to have taken DD to A+E?(50 Posts)
DD is 5yo and suddenly got really ill this afternoon. She had a temp of 39, headache, stomach pain, felt sick and she was really lethargic. Thought it was just a virus so gave her calpol and stuck her in front of the tv. Temp went down to 38 but she was shivering and saying she felt cold.
Then when I was putting her to bed she starting crying with stomach pain and said that the light hurt her eyes. I took her straight to A+E.
We had a 3 hr wait while she just lay in my lap and then suddenly she perked up and her temp seemed to have gone. 5 mins later we saw the dr who was very dismissive and gave me the impression that she thought I was a time waster and shouldn't have come to A+E.
I did explain about DD's earlier symptoms but she was such a different girl when the dr saw her, she was even giggling!
I just feel a bit shit now that I have wasted everyone's time and don't want the hospital to have given me a black mark as a hypochondriac or anything!
WIBU to take her straight to A+E?
YANBU, it was impossible to tell what was going to happen in your circumstances .
Doctor is obviously not a parent yet!
Little buggers all do it.
I once took DS1 to A&E in the middle of the night, really scared.
Within minutes of arriving he was fine and enjoying the adventure.
At home he was throwing up, shaking, high temp, horrible rash.
DD did it at 10 weeks old. Refusing feeds even though she was clearly hungry. Screaming a weird high pitched cry, absolutely inconsolable. Phoned 111 and got an appointment at OOH. Waited for an hour in the waiting room with a very grumpy baby who I had to continually rock else she screamed again. Went in to see the doctor, she stopped screaming and smiled at him!
Hell, I even did it a couple of weeks ago. I have Crohn's and suffered with a sudden severe pain to the side of my abdomen. I tried going to the toilet and ended up having to crawl back down the stairs, the pain was so bad. So I took some codeine and grabbed a hot water bottle, but neither touched the pain. We made arrangements for DD to go to a relative, DH packed her stuff while I writhed on the floor. Dropped DD off and the pain was easing (though still bloody painful). Got to hospital and by the time I was seen by a doctor I was feeling fine and to be honest, a bit silly about the whole thing!
Happened with 4 month old DS with a rash and puffy eyes. All disappeared by the time we saw the OOH doctor. And we're both HCP!
Yanbu at all, I think anyone would be terrified in that situation. Much as it might have been frustrating for the Dr if they had children themselves they would surely understand. It's the way it goes sometimes with children and they can equally be absolutely fine one minute or just mildly ill and then suddenly seem very, very ill. Don't feel bad about yourself. Better that you took her and all was well than you didn't and she turned out to be really poorly. You were doing your job as a mum!
I was spoken to very sternly by a doctor because my daughter apparently just had a stomach virus and to take her home, give her calpol and let her sleep it off. She had leukaemia. YANBU.
My uncle is a GP - babies are well known for perking up at the wrong time.
Your doctor was very unreasonable
Yanbu, my 3 year old dd had your classic viral infection, something did not sit right so I called an ambulance, dd had aggressive bacterial pneumonia. She never came home, that was 8 weeks ago. I wouldn't wish this torture on my worst enemy, children go down hill so quickly, but also perk up so quickly. Am glad your dd is feeling lots better, don't feel shit about it either. Xx
We took DS1 to hospital with wheezing when we were on holiday once. As it wasn't our local hospital they obviously didn't know us.
DS1 is a classic 'happy Wheezer' - he was barely able to breathe, but still running around the waiting area and playing.
The receptionist obviously had us down as time wasters, giving us cat's bum mouth looks, and it took the triage nurse almost an hour to come see us despite it being the middle of the night with no-one else waiting.
Once he'd been assessed, the nurse had him on oxygen straight away as his oxygen levels were so low.
I'm so so sorry for your loss cathpip
Oh cathpip , I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin, I am sorry
If you have an OOH service linked to your surgery, then you were being unreasonable to go straight to A&E.
