Hi all.
A bit of background - me and said friend have been friends a long time (about 15 years) and are all now about to hit 30 over the next few months. She is normally lovely and I was thrilled when she asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding next year (as indeed she was at mine last year). However she has a complete personality change when she has 'nights out' as she starts drinking heavily and quickly descends from being lovely to be an increasingly inconsiderate, verbally hostile drunk. She has no concept of when she should stop drinking and if others try to stop her drinking gets really rude / hostile to them. So for example at my hen night last year she insisted on dragging me / others to a night club (even though I had always said I didn't want to go clubbing, being my idea of hell), where she upset loads of other people by getting in their faces the whole time (I had to keep dragging her away from people or else she probably would have got hit), then refused to leave the club when it closed, got in an argument with the bouncer, then got really abusive to me and another friend when we said we had to go (the club was closed by this point!), and then we had to stay with her whilst she waited to be picked up by her (now) fiancé because she was in no fit state to be left alone. To be honest she ruined the night for myself and others, and this is pretty typical of how 'nights out' with her tend to go.
I (and others) have tried to talk to her about her behaviour when she drinks and she usually apologises for things she's done, but openly admits she doesn't remember the events and I don't think really has any concept of how difficult she gets. Certainly it doesn't stop her drinking again heavily the next time she goes out.
She has asked me and her other bridesmaid (who I don't know that well) to organise her hen night for her for next May. She wants a 'night out'. I am frankly dreading it, as I know being her hen night she will get exceptionally drunk and will be a nightmare all night, and frankly I just can't be bothered with it any more.
My first baby is due this Sept, and will be about 8 months by the time this hen night comes round. AIBU in organising hen night but saying to said friend in advance that I will be leaving at e,g, 11pm because of having to look after baby the next day, (which is true, although I'm sure DH would help), just to avoid having to deal with her really drunken behaviour? Or is this very un-bridesmaid like and should I just accept that it's her hen night and I should look after her all night and make sure she gets home okay?
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AIBU to be really unenthusiastic about organising / attending friend's hen do?
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KitKat1985 · 17/06/2014 13:14
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