I've just logged onto the email account that DH and I share.
In the inbox, there is an email to DH from FIL with two things in the subject heading, and this is the second one.
I looked at the email (not particularly snooping - it's a shared account so please don't flame me) and it's obvious that there has been a conversation where bits have been deleted iyswim.
To give a bit of background, FIL especially is one of the most money grabbing gits I've ever met. He convinced his mother before she died to change her will so that he was favoured over his siblings. He openly admits this. MIL's father died last year, and he keeps going on and on about how they haven't received anything from the estate (MIL's mother is thankfully still with us so I just assumed that it would go to her? Not that it's any of my business of course)
Also, so as not to drip feed, before DH and I got together, FIL had an agreement with DH that, when buying a property, whatever DH put in as a deposit he would match. FIL insisted that this was a written agreement. When we bought the house (which I ploughed all my savings into and my mum and dad helped massively too) FIL announced over dinner that if we split up he wanted his money back with interest. Completely understandable, but actually it had fuck all to do with me - our finances were separate until we got married (which wasn't for years). It wasn't what he said, more the way he said it (he previously told me that DH and I weren't suited and he was surprised that we lasted more than a month - that was 14 years ago).
When my own grandparents passed he wanted to know the ins and outs of their wills. In addition, DH's brother "bought a share" of the family home and DH didn't find out about this until 3 years later.
I don't know why I'm posting. I suppose I'm asking aibu to be a bit pissed off, especially as I dread another onslaught by FIL to find out about our finances. Also DH and I have no secrets whatsoever, aibu to feel a bit hurt/confused as to why this appears to have been covered up?
Reading back, I think I probably am bu. I dislike PILs immensely - that is probably clouding my judgement.
Wibu to ask DH what it's all about? I know for a fact that, if he has covered anything up, it would be because he knows they upset me.
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"Family long term finances" - sorry, it's a long one
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Justfuckitupagain · 24/06/2014 10:26
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