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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 10:00

I am perfectly willing to be told I am being unreasonable but please do so gently I am recovering from a psychotic episode and I am delicate. Normally I wouldn't post when I feel like this but I really need to know if I am being unreasonable.

I live on a main high street there is no parking. I am on low rate mobility as is my eldest child and I am currently attempting to get high rate mobility for my middle dd. I also have a baby. I often end up carrying both my two year old and 5 year old from the car to the house.

The only place to park are residential streets. There is no where else. So I park in the street behind my house in a perfectly legal place. I know one car there has a blue badge so I never park in that space.

However I have been verbally attacked by two different residents for parking outside their house they were aggressively shouting at me while I was trying to get my two disabled dc In the car and my two year old.

Today I have had a note put on my car saying I am very inconsiderate for parking outside someone's house and that they now have to park halfway down the street (it's a small street) and that it's inconvenient for them as they have 5 children to drag up the street.

Please be gentle.

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BitOutOfPractice · 25/06/2014 10:02

Hello! No YANBU. They are.

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bigdog888 · 25/06/2014 10:03

They need to fuck the fuck off!

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bigdog888 · 25/06/2014 10:03

They need to fuck the fuck off!

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TravelinColour · 25/06/2014 10:06

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BuilderMammy · 25/06/2014 10:06

They need to fuck the fuck off!


Grin

They really do, though.

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Justfuckitupagain · 25/06/2014 10:11

Sending you huge and Brew

It's not you, love - it's them x

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Xenadog · 25/06/2014 10:11

YANBU. Yes it's inconvenient for others but that's the problem without having private parking facilities. They don't have any right to complain. So it's tough!

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gordyslovesheep · 25/06/2014 10:12

Yanbu they are x

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Gimmesomemore · 25/06/2014 10:12

Sorry your going through this, you've done nothing wrong!

Where do your neighbours park their cars (just out of interest?)

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Seeline · 25/06/2014 10:12

If there are no parking restrictions (yellow lines/residents only/permit holders only) and it is a public highway, anyone can park anywhere as long as you are not blocking a driveway, and are following the Highway Code in terms of not parking too near a junction etc. They are BU. Ignore and carry on what you are doing. I would keep any notes you may get though, just in case you need them In the future.

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Frontier · 25/06/2014 10:14

No you're absolutely no unreasonable but unfortunately your neighbours aren't alone. Many residents feel that they own the space outside thier house.

Around here there are a handful of disabled parking spaces close to houses where the residents need them. Is it possible your council would do that for you?

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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 10:26

Thank you very much. I shall ignore them and keep all notes in case this escalates.

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Inthedarkaboutfashion · 25/06/2014 10:29

If your dd gets high rate mobility granted apply for a disabled parking space so that you always have somewhere convenient to park. Your neighbours do not own the street and you can park wherever you like including outside of their house as long as you are not blocking a driveway or emergency access route.

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TheFairyCaravan · 25/06/2014 10:37

This is harassment. Ring 101 and report them.

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TwinkleTwinkleStarlight · 25/06/2014 10:59

Around here there are a handful of disabled parking spaces close to houses where the residents need them. Is it possible your council would do that for you?

Only if the OP gets higher rate mobility. The rules for which are now incredibly tight since PIP came into force.

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wowfudge · 25/06/2014 11:01

Great advice so far OP - it's really not on to berate someone who is parking legally.

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steppemum · 25/06/2014 11:03

public road, public parking.

Ignore them.

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DanyStormborn · 25/06/2014 13:15

YANBU. You can park where you want (within the law) on a public road. People do not own the road outside their house. If it is that important to them to own the closest parking space to their house they should look for a new house with a drive way. Report anybody being abusive to you and your children and keep notes a proof. Sorry you are having to go through this.

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londonrach · 25/06/2014 13:20

Ring 101 now send report in case these nasty people do something to your car. Meanwhile sending you hugs. Yanbu they are. If car is taxed and not a private road you can park there.

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Birdsgottafly · 25/06/2014 13:22

Write a massive sign, windscreen size saying "if I could park outside my own house I would, but tough shit, I can't!"

Leave it on the inside of your car, to keep the sun off your seats, no-one likes hot seats.

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WooWooOwl · 25/06/2014 13:22

These neighbours should have bought somewhere with off street parking if it bothered them so much. Or they should apply to the council to get residents parking permits.

It is not on to have a go at someone who is parking perfectly legally, no matter how frustrating it must be for them, especially as they live near a high street.

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PersonOfInterest · 25/06/2014 13:23

Do you know which house they're from? Get the number, ring 101 and report their harassment. They sound vile.

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MissDuke · 25/06/2014 13:25

YANBU op, they are. However obviously you don't want your car getting damaged. Is there anywhere else at all you could park? If not, keep on as you are, you really are not doing anything wrong.

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APlaceInTheSummer · 25/06/2014 13:32

YANBU. I remember pulling in to answer my phone once (pre-hands free). I accidentally parked in front of someone's house. She then parked behind me (so about 10 steps further down the road than she wanted to be). She proceeded to open my car down to shout and swear at me Shock .

Point being that people can be very protective of the space in front of their house. They can also be very rude and very angry. However they still have no right to park there.

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sophie150 · 25/06/2014 15:39

Yanbu. I had the same thing happen to me about a week ago. Was really hot and bothered and massively uncomfortable (16 weeks pregnant and just starting to pop out of normal clothes so my dress was digging in) and just spent 2.5 hours getting home from a client. Parked two doors down as that was the nearest spot. Neighbour turns up in his car just as I park up and sits there with his engine on looking at me aggressively. He eventually gets out and says 'that's my space you can't park there. I have visitors coming'. To which I replied 'it's a public road - there is no allocated parking.' He argued a bit more. I refused to move.
If he'd have been nice about it I might have moved. But his aggression did not mix well with my pregnancy hormones so I stayed put.
Went on holiday the next day (I moved my car in front of our house the next morning) but now worried I might come back to a vandalised house/car and regret arguing with him! I shouldn't have to worry though- he was in the wrong!
What is it with people and parking?! I reckon if you buy a house without a drive - you have to live with the consequences. We don't have a drive either but the most we ever have to park is four or five doors away - it's not the end if the world! And we accept that because we chose a period house over a modern house with a driveway. Grrr
Don't give in to them!

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