Do I mention this.

(57 Posts)
wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 21:35:32

Long story .I work in a school .A friend was in school over half term .A holiday club is run from the school building but is an independent company
Friend saw one of the children that she knows attends school returning too the club at lunchtime in a club staff members car .
She was worried about insurance and this child has certain special needs that can make him controlling .She mentioned this to me at lunchtime today.
I asked child about half term this morning and what he had been up to .He mentioned holiday club .I asked if he enjoyed it and what sort of things they do there.
He said it was good and that he went to a local shop with so and so to pick something up .I said oh does mum know he said no but it was ok as they were her friend .I said oh ok .
Now with my friend mentioning it and asking does she need to do anything I'm asking wise mumsnetters what they think .

A . it's holiday club so not schools business.
B .It just dosnt sit right with me as in what if something happened while they are out 're car .
C .Not my business.
So do I need to do anything or not Help please advice me .TIA

mindthegap79 Tue 03-Jun-14 21:42:05

Hmmm, sounds dodgy to me. I'm a teacher and occasionally drive children to events like football matches etc - on school business. But I have business insurance, always have written parental permission and never just one child unless I'm with a colleague.

Driving to the shop? Wtaf. Please speak to the school about it - they may want to reconsider leasing the premesis to this holiday club. As a parent, I'd be furious if that was my child. Totally irresponsible.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 21:45:41

It just didn't seem right and I can't articulate why . If I was mum I would want to know as you say .But am I taking this too far because it was holiday club not school .thanks MTG

Canus Tue 03-Jun-14 21:46:18

But you don't know what happened by the sound of it, and neither does your friend.

The child's parents may know all about it, whatever the child says.

They could have been running the child home and back, or to a pharmacy, a pre arranged trip/appointment, anything.

Coldlightofday Tue 03-Jun-14 21:48:35

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wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 21:50:51

Canus he told me he went to Londis to pick something up . It's just that if something happens in the future regarding this because I know about it I am in a way part of the problem if it's wrong .

Roseformeplease Tue 03-Jun-14 21:51:48

I think you are over- reacting. They went to the shop - not really an issue.

Coldlightofday Tue 03-Jun-14 21:52:23

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wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 21:56:10

Car insurance for one .
Safe guarding for another.
Volatile outbursts from the child due to his special needs .

Coldlightofday Tue 03-Jun-14 21:59:39

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misssmapp Tue 03-Jun-14 21:59:43

I'd mention to the Child Protection officer - it is a potential safeguarding issue and they will be able to make the next steps re talking to the holiday club.

maddy68 Tue 03-Jun-14 22:04:04

I think you're over reacting too. I teach my friends children. I regulatory give them a lift. It's with her consent. Why would Any one else know?
It would occur to me to inform anyone about it.

zumby Tue 03-Jun-14 22:04:23

It is not right. It doesn't mean anything has happened, but you cannot be too careful in looking after children.

Rules, policies and procedures mean that staff members should not be left alone with children in areas where they cannot reasonably expect to be overseen by colleagues or parents etc.

What would happen to this staff member if that child made an allegation?

What would happen to the school if this happened?

you definitely need to report it - to the manager of the setting, and if they do not take it seriously, to ofsted. If you want impartial advice, phone your local authority and ask to speak to the safeguarding officer for advice.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 22:04:44

Safeguarding .is just that .Safeguarding .
This child has particular complex issues and you have to know him extremely well and know what his triggers are.
If you misjudge this the consequences can be dire and potentiality on a realistic note life-threatening .

mindthegap79 Tue 03-Jun-14 22:06:17

Yes I'd be furious if my child was being driven around without my knowledge or permission by the person I was paying to care for them. As a teacher I wouldn't dream of doing that. What if your child's teacher decided to pop to the shop on their lunchbreak and take your child along? I can just imagine how that would go down in my school - why should a holiday club have a different standard?

Coldlightofday Tue 03-Jun-14 22:06:59

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Coldlightofday Tue 03-Jun-14 22:09:01

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HolidayCriminal Tue 03-Jun-14 22:10:01

Sticky Beak out, OP.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 22:13:33

Please don't insult me by calling me a sticky beak .Totally unnecessary and rather mean .
If you want to pass on your opinion that is gratefully received but personal insults are not needed thank you

Oakmaiden Tue 03-Jun-14 22:16:38

I would ASSUME, if I had seen this, that the member of staff was charged with supervising the child at the club, due to his SEN. And that this may be an informal arrangement, what with the member of staff being a friend of the mum. And that it might have been better that the child stay with the member of staff as she undertook her errand, than remain at the club unsupervised.

You don't really know the arrangements, your informant doesn't really know either. Presumably there were several people at the club, and they are all aware of safeguarding procedures. I have to be honest, if I were you my lack of knowledge about the whole setup would make me leave this one...

HolidayCriminal Tue 03-Jun-14 22:22:26

If you think it's a personal insult then please ask MNHQ to remove.
I thought it was a pretty mild comment. hmm But happy to let them adjudicate.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 22:22:46

Thank you Oakmaiden I appreciate what your saying .It's because I know this child extremely well .(three years 5days a week ) I do feel responsible for him .But as you say I don't know enough so mm maybe leave this alone .On a positive note no more school holidays for 6 more weeks .

afterthought Tue 03-Jun-14 22:24:00

Oakmaiden's suggestion seems plausible. At a recent Guide event, a girl with SEN had an adult helper come just for her - she is trained to deal with her needs. The girl went wherever the helper did - much better for the girl to be with someone familiar.

The child in the OP said his mum knew the worker - so could well be that she is assigned to him.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Tue 03-Jun-14 22:28:39

They don't have to adjudicate .It was rude
.You were trying to insinuate that I was a busy body sticking my nose in and stiring up trouble .
I stated my reasons of concern which any professional would think about .
I asked for opinions.I did not ask for you to come on and be rude
.If you had said I don't think you should do anything .That's an opinion .

hesterton Tue 03-Jun-14 22:33:06

Surely for example social workers take children unaccompanied in their cars sometimes. You shouldn'twithout proper procedures in place but I wouldtend to assume they were in place. Ask the mum.

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