Inspired by another thread, was actually going to post about it ages ago but I forgot :D
A while ago I had to have a meeting with ds' head teacher and some other people from the school. It's a verrrry long story what the meeting was about but it was quite an emotive subject for me, I was stressed out and upset.
All the people in the meeting kept referring to me as 'mum' not even 'ds' mum' just 'mum'. It was irritating me so much I eventually just snapped and said 'excuse me, I do have a name you know! You all know me by first name as I am in here so often, so please use it! I'm not just someone's mother I am a person in my own right'.
They apologised for upsetting me although since then have continued to call me mum! but I was talking to bf the other night and he said I was really unreasonable!
Thing is, since me & ex spilt I have struggled with my new role, I was a full time worker and the only earner in the family and overnight had to become a SAHP, give up my job, social life, basically everything except the kids! I went from being a 'well rounded' person with friends and having my own interests and independence to having all that taken away :(
I love my kids dearly but my self worth has eroded away so much over the last year I no longer feel like a 'real' person with any value so to have the school constantly refer to me in this away just reinforces in my own head this idea that I have that I am nothing in myself and only have a purpose as someone's mother, I don't even have my own name :(
Aibu? Should I not have said anything? Or does bf just not understand?
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To get annoyed with the school not using my name!
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extremepie · 02/06/2014 18:49
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