and not wanting to do A Levels/go to university?
This is going to be long, so bear with me...
When I finished my GCSE's seven years ago it was expected by my parents that I would do A Levels and then go to university. They wanted it so much that I never really stopped to think about whether that was what I actually wanted. I don't know if it was because both my parents left school at 16 and have worked ever since and they were from a generation where going to university was pretty much a guarantee of a good job?
Truthfully I wasn't academic at school and just scraped seven GCSE's, 4 B's and 3 C's, and if I'm honest I think I would have been far better off just starting an apprenticeship - I was desperate to leave the classroom environment and start earning my own money but my parents wouldn't hear of it. No, I must go on and do A Levels so I would end up with a better job and a better life than them. I found A Levels hard and I hated them so much but whenever I brought up the possibility of quitting and getting an apprenticeship or a job instead I just got shouted at that I would ruin my life by doing that so I stuck it out. In the end though I flunked my A Levels because I found them hard and wasn't interested in the subjects at all. I told my parents I wanted to take a couple of years out and work for a bit instead of going to university and they were devastated. Again, they thought I was going to ruin my life by not going to university.
I've worked since then and am starting an apprenticeship in digital and creative media in a few weeks time which fits me perfectly and I think I'm a lot happier than I would have been if I'd gone to university. I just wish I'd have had the guts to get an apprenticeship at 16 because chances are, I would have been further ahead right now and wouldn't have been miserable for two years.
Seriously, am I mad to think that there's nothing wrong with not being academic and being more practical instead? It seems these days that not going to university is seen as shameful. This might be a controversial statement, but I really do think we send too many people to university these days and there are lots of people who go to university just because that's what's expected of them. I also think that lots of people who go to university would be better suited to an apprenticeship instead. The 50% university target is just madness IMO.
I know when I was at school anyone who left at 16 was seen as a failure and thought to be throwing away their lives, though looking at them now, most seem to be doing well for themselves and in the career they wanted to be in so it all worked out.
I've even heard parents say that they'll be making it clear to their children that they are expected to do A Levels and go to university and they can do whatever they want after that. When questioned on what happens if their children don't want to do that, the parents are insisted that's what they will do. Fair enough if they genuinely want to do that themselves but pushing a non-academic child through A Levels and university just seems sad to me.
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TheHamstersOnTheWheelAgain · 04/06/2014 11:15
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