Would you go on this trip?

[Varfalli34]

I am going away for a work trip long haul next week. It is work but it is an event and it is quite a treat as I am also able to bring a guest (expenses paid). My DH can’t get time off work so I am bringing a friend. I will be away for 4 nights (essentially the whole working week). A good friend of ours will be helping DH out with DS nursery pick up and DH is able to work from home on one of the days so it should be fine. But it will still be a lot for DH to juggle as I usually leave work early, do nursery pick up, supper etc.

A few other colleagues have invited me and my friend to stay on for a few nights to make the most of the fact we are having flights paid for. By most standards it would be a very cheap holiday. BUT it will still probably cost about £150 and it means staying away three extra nights (so I would be away the whole week and coming back Monday morning to come straight into work). And we are reasonably strapped for cash at the moment (we are fine but we don’t have much money for any extras). We are also going away to a festival the following weekend (not costing), then going on holiday the weekend after that (not costing us much as we paid for our flights last year and got them for a song and staying with friends, but still costing some as it always does a bit) and to a wedding the weekend after that (only cost is present and petrol as we can stay with family). I’m also nearly 7 months pregnant. Writing it down I am thinking I sound like a lunatic for considering going.

But what do you think? The reason I want to go is because come August (new baby arrives) that is it for me for going out and holidays etc for a while and I really do want to make the most of the fact I can have some fun (the first 6 months/a year of my first DS’ life was v tough as he was/still is a horrendous sleeper). I also feel like it is such a shame to miss an opportunity to have a lovely holiday that almost totally paid for.

On the flipside I feel slightly bad for my DH that he will have to hold the fort for a whole week while I live it up and do spend a bit of money that ideally we shouldn’t be spending. I know I have every right to have some fun once in a while but I wonder if I was posting this saying my husband wants to go away for a week, spend money, leave me to do everything at home etc I might get a lot of ‘thoughtless DH’ responses?

[whois]

I'd go but discuss it with DH first.

[Varfalli34]

Have discussed with DH and he says he wants me to make the most and not miss an opportunity but a bit overwhelmed with how much we have going on. He basically says it's totally up to me.

[ThinkFirst]

Your DH says to make the most of it, so go. It's not like you're taking a week out to go party, most of the trip is business with a couple of days added on to have fun, so don't feel guilty.

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

If it's long haul it's a lot of effort to go just for four nights. You may as well take the extra three esp as your DH has said it's up to you.

Don't feel guilty, you are allowed time away from husband and kids etc and as you are 7 month pg those last 3 days will be nice for you to just recharge your batteries before going back home.

[Hoppinggreen]

Are you allowed to fly long haul at 7 months pg?
I thought not but if I'm wrong then ignore me and go and have some fun ( or more likely relaxation)

[AlpacaLypse]

I think I'd do it. If you come home for the weekend you'll probably end up doing tiring stuff with ds. £150 is peanuts really in the great scheme of things.

[redexpat]

It does sound a lot. Are you one of those people who can bounce from one thing to the next? I need breathing space. But I totally get that it is a good opportunity for a little holiday.

Also, would your DH feel so guilty for leaving you for a week? It's a one off. Just pitch in with a bit of extra preparation before you go. And if you choose to go I would make absolutely sure that the weekend following all of that you all do absolutely nothing.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I would do it. If your DH is OK with it, I'd go

Have a lovely time

[JennySense]

at 7 months you may need some r&r after longhaul so make the most of it x

[StarGazeyPond]

Are you sure you're allowed to fly at 7 months pregnant? And..........I hope you have really really good holiday insurance that covers pregnancy and birth !!

[littlesupersparks]

No I wouldn't. It would be tough on my DH, I would be tired and I would miss my kids. By the end of the busy month I would be so exhausted and would struggle to get over it before baby. I'd do the minimum (and I've had 2 exceptionally easy pregnancies!)

That doesn't mean you shouldn't go though x

[Varfalli34]

Yes you can fly (just) I did a long haul around this time with my last. There is a company that specialises in preg insurance that mega insure you. It is much more expensive than normal insurance obviously but covers up to 10 million in medical expenses and includes things like accommodation, partner travel etc.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

I think if DH is happy with being in sole charge for a full week and the money isn't too much of a stretch for you then I think you should go for it :)

[BolshierAyraStark]

I wouldn't but that's me & I'd feel crap leaving the burden on DH-more so if we didn't really have the cash to spare. Would also miss DC's way too much.

That doesn't mean to say you shouldn't though.

[Varfalli34]

Oh lord now I can't decide. Was going to go for it but little and Stark you do make good points. Am I going to be completely exhausted and therefore a total bastard when I'm back?

[Mrsjayy]

Oh just make the most of it your family will be fine just stay a few days longer

[calmet]

Just go and enjoy it.

[littlesupersparks]

I'm sorry - I replied as me not you!! I am a real homebody and don't enjoy being away from home. You know what would suit you xxx

[ManchesterAunt]

Oh I would run! But my baby is 1 and it feels like forever till i can have a break.

[BrokenToeOuch]

Your DH is okay with it, you're keen on the idea, GO!
But with 3dc I take any opportunity I get given to escape for a bit It's only a week, if it were 2 weeks I'd be hesitant (but still go!)

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

Go! Enjoy it! Your DH is ok with it and it's the last chance you'll get to do something indulgent for quite some time.

If it makes you feel better, perhaps you could offer your DH a similar opportunity at some point before the baby arrives?

[magpiegin]

I would go. Your husband will be fine! Opportunities don't come around every day. We had a similar situation last year and I am so glad I seized the day!

[Nanny0gg]

Bloody hell!

Go, relax at the end and enjoy!

[Bowlersarm]

I'd go. He'll manage and is supportive. You want to go. It's only an extra 3 nights which is nothing. Go!

[DoJo]

Are you more likely to regret doing it or not doing it? Because in a month's time, you will have caught up on sleep and be preparing for your new arrival either way - unless you think it will place an intolerable strain on your marriage, going on the trip will be a better memory to enjoy.