Aibu to be preparing to look and feel crap on upcoming hols

(11 Posts)
Fattymcbatty Tue 17-Jun-14 11:34:15

First world problem, I know, but.....

Going on holiday on sat with DH and ds (7 weeks). Am 3 stone overweight and have a plan, I think (see below!), to tackle that as soon as I'm back from hols and want to have made good progress by my birthday in Nov. Part of me wants to go and buy some lovely holiday clothes in a size 16 so that even if I will look like a beached whale I will feel nice and feel that I look ok. I actually do feel quite happy with the way I look when I make an effort. My wardrobe is currently full of horrid mat clothes. The other part of me doesn't want to go and blow money on 'big' clothes (I realise size 16 is not at all big for everyone but I'm only 5ft 2 and the size 16s are becoming very tight!).

I've realised this shopping/clothes dilemma actually reflects a bigger conflict in my attitude towards my weight - part of me wants to defiantly stay a size 16, embracing and loving the skin I'm in, waving the banner for the 'size doesn't matter if you're healthy' brigade etc (I'm jogging 2/3 times a week and trying to make healthy food choices), and the other half of me damn well wants to be a slim, sexy size 12!

Fire your opinions at me please!!

CoffeeTea103 Tue 17-Jun-14 11:43:20

It seems as though you have a good plan for when you get back. Nothing will change between now and Saturday so I think best to not stress about it and enjoy the holiday smile.

WorraLiberty Tue 17-Jun-14 11:47:57

What CoffeeTea said

When you go on holiday, look around you. You'll see people of all different shapes/sizes/weights, simply having a good time.

Get a couple of new Summer dresses from Primark or somewhere, if you fancy wearing something different.

Then don't worry about anything else until after your holiday.

CarbeDiem Tue 17-Jun-14 12:11:37

Agree with others. Your plan sounds good for when you come back.
Yes to hitting Primark for a few dresses or have look in charity shops to see what you can pick up without spending too much.

Have a lovely hol.

AnythingNotEverything Tue 17-Jun-14 12:18:10

You have a 7 week old baby - give yourself a break!

Enjoy your holiday.

rylansteeth Tue 17-Jun-14 12:20:04

Definitely get yourself some nice bits and pieces to wear in the size that you are now; you'll feel far better if you're wearing something new/nice. They don't have to be expensive; Primark have got loads of lovely items in at the moment. Peacocks, Asda and Tesco are all also worth a look. Just pick up a few basics; maybe a couple of maxi dresses, a couple of pairs of shorts, some vest tops (can't beat the £3 Primark ones!!), a sundress, etc.

Go on holiday and buy lovely clothes to go there.

Decide after you come back what you want to do, day by day. You've a tiny baby to enjoy smile

cato75 Tue 17-Jun-14 12:27:48

I agree with Worra - look around you and you will see people enjoying their holiday. The build up to holidays and occasions can be horrible when you are feeling down about yourself - but once you get there you will start to relax.

mumofthemonsters808 Tue 17-Jun-14 12:28:32

I know how you feel OP, we went on holiday with DS when he was 6 weeks old and I felt that I looked awful. But once I actually got on the holiday all my cares went out of the window. I'd bought a couple of cheap items because I could not fit into any of my clothes and that cheered me up knowing I had some pretty dresses for the evening. When I look at pictures from this holiday I do look bigger than usual but we really had a lovely, lovely holiday. Stressing about your weight can be put off until you come back, just enjoy the experience and perhaps, if you want to, aim to be slimmer for your next one.

There was a funny moment on the beach when my bikini top snapped due to the strain. Thankfully I was covered up with a kaftan type top so no one could see. As soon as I felt the ping I knew it could no longer stand the pressure of my enlarged boobs

Mouthfulofquiz Tue 17-Jun-14 12:30:33

I agree with the folk above - buy yourself a couple of new dresses and tops for the holiday, embrace it, enjoy yourself and then crack on when you get back!
I'm in much the same position - just cracked and bought a pair of jeans in a 14 rather than be uncomfortable while I slim down (also have a little baby - 8 weeks old..) they are feeling slightly loose which is making me happy!!
Have a great time on your hols.

Twitterqueen Tue 17-Jun-14 12:37:40

I too am 5ft 2 and 3 stone overweight and a size 16. Like you I hate it on the one hand as I was always slim and sexy when I was younger.

But on the other hand I have so much other stuff to deal with I just can't make the effort for longer than a week. Also, I have absolutely no intention of ever going out with anyone again so I'm not that bothered.

My advice? Just enjoy yourself. Enjoy your baby. Enjoy your holiday. Enjoy the rest. wine

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