I've recently started attending a local children's centre where I've had a few unpleasant encounters with the lady leading the mother and toddler sessions.
She is very friendly towards the other participants and other people's babies (will make an extra effort to greet them, chat to them and make eye contact with them). However, with me and my daughter, she completely ignores us. The first time it happened I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and to he honest I'm too thick skinned to take offence, but when she makes no eye contact at all with my daughter (12 months) whilst singing, interacting and smiling with ALL the other babies/toddlers (on average about 8), I was disturbed and a little upset, as my daughter noticed it too (and she is still very small). As polite manners go, I have made an extra effort to be nice to her ( I say hello and thank her after each session).
The only thing different about me is that I wear hijab (visibly Muslim) and I'm well spoken (but not in an in your face kind of way). Most of the other mums are foreigners (eastern europeans) and only one is English. Ironically it's an area that is mainly non white with plenty of Muslims and foreigners (but sadly a deprived area), and having moved just recently from a mainly white city, but a very well educated one (where I've had no problems at all), this has come as quite a surprise to me. I am used to being given the look, people ignoring me etc because I am a Muslim, but I feel quite upset that my daughter has to face this (or maybe it's all part of her learning/development too sadly?)
It doesn't help of course that the media is constantly (almost daily) on the case with Muslims (I avoid reading the news sometimes - it's just too depressing, and there's only so much defending you can do!). Furthermore, some politicians like Gove who use Muslim bashing for political gain, don't seem to realise the real life implications their outrageous comments have.
Considering that the children's centre is in an area where there are many Muslims, and based on my experience with her, AIBU to put in a complaint about this lady's behaviour, or should I confront her in a non confrontational manner (ask her if I've done something to upset her) or just let it go (as my mother would say, just leave it and move on)?
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To place a complaint or gently confront this lady?
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ShineSmile · 13/06/2014 11:23
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