DP has a large group of friends from university they meet up a couple of times a year and go on weekends away etc.
One of that group of friends is his exgirlfriend. I have no problem with them being friends or going on holiday together, they split up two years ago (we've been together about 9 months) after it fizzled out and DP doesn't have feelings for her anymore.
However, after they went away the last time DP was quite upset when he came home as it became quite apparant that she still had feelings for him (anyone could have told him this, every time she posts something on facebook he is tagged in it, she comments on every thing he does etc) neither does this bother me and I refuse to get involved or even express an opinion on the subject as this is an issue that he needs to sort out with her in his own way.
A couple of months ago I went with him to a birthday party of one of the friends in this group and on the whole they are very nice and I had a great time, all apart from one woman who is really good friends with the ex. She wasn't outright rude but it was very clear that I was an outsider and she wasn't happy with me and DP being together.
Now I understand that her friend is upset that DP has moved on and that she would like to get back together with him, but they split up before I even met DP let alone started dating him. The woman with the problem is having a birthday soon and DP has asked me to go along. I don't really want to for a number of reasons, I have way too much on at the moment to spend a whole weekend away but most of all I don't really feel welcome. That said, he wants me to go and I feel that the more that I am there the more she will all get used to the idea that he's moved on.
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calculatorsatdawn · 05/06/2014 10:26
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