teacher injures my child

(149 Posts)
lulamay Thu 26-Jun-14 23:03:45

My daughter of 14yrs has recently had her appendix removed, and was told by the hospital doctors NOT to do PE for six weeks.
The school were aware that she was absent due to her operation, and I had sent three emails to the school, to tell them what the doctors had advised.
The staff were aware, but the cover teacher told my daughter to just be a fielder, which meant lots of running around, as the ball seemed to come to her a lot, and the pupils were overly keen for her not to let their side down. She then gets hit in the nose by a tennis ball, thrown at her by this teacher!
She was in so much pain around her stitches that the school called me after PE for advice on what my daughter should do! She wanted to soldier on and come home on the bus, as I don't drive. But, when she got home I was really cross with the school, as they should never of allowed her to be pressurised to play.
She even had school work she could of caught up with due to her absence, under the guidance of another teacher, had she been aware that she was being made to do PE, even after I told them she can't.
The school is afraid of what I might do now.

Can anyone advise me as to my next move. Do I take her to the doctor's in the morning and make a case, or report to the school? Do I write a firm letter, or email. This should never have happened. Am I being unreasonable to expect the school to be held accountable for my daughter's injuries? Is this a case of negligence on their part? And what can I expect as recompense?

AnyFucker Thu 26-Jun-14 23:04:54

what injuries does your daughter actually have ?

Pipbin Thu 26-Jun-14 23:07:47

The school is afraid of what I might do now.

What do you mean by this sentence? It sounds to me like you are threatening them.

Goldmandra Thu 26-Jun-14 23:09:04

And what can I expect as recompense?

What do you mean by recompense?

In this situation I would expect my daughter to receive an apology and the school to review their policies/procedures to ensure that no more children are put in this position.

Is that enough?

ThatSmellsLikePoo Thu 26-Jun-14 23:09:21

How much do you want? Do you have a figure in mind?

ICanSeeTheSun Thu 26-Jun-14 23:10:57

What I would want is an apology to my child. Then I would want a policy to be put into place that this never happens again.

If you DC needs more time off school I would email the school to say as that due to the poor management that caused your DD pain the required her to stay at home they would have to explain to the EWO

Pipbin Thu 26-Jun-14 23:11:43

The school is afraid of what I might do now. ........ Am I being unreasonable to expect the school to be held accountable for my daughter's injuries? Is this a case of negligence on their part? And what can I expect as recompense?

Are you writing a letter to 'Injury Lawyers 4 U' as we speak? If so, please don't, it's taking money from children.
Bring it up with the school, talk to them, get a apology, but don't sue.

HygieneFreak Thu 26-Jun-14 23:11:43

£100,000 should cover it

steff13 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:11:49

Did she know she wasn't supposed to participate? If so, why did she do it? Was she in pain when she was playing? What damage was done? If the school knew she couldn't participate, didn't they have something else for her to do? How long ago was her surgery? I have a lot of questions about this.

If she's in pain, you should probably take her to the doctor.

AnyFucker Thu 26-Jun-14 23:12:21

is that "financial" recompense you are suggesting ?

what injuries does your daughter actually have ?

Maria33 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:14:18

Get your daughter to the diotor's and check she's ok.

Make sure your daughter refuses to do sport again until she has the all clear, I'm guessing a supply teacher might not know who's injured and who isn't.

I'd be annoyed but not sure what you can do. I'd also be slightly irritated with dd for not being more assertive.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Thu 26-Jun-14 23:14:30

Tennis ball/nose not really relevant.

The school allowing your daughter to take part in PE despite having a medical reason not to is not on, presuming that the school was informed of this in their preferred manner,and that you received confirmation of this.

I would expect an apology and an assurance that systems were being put in place to prevent this happening again

AnythingNotEverything Thu 26-Jun-14 23:14:36

I think at 14 your daughter should have known she shouldn't do PE herself and should've said so. I'd have made sure there was a note in her planner or a letter sent into school to ensure your permission is given.

You certainly deserve an apology, but money? Fuck that.

DottyDooRidesAgain Thu 26-Jun-14 23:15:25

Unless the teacher threw the tennis ball on purpose which I very much doubt then there s little they can do other than apologise.

In regards to your DD doing PE when she had already been excused she should of refused. The teacher cannot force her to get changed or force her to run after the ball. Again I would be expecting an apology and an assurance that better practise would be enforced in the future.

And what can I expect as recompense?

Are you wanting money? shock

Sisyphus85 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:15:28

Did your daughter say she can't play?

At 14yo she's old enough to say to the teacher she can't play because she's had an operation... you say she got pressured into playing... well if someone's got a doctors note then I find it pretty hard to believe any teacher would put any real pressure on her

mindthegap79 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:16:56

I would want an apology for my child and for the school to investigate what went wrong and to update their procedures to ensure it doesn't happen again.

No it shouldn't have happened, hence the above, however I think YABU to threaten the school. Really, no long term harm has been done, has it?

Sisyphus85 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:16:56

huh.... I guess we all pretty much thought the same thing to the OP post then....

gordyslovesheep Thu 26-Jun-14 23:17:58

your daughter is not a baby

if she's still ill why is she at school (I was off work for 6 weeks with my appendectomy)

what injuries does she have

They were NOT caused by the teacher - they where caused by her running around

what exactly do you want blood? money? the teacher flogged?

YABU btw x

Silverdaisy Thu 26-Jun-14 23:19:55

Sorry if I'm missing something, why did your daughter have her PE clothes with her? If she was not to take part then she wouldn't have right change of clothes?

My experience of high school is the pupils take their gym clothes on the PE days .

Recompense? What are her financial losses? None. Stop being ridiculous. She's 14 - why couldn't she speak up for herself?

mindthegap79 Thu 26-Jun-14 23:20:15

I teach KS2 so a few years younger than your dd, and I'm struggling to think of a child from the hundreds I've taught over the years, who wouldn't have spoken up if they weren't able to do PE. Of course there are many who would pretend they actually could... to a supply teacher... but at primary age their peers would most likely dob them in grin

Graciescotland Thu 26-Jun-14 23:21:06

When I was 15 I broke my upper arm, so no cast, just a sling. When I went back to school I was kind of expected just to "get on" so no photocopies of notes just managing myself. I was in agony but it's very hard to stand up to an authority figure especially if you're a bit quiet and shy.

BanjoKazooie Thu 26-Jun-14 23:23:01

If I was a teacher I would expect a 14 year old to tell me if there was a problem.

BackforGood Thu 26-Jun-14 23:23:16

Same as what Anything and Sisyphu said.
Why didn't your dd say she couldn't do PE as she was recovering from an operation which the school knew about? She has to take some responsibility for herself if there is a cover teacher/supervisor in.
I too would have given her a written letter / copy of the e-mail in her planner so it was to hand if she was questioned.
there are a lot of people in a secondary school, sometimes communications (particularly for supply) aren't as good as we'd like them to be, so, with something like this, your dd should have been able to refuse to play.

However, you've lost a LOT of sympathy with all your talk of the school being worried about what you might do, and then your "ambulance chasing" talk of recompense.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now