it was this time, so was able to start treatment much quicker.

I know the uncertainty is very difficult to live with, because you assume the worst. Take one day at a time, and things may not turn out as bad as you're imagining.

capitalc Mon 07-Jul-14 07:50:07

my friend had the same symptoms as TheFirstOfHerName dh and your dp, it was crohns , thinking of you op , hope he gets the tests results quickly .

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