to think she should have said something?

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janesxx Sat 14-Jun-14 23:33:01

so I saw my friend in the street and stopped to talk briefly, while we were talking this little boy (about 5/6) came out of nowhere, ran up to my 1 year old son, grabbed his head with both hands and kissed him on the lips!!

I was totally in shock at the way he grabbed him, his mother then walked past and said "aw he loves babies" and carried on walking.. I wish I had have said something now.. AIBU to think she should have told him NOT to grab random babies and kiss them on the mouth!?

bearing in mind my son has an autoimmune diseases and is extremely vulnerable to getting ill off germs (he has to have everything sterilized still and therefore I dont even kiss him on the lips!)

AgentZigzag Sat 14-Jun-14 23:38:59

It is a bit of an unusual thing to happen, and YANBU to be protective of your DS, but there's not much you can do about such a random event.

BrianTheMole Sat 14-Jun-14 23:43:21

It is random. The likelihood of that happening again is tiny. Its quite sweet really, but I see your point. Even though it would have been after the event maybe you should have explained to him.

FunkyBoldRibena Sat 14-Jun-14 23:45:27

Should she have said ''that baby might have an autoimmune disease, don't go kissing babies on the mouth'. How do you know her son hasn't got learning difficulties?

It's a random thing, not much you can do to be honest.

Totally in shock is a bit of am overreaction to a small boy kissing your son

If germs are so bad you may need to think about more protection for him

petalunicorn Sat 14-Jun-14 23:52:45

My DS (similar age) went up to a one year old boy at top speed and ruffled his hair then raced off. The mum and I were both shocked, I hadn't known what he was going to do and if I was the mum I would have been worried he was going to hit him. I apologised, said he'd never done anything like that before (true) and caught up with DS. I asked him why he did it and he said that the boy just looked so cute that he wanted to, he said he'd never seen such a cute little kid (!). We had a talk about boundaries and I don't think he'd do it again but I guess these things happen with this age group (and the little boy was super cute btw).

janesxx Sat 14-Jun-14 23:54:39

just because he has something wrong with his immune system doesnt mean im not going to take him out the house? I didnt exactly expect that to happen! & I live next to a very rough estate and the kids there act appallingly so when that boy ran out of there and grabbed my son I was rather shocked how would I know what he was going to do?

BrianTheMole Sat 14-Jun-14 23:56:07

I'm sure it could have been put across in a simpler manner than that Funky regardless of learning difficulties.

FloozeyLoozey Sat 14-Jun-14 23:56:16

Op are you pulling our leg?

EyelinerQueen Sat 14-Jun-14 23:57:28

A germ ridden urchin from a rough estate????

You should have shot him on the spot OP. Bloody vermin.

Bowlersarm Sun 15-Jun-14 00:00:46

Aw, he was 5. Quite a sweet thing to do really. Better than clocking him one, or pushing him over.

janesxx Sun 15-Jun-14 00:00:49

did I say any of that? NO.. I said a rough estate, nothing about the boy!

OohQuack Sun 15-Jun-14 00:04:08

I don't mind other kids coming and kissing/hugging/hair ruffling it's cute and they get to be social, he sometimesllet's them and sometimes pushes them away. He doesn't however have autoimmune issues, I may feel more tigress mother if he did

Viviennemary Sun 15-Jun-14 00:04:20

Well I'd think no harm done. And I suppose the child meant well. Would it have been better if he'd come from a naice estate and rushed out of a 4 x 4. I expect so.

No harm was done. It was a kiss not a wallop

janesxx Sun 15-Jun-14 00:08:56

the only reason I mentioned the estate is because the kids there sit and throw stones at passing cars/swear at people walking past and all sorts which made me wary! im not being stuck up because I came from a council estate, I didnt once say anything nasty about the boy & I DO think it is a cute thing to do but if I was the mother id have said no dont do that, im so protective because of his condition so people with negative posts eff off and stop trying to make ME look like the bad person. .

janesxx Sun 15-Jun-14 00:10:04

& yes I know its only a kiss but harm could have been done as my son can get very ill over germs that are harmless to other babies his age!

But you are saying it about the boy or you wouldn't be mentioning 'rough estate' and 'not knowing what he was going to do' - he's a wee boy who kissed a baby, there's no reason for shock

If he has a compromised immune system and he's only one years old maybe it would be better if he's in a buggy with a cover so that no one can kiss him

BolshierAyraStark Sun 15-Jun-14 00:11:59

Maybe she spoke to him when they got home.

It was harmless & really quite sweet-did your child enjoy it?

Iswallowedawatermelon Sun 15-Jun-14 00:12:44

I understand your concern but it could have been worse. The boy could have bit your boy!

Bowlersarm Sun 15-Jun-14 00:12:49

This is AIBU OP, so you really don't have the right to tell posters to "eff off" because they don't agree with you.

janesxx Sun 15-Jun-14 00:13:04

by mentioning the estate im just saying I know what the boys there are capable of!

yellowrose2728 Sun 15-Jun-14 00:13:10

Please excuse my ignorance, but if your dc suffers from something potentially very dangerous, at 1 yo,would he not have been in a pushchair protected?

Not meaning to sound flippant by the way... Just to try and understand a little more smile

And you are responsible for looking after your son so if it's essential that he's kept away from germs you're going to have to put proper procedures in place.

You seem to have done nothing but take him outside, uncovered - and then stand by in shock when someone touched him confused

It makes no sense - what procedures do you have in place?

Why are his orifices not covered - nose, mouth?

yellowrose2728 Sun 15-Jun-14 00:14:39

X post laurie - glad I'm not alone in my thoughts.

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