When my DD was about 18 months she caught her arm of the sofa, cried for a while but then refused to move it.
We went to A&E convinced it was broken, went in to the Doctor and explained she just wouldn't move it and was holding it still to her side and crying if we touched it at all. Emphasis on WOULDNT move it!!
As Doc got closer she reached up with unmoveable arm, grabbed his glasses and chucked them across the room while laughing and the clapped her hands for a bit!!
DOc said it's not uncommon and they would rather see a well child brought there for no reason than one who was severely ill who was brought on too late
Op Yanbu, dr was an arse. It shouldn't matter how hectic a&e has been official line should be "rather see a small child make a sudden recovery than miss one that's seriously sick"
cathpip I'm so so sorry, there aren't words
"Bit just as an aside - unless your child has a particular reason for not having it, it's a good idea to always given nurofen as well as calpol, it's much better for temperatures."
No, it isn't. The temperature itself is a good thing. It means the body can fight infection. Ibuprofen or paracetamol should be used when the child is miserable for pain/distress etc to make them feel better.
Antipyretic agents do not prevent febrile convulsions and should not be used specifically for this purpose.
When using paracetamol or ibuprofen in children with fever;
continue only as long as the child appears distressed
consider changing to the other agent if the child's distress is not alleviated
do not give both agents simultaneously
only consider alternating these agents if the distress persists or recurs before the next dose is due.
Oh cathpip. I'm so sorry.
It goes to show that you can't be too careful. I would have done the same.
Hope she's fully better now.
That's terrible, cathpip. I am very sorry.
Thankfully in most cases, A&E doctors and GPs are very used to seeing ill children that suddenly seem completely fine when they arrive. It happens to doctors' children as well!
Yanbu hospitals have magic doors!! Similar thing happened to me with the ooh GP! Hope she is on the mend, don't feel bad and don't let it put you off doing the same if there is a next time
Thank you everyone, you've made me feel a lot better and less stupid!
Cathpip I'm so sorry, I can't imagine what you must be going through
My 3 year old has done that to me too, a few weeks ago. Within a couple of hours she went from fine to lethargic, floppy, raging temperature and vomiting. Took her to a&e, saw triage nurse who said she was indeed poorly and we were given a bed in resus for her. By the time the doctor came round to see her she was sitting up and singing . Turned out she only had a UTI, but the doctor and nurses were so nice and kind about it.
My 4y DD started screaming with pain one afternoon. Sheer terror in her eyes. I panicked and made emergency appointment with GP.
One hour later when going to GP she was fine just looked pale and tired.
I felt very guilty going to GP and considered cancelling.....
GP checked her and said I should take her to A&E as he suspected appendix but he said very unlikely. I go to hospital by taxi and still felt silly as she seemed okayish.
Then at hospital she turned yellow and had blood in urine.
With ambulance to Great Ormond Street.
She had burst appendix and developed peritonitis.
Emergency operation and 10 days hospital. She was 24 hours away from death.....
So my advise..... Never ever regret taking your child to A&E if you think something is wrong.... My dd seemed better but clearly wasn't.
Yep. DD had a temp. Took her in, and it was back down to normal.
They did all the tests anyway just to make sure it wasn't anything serious.
DD once had a long nosebleed. It went on for 2hrs (it was like a flood, DH had to run out to get more tissues!), called up for advice, they advised me to go the hospital, they could cauterise it there. Takes half an hour to get to hospital due to traffic. Dries up in the car park 2hrs 45mins after starting. She ended up needing to be cauterised anyway when she had a similar bleed which didn't stop for hours too, but that was so annoying for both of us!
Cathpip I am so, so sorry
cantbelievethisishappening im sorry too. did that doctor ever know he got it so wrong? I don't believe in blaming doctors (unless blame is due obviously), but I do feel that doctors with such a bad manner needs feedback so he can learn from his crashing inappropriate manner and never do it again.
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