Ex turned up on my doorstep this morning with dd2. The school shirt he had picked with her had shrunk in the wash. She needed another one. It was 8:18am, I live literally 3 minutes, at dd2's pace, from the school. She left with a fresh shirt at 8:30am, the doors open at 8:45am, so they were not late, although I am happy for him to leave dd1 in charge of dd2 and leave the playground before the doors open if he needs to, there is a TA on yard duty from 8:15am.
Ex informed me that our arrangement does not work for him. We will need to change it. He was going to be late for work and does not have time to take them to school on a morning. When we were together he never left for work before 9am.
The arrangement we have atm says he has them every Tues, Wed and Thurs one week (although they normally opt to spend Thursday with me) and Fri, Sat, Sun (again the opt to spend Sat with my mum or sister, dd1 sometimes spends friday there too) the next week. This fits in nicely with the new shift pattern I organised at work.
I cannot afford to give up work. Surely my job is as equally important now? If not more important considering he pays no maintenance and often asks me to give them dinner on his days because he can't afford to feed them. I collect them from school on his days and keep them until he finishes work. He agreed to this arrangement in the first place.
AIBU to tell him if it causes problems with him getting to work that's his tough shit, he'll have to sort that out with his employers?
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To not change access agreement that ex says doesn't suit him because it suits me?
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D0oinMeCleanin · 02/06/2014 12:16
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