Our family had 3 deaths in 3 weeks of 2 close family members and a friend. Alongside job interviews and exams so a stressful month. The latest death happened on the first saturday of half term and was quite sudden. As a consequence my dds homework from half term was not done. (dd is 7 and in yr 3) it was totally forgotten about tbh. The homework came home via a text message with very vague instructions. On monday I wrote a note to the class teacher explaining the situation and apologising. DD came out of school on Monday upset as she had been shouted at for not doing the work. So I went to speak to the teacher,asked if she had got the note. She said she had BUT that the work needed to be done, at the latest by today.(Today was the funeral) I explained we couldn't do it (quite a significant amount of work) but she said she must do the work as it is vital for her SATS and she would be very behind if she didn't do it. I was gobsmacked that a the work was so important but there was no mention of this when it was set. b that the teacher was so rude and abrupt she just demanded that the work was done no empathy for the fact we were having a tough time at all.
I walked away really upset and went home and started to do the homework. DH (A primary teacher) came home to an upset wife and dd so immediately called the head teacher and asked what the issue was. She apologised and said that teacher had dealt with it poorly and would get back to us, which she did. Stating that dd could do the work in class with a TA. Again DD came out of school upset as teacher had shouted at her for doing the homework, so coming back from a funeral I had that to deal with very upset dd again. I will add this is the only homework not completed in 3 yrs and we always do reading and do are usually supportive of the school.
AIBU?
or is the teacher
flixybelle · 04/06/2014 21:30
She's 7 FFS! If she was 16 and doing GCSE's I could understand a little. Teacher is being an absolute insensitive twat. I would make a formal complaint personally there is absolutely no need to upset your dd twice because of some shitty homework. I would be raging if it was my dd.
I'm sorry for your losses. 
Sorry you've had such a horrible time 
I would have no compunction about skipping homework just to have fun over half term, never mind in your circumstances. The teacher is an arse. Primary homework is basically for the benefit of the parents. And anything essential needs to be done in class time. Plus SATS aren't for three years. There is nothing even slightly reasonable about what the teacher has said and done. I would make a formal complaint.
Also SATS smats! My dd1 is in year 6, she's Dyslexic and has never taken SATS in the whole 8 years she's been in primary school. They're obviously not that important, only important for this teacher. 
Another primary teacher here - I'm gobsmacked. Please take it up with the head - I'd put it in writing and request a meeting.
No sats until year 6 so she is talking utter bollocks. They may have an internal reading assessment coming up but that should be done in school.
I'm sorry you're having such a tough time and hope things get easier soon
Agree with everyone else.
My dc wouldn't be doing homework in the holidays anyway (in Yr3 - I encourage it in Yr11 
) even without your circumstances, but with all that's happened, and the fact you explained it in a note, that should have been the end of it.
Unbelievable that it wasn't at that point, but even more so that she was then told off again the next day after your dh had spoken to the HT.
Oh, I'm a teacher too, as well as a parent.
Sorry for all your losses - that must be really difficult to be coping with.
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