to thin perhaps there is karma.....

(44 Posts)
winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 09:48:59

I was wendied last year.

I thought my Wendy was a good friend until I realised she was actually treating me like a member of her staff.

I quietly faded from her view. Not easy as we had a few mutual friends.

One of my dearest friends then dropped me and became as thick as thieves with my Wendy. She delights in demonstrating how close they are. I was really upset but all over it now. Neither were clearly good friends. Well rid etc.

On two closed groups on FB, someone I don't know has posted a picture of Wendy's car - distinctive car with personalised number plate - trying to shame her for parking in a disabled space without a badge.

The story is that the person who took the picture challenged Wendy over her parking in the disabled space and was told by Wendy that her car is too big to park elsewhere and it's none of the person's business where she parks.

Wendy wouldn't care if a quadriplegic needed the space and she certainly wouldn't be bothered by someone challenging her over this.

Lots of people in these closed groups are reposting the photo onto various other groups to "shame" this person.

Now I am doing / saying nothing but I do have a little spark of schadenfreude at this.

Aibu?

FunkyBoldRibena Sun 15-Jun-14 09:51:57

No not at all. Chuckle away.

Yanu

You'll get creamed though after all the threads on how the best revenge is living well and it's wrong to take pleasure in others misfortune.

But she parked in a disabled space when she didn't need it so hopefully everyone will see her for the utter arse she is.

YouTheCat Sun 15-Jun-14 09:54:13

People who park in disabled bays who aren't disabled (and I don't mean those with hidden disabilities here) should be shamed, over and over again.

What a twat!

pianodoodle Sun 15-Jun-14 09:56:31

Pity it's a closed group less people will see it.

You could get someone to copy it and re-post it on their general facebook (and share it lots)

pianodoodle Sun 15-Jun-14 09:56:50

Or not... of course grin

YouTheCat Sun 15-Jun-14 09:58:44

Or send the picture to 'parklikeatwat' grin

Wider coverage.

brokenhearted55a Sun 15-Jun-14 09:58:59

Karma means action or doing.
It isnt a divine force that punishes peopke for past bad behaviour. That is the western take on it.

you all sound like a pack of 5 years olds.

winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 10:01:58

I'm not getting involved in any way

Pack of five year olds? Why? Because someone else did something they shouldn't and posters are agreeing?

Forgive me for not understanding the proper meaning of karma.

Tinkerball Sun 15-Jun-14 10:05:05

Yanbu!

brokenhearted55a Sun 15-Jun-14 10:07:18

Do you really think the universe cares enough to divinely punish an inconsequential individual for not being your friend anymore,etc.

That's why it sounds so childish. Why do you care that people dont like her anymore and take pleasure from it. Again its very childish to gloat.

winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 10:12:24

Of course I don't think the universe is at all interested.

I was being tongue in cheek.

Get off your high horse.

I can't say I've ever seen karma as a 'divine force', just a shorthand for the old adage 'be sure your sins will find you out' which always sounds a bit hellfire and brimstone to me.

And it's true. If you behave in a particular way, people will respond to that behaviour. If you're always nasty, people will back off at high speed. If you are sly with your nastiness (as a Wendy is) you will still (eventually) be found out because such people have to make an unnatural effort to appear nice, and they're bound to forget to do that from time to time. And when a Wendy is found out, the people they hoodwinked react to both the nastiness and the deceit.

You're Wendy could have kept the game going had she responded differently (Oh, I didn't realise, I'm so embarrassed I did that ...) but she reverted to type, her cover was blown and the reposting of the photo is good old karma / her sin finding her out.

YANBU to feel a bit of schadenfreude grin.

Nomama Sun 15-Jun-14 10:17:32

Ach, gloat away.

Sometimes people just hand stuff to you on a plate. It would be churlish to refuse her gift - and there is nothing wrong with the occasional childish giggle grin

ThrowAChickenInTheAir Sun 15-Jun-14 10:20:30

Yanbu (I think most of us understood what Winky meant by 'Karma')

Smilesandpiles Sun 15-Jun-14 11:43:42

I'd send the picture to the police.

winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 15:21:45

It's not illegal to park in disabled spaces, is it?

Smilesandpiles Sun 15-Jun-14 15:28:40

*It is an offence to park a vehicle in a Blue Badge parking bay, without displaying a Blue Badge. If you see this happening you should report it to a traffic attendant or the local police.

Police officers and traffic attendants have the right to inspect Blue Badges. It is an offence to refuse or fail to produce a badge for inspection, without reasonable excuse. This offence carries a maximum fine of £1,000*

From here www.nidirect.gov.uk/misuse-of-parking-spaces-for-disabled-people

winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 15:31:31

Ohhhhhhhh. I did not know this. Thanks.

PigeonPie Sun 15-Jun-14 15:32:13

She obviously has a disability - it's one of an incapability of actually driving her car grin.

I speak as a blue badge holder and it really cheeses me off when I see cars who don't have badges using the spaces.

NynaevesSister Sun 15-Jun-14 15:33:14

I'm on one of those groups (for mums) and saw that and was really shocked at her behaviour. Did you spill the beans and message the person posting? They were after her identity.

winkywinkola Sun 15-Jun-14 15:45:07

No I didn't give her name. I said I knew her and that she was no longer a friend.

Plus she was harangued in the shop by the person who asked her why she was parking in a disable space. I don't think that's right either.

The poster made his point to her and should have left it at that, not followed her round the shop, telling other shoppers and the shop manager what she had done.

Smilesandpiles Sun 15-Jun-14 15:47:44

That's EXACTLY what he should have done and good on him.

The more people who are picked up on this selfish behaviour the better.

Tryharder Sun 15-Jun-14 15:51:39

Hmm.

I'm not sure what a Wendy is.

But whether this woman is nice or not, I wouldn't be comfortable with cyber bullying by adults.

And as reporting it to the police. Really?

YouTheCat Sun 15-Jun-14 15:55:18

If you were in need of that disabled space would you be so forgiving, Tryharder? I think not.

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