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(52 Posts)
flixybelle Wed 04-Jun-14 21:30:39

Our family had 3 deaths in 3 weeks of 2 close family members and a friend. Alongside job interviews and exams so a stressful month. The latest death happened on the first saturday of half term and was quite sudden. As a consequence my dds homework from half term was not done. (dd is 7 and in yr 3) it was totally forgotten about tbh. The homework came home via a text message with very vague instructions. On monday I wrote a note to the class teacher explaining the situation and apologising. DD came out of school on Monday upset as she had been shouted at for not doing the work. So I went to speak to the teacher,asked if she had got the note. She said she had BUT that the work needed to be done, at the latest by today.(Today was the funeral) I explained we couldn't do it (quite a significant amount of work) but she said she must do the work as it is vital for her SATS and she would be very behind if she didn't do it. I was gobsmacked that a the work was so important but there was no mention of this when it was set. b that the teacher was so rude and abrupt she just demanded that the work was done no empathy for the fact we were having a tough time at all.

I walked away really upset and went home and started to do the homework. DH (A primary teacher) came home to an upset wife and dd so immediately called the head teacher and asked what the issue was. She apologised and said that teacher had dealt with it poorly and would get back to us, which she did. Stating that dd could do the work in class with a TA. Again DD came out of school upset as teacher had shouted at her for doing the homework, so coming back from a funeral I had that to deal with very upset dd again. I will add this is the only homework not completed in 3 yrs and we always do reading and do are usually supportive of the school.

Lottiedoubtie Wed 04-Jun-14 21:33:23

Teacher obviously utterly unreasonable.

No year three pupil is doing vital homework for sats, that's just utter bollocks.

Go back to the HT and make a formal complaint.

littlegreengloworm Wed 04-Jun-14 21:34:00

The teacher is in the wrong.

I am so sorry for your loss. I would go to the head again and put I in writing. It sounds to me lie you have an excellent track record, a lot of grief to deal with, but I wouldn't let this go I'm afraid. How insensitive (I am a teacher)

ilovesooty Wed 04-Jun-14 21:35:34

You already have feedback from the HT that the teacher handled this poorly, so you need to get back to him/her.

Sorry for your loss-sounds like a tough time.

RinkyDinkyDoo Wed 04-Jun-14 21:38:08

As a primary school teacher, I think your child's teacher was an absolute knob. No homework is worth getting upset over,I always say this to the parents of children in my class, and you have had a personally extremely stressful and upsetting time of late. Teacher well out of order.

ExCinnamon Wed 04-Jun-14 21:38:25

The teacher iBVU, she/he should be ashamed of him/herself to upset your daughter like that.

Hulababy Wed 04-Jun-14 21:42:26

The teacher is definitely being unreasonable.

I am a HLTA (in a primary school) and was a teacher.

Nothing a year 3 child is doing is so important that it has to take priority over grief and funerals. As for the SATs comment - well, the next SATs he does are in year 6 - another 3+ years to go. Nothing is only covered only once.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Wed 04-Jun-14 21:47:04

Definitely unreasonable and very insensitive. I would be having words with the teacher and her line manager/headteacher. Seriously, there are more important things than h/w especially when you are 7.

Teacher sounds bonkers! Go back to head.

Sats benefit the school. Not the child.

Ignore if you can.

Sorry for all your losses

MidniteScribbler Wed 04-Jun-14 21:49:45

Absolutely unreasonable teacher. Homework is of very little importance, and if I did set something that was necessary (eg some research for a project that we were working on, etc) then the student could do it either in class or at our weekly homework club during lunch break. There is never an excuse for upsetting a child (and her family by extension) over something so ridiculous as not doing homework.

Scholes34 Wed 04-Jun-14 21:49:58

I'm very supportive of teachers, but on this occasion I'd say stuff the SATs and very politely and calmly make your displeasure of the teacher's attitude known to the head and governors.

flixybelle Wed 04-Jun-14 21:50:53

Thank you for the replies. I did think the teacher had been unreasonable but thought I was being over sensitive as I am v stressed at the mo.
The SATS comment is for this years literacy SAT which they haven't taken yet. The comment was made to me and then made to dd again today that she would struggle with the literacy paper if she hadn't done it! Its for the independent writing exercise.

chilephilly Wed 04-Jun-14 21:51:04

I'm a teacher.
I'm disgusted. Homework in your circumstances? No way would I expect it to be done. Homework in Y3 is stupid anyway

TheUnburnt Wed 04-Jun-14 21:53:45

She's 7 FFS! If she was 16 and doing GCSE's I could understand a little. Teacher is being an absolute insensitive twat. I would make a formal complaint personally there is absolutely no need to upset your dd twice because of some shitty homework. I would be raging if it was my dd.

I'm sorry for your losses. flowers

cornflakegirl Wed 04-Jun-14 21:54:41

Sorry you've had such a horrible time thanks
I would have no compunction about skipping homework just to have fun over half term, never mind in your circumstances. The teacher is an arse. Primary homework is basically for the benefit of the parents. And anything essential needs to be done in class time. Plus SATS aren't for three years. There is nothing even slightly reasonable about what the teacher has said and done. I would make a formal complaint.

Wolfiefan Wed 04-Jun-14 21:55:26

I'm a teacher too. The teacher is being very unreasonable.
I'm so sorry for your losses.
Go back to the Head. This needs sorting.

Littlefish Wed 04-Jun-14 21:55:37

1. Year 3 sats are not compulsory - this is just the school's own chosen method of assessment.
2. It is completely wrong of the teacher to expect supporting work to be completed as homework. Any supporting work should be done in the classroom.
3. The teacher handled this incredibly badly. I would write to the headteacher and complain most vigorously about the second telling off.

TheUnburnt Wed 04-Jun-14 21:55:39

Also SATS smats! My dd1 is in year 6, she's Dyslexic and has never taken SATS in the whole 8 years she's been in primary school. They're obviously not that important, only important for this teacher. hmm

flixybelle Wed 04-Jun-14 21:56:41

I am a parent governor at the school btw. I have already been in to speak to the HT regarding the teachers attitude last term when she told the class that a reward the class had won would be taken away because they were so badly behaved (which is not true for the majority) and when challenged on it the teacher lied and said she never said that, despite the children all saying the same thing and the prize being put back by several weeks. My issue being if my child or any childs behaviour was so bad to warrant such a big punishment then parents should be aware of the problems.

defineme Wed 04-Jun-14 22:00:33

I know you're stressed and I am sorry for the awful time your family is having, but please follow this up. Straight to the Head again because this teacher is out of kilter with every primary teacher I know and I know lots of them!

mindthegap79 Wed 04-Jun-14 23:06:37

Another primary teacher here - I'm gobsmacked. Please take it up with the head - I'd put it in writing and request a meeting.

No sats until year 6 so she is talking utter bollocks. They may have an internal reading assessment coming up but that should be done in school.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time and hope things get easier soon thanks

flixybelle Wed 04-Jun-14 23:28:01

Thank you everyone I will make an appointment with HT just wanted to check I wasn't making a fuss over something and nothing.

clam Wed 04-Jun-14 23:47:39

Another teacher here agreeing that this is bang out of line. SATs aren't done in Year 3, obviously, and even the non-statutory assessments (which are designed to look like SATs papers) are meant to be used as an aide to teachers' assessments, not to run like flipping GCSEs.

Go back to the Head.

Nanny0gg Wed 04-Jun-14 23:55:48

So what the teacher is actually worried about is that the result of the internal test that the Year 3s are about to do will reflect badly on the teacher.

Go and talk to the HT again, and also put your complaint in writing.

Dreadful.

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