Expect DH to Facebook defriend OW after affair ended?

[st273447]

So the affair has ended and DH committed to our relationship, but my DH is still FB friends with OW?

Should I have to ask to defriend or am I being unreasonable?

[ManchesterAunt]

How could you even think you would be unreasonable in asking that?

[DeepThought]

Of course he should defriend and block

Omg at him not doing it yet

Slightly concerning that he hasn't - did he end the affair in front of you, have you got full unfettered access to his emails, phone, tablet etc?

[AnyFucker]

You have to ask us this ?

[LEMmingaround]

Its not over

[WowserBowser]

Yes of course YANBU. It should have already been done.

[wrapsuperstar]

If you are genuinely questioning if this is unreasonable he has really done a number on you.

[ApocalypseThen]

Definitely not over.

[WowserBowser]

If he is being resistant to doing this then i'd say he's not comitted to working it out with you.

[Topaz25]

YANBU. I would not want them to have any contact.

[shirkingviolent]

Er, yeah-hur!

If he has to be asked to do this he is insensitive to your feelings at the very least. Why would he think you'd be ok with her seeing your life on FB?

[pregnantpause]

Wtf yanbu- but if he hasn't done it automatically then I question if he is committed to your relationship and rebuilding trust.

[Talisawasnotsupposedtobethere]

You are SO NOT being unreasonable!

Surely this is going to be totally unanimous?!

[meditrina]

"Should I have to ask to defriend or am I being unreasonable?"

Of course he should defriend. The only unreasonable bit here is that you are having to ask. He should have done it himself already.

[squoosh]

Hmmm, it's a tough one..............

[MrsBungle]

Erm, yanbu!

[KoalaDownUnder]

Are you kidding??

If he's digging in his heels, then he is completely taking the piss. He should have done it without being asked!

[BrunoBrookesDinedAlone]

Unbelievable.

Sure you want to even bother with this turd?

[Nancy66]

It's fine. And if they want to trade the odd sex text and nude selfie then that's ok too...

[AnyFucker]

OP, has he agreed to stop shagging her yet ? Or do you think it would be unreasonable of you to ask this of him ?

Please think about whether this is actually a man worth getting over the pain of being cheated on for.

[gamerchick]

Eh, why hasn't he done it already? Does he not use Facebook much?

[Writerwannabe83]

WTAF - if you actually think it's possibly ok for you husband to be FB friends with his previous OW then something isn't right in your head!

I can't get my head around how this could even happen!???

[whatsagoodusername]

Unless he never-ever-ever-ever goes on Facebook and has not been on AT ALL since you found out about the OW, there is no excuse for his not defriending and blocking her.

YANBU. He shouldn't even hesitate to do it if he's committed to you.

[whatsagoodusername]

You shouldn't have to ask. He should have done it when he cut contact and deleted her phone number and emails and any other form of contact.

[ApocalypseThen]

If it was over the other woman would have done the needful here. She hasn't because she doesn't know they've broken up.

[SlimJiminy]

YANBU. Agree that if OW thought it was over she'd have deleted/blocked him herself.