Expect DH to Facebook defriend OW after affair ended?

(78 Posts)
st273447 Wed 04-Jun-14 16:10:47

So the affair has ended and DH committed to our relationship, but my DH is still FB friends with OW?

Should I have to ask to defriend or am I being unreasonable?

ManchesterAunt Wed 04-Jun-14 16:13:19

How could you even think you would be unreasonable in asking that? confused

DeepThought Wed 04-Jun-14 16:13:32

Of course he should defriend and block

Omg at him not doing it yet

Slightly concerning that he hasn't - did he end the affair in front of you, have you got full unfettered access to his emails, phone, tablet etc?

AnyFucker Wed 04-Jun-14 16:14:15

You have to ask us this ?

LEMmingaround Wed 04-Jun-14 16:14:18

Its not over

WowserBowser Wed 04-Jun-14 16:14:47

Yes of course YANBU. It should have already been done.

wrapsuperstar Wed 04-Jun-14 16:14:59

If you are genuinely questioning if this is unreasonable he has really done a number on you.

ApocalypseThen Wed 04-Jun-14 16:15:01

Definitely not over.

WowserBowser Wed 04-Jun-14 16:16:23

If he is being resistant to doing this then i'd say he's not comitted to working it out with you.

Topaz25 Wed 04-Jun-14 16:16:23

YANBU. I would not want them to have any contact.

shirkingviolent Wed 04-Jun-14 16:16:42

Er, yeah-hur!

If he has to be asked to do this he is insensitive to your feelings at the very least. Why would he think you'd be ok with her seeing your life on FB?

Wtfshock yanbu- but if he hasn't done it automatically then I question if he is committed to your relationship and rebuilding trust.

Talisawasnotsupposedtobethere Wed 04-Jun-14 16:18:07

You are SO NOT being unreasonable!

Surely this is going to be totally unanimous?!

meditrina Wed 04-Jun-14 16:18:42

"Should I have to ask to defriend or am I being unreasonable?"

Of course he should defriend. The only unreasonable bit here is that you are having to ask. He should have done it himself already.

squoosh Wed 04-Jun-14 16:20:15

Hmmm, it's a tough one..............

MrsBungle Wed 04-Jun-14 16:20:17

Erm, yanbu!

KoalaDownUnder Wed 04-Jun-14 16:21:27

Are you kidding??

If he's digging in his heels, then he is completely taking the piss. He should have done it without being asked! shock

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone Wed 04-Jun-14 16:21:40

Unbelievable.

Sure you want to even bother with this turd?

Nancy66 Wed 04-Jun-14 16:21:51

It's fine. And if they want to trade the odd sex text and nude selfie then that's ok too...

AnyFucker Wed 04-Jun-14 16:21:57

OP, has he agreed to stop shagging her yet ? Or do you think it would be unreasonable of you to ask this of him ? hmm

Please think about whether this is actually a man worth getting over the pain of being cheated on for.

gamerchick Wed 04-Jun-14 16:23:07

Eh, why hasn't he done it already? Does he not use Facebook much?

Writerwannabe83 Wed 04-Jun-14 16:26:05

WTAF - if you actually think it's possibly ok for you husband to be FB friends with his previous OW then something isn't right in your head!

I can't get my head around how this could even happen!???

whatsagoodusername Wed 04-Jun-14 16:36:58

Unless he never-ever-ever-ever goes on Facebook and has not been on AT ALL since you found out about the OW, there is no excuse for his not defriending and blocking her.

YANBU. He shouldn't even hesitate to do it if he's committed to you.

whatsagoodusername Wed 04-Jun-14 16:38:21

You shouldn't have to ask. He should have done it when he cut contact and deleted her phone number and emails and any other form of contact.

ApocalypseThen Wed 04-Jun-14 16:39:57

If it was over the other woman would have done the needful here. She hasn't because she doesn't know they've broken up.

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