Sister in law going on honeymoon for 2 weeks without kids

(82 Posts)
Myrtle2012 Mon 26-May-14 14:24:37

My SiL is getting married at the end of August and going off on honeymoon for 2 weeks. It is her 2nd marriage and her child (8) is staying with her grandparents. SiL has told me that they will find this a struggle but will have a get on with it as they offered. Her partner also has a child (11) with some behavioural and learning issues. His mother currently has limited and controlled access and so he will be staying with her and an Aunt and separately another Uncle. The 11 year old has never spent more than a week apart from his Dad.
I think this is all a bit selfish especially as SiL has not been on holiday with her child, or with new family, for 3 years due to lack of effort rather than money.
To add to the mix the wedding list is only for contributions to the honeymoon.
I've tried to raise my concerns with SiL and other family members but have been fobbed off with "we deserve it"or "she's decided so that's it" or my favourite "what do you know you are not a mother".
So I turn to you......am I being unreasonable......

passmethewineplease Mon 26-May-14 19:14:17

YABU, what does it even have to do with you?

brdgrl Mon 26-May-14 19:14:04

If DH and I had been able to afford a honeymoon, there's no way we'd have taken the DSC. They'd be off to their gran's in a heartbeat.

But anyway - YAB horribly U not for having an opinion about what you would choose to do yourself (do what you like!), but because it's none of your business what your SIL and her spouse do.

To add to the mix the wedding list is only for contributions to the honeymoon.
How does this "add to the mix"? I mean, I'm no fan of wedding registries, but what difference does it make to your OP? Were they supposed to register for gifts for the children? confused

DowntonTrout Mon 26-May-14 19:13:21

They probably do deserve it.

They've already decided so that's it.

And really, one day when you are a mother, you probably will understand. (And be qualified to comment)

CloverHeart Mon 26-May-14 19:12:54

BORING! This is the 4th thread this month. YABU - If you are jealous then arrange something similar for you and your DH instead of bitching about other people who do hmm

Chocotrekkie Mon 26-May-14 19:10:50

If you think the grandparents will struggle with the 8 year old it might be nice if you took her out for the day maybe in the middle of the 2 weeks.

They would probably welcome a day to get some things done/bit of peace without her.

Do you seriously expect them to take an 8 year old and an 11year old on honeymoon with them - that's a family holiday not a newly married couples honeymoon.

BMW6 Mon 26-May-14 19:02:27

How very dare she - report to SS quick......hmm

Waltermittythesequel Mon 26-May-14 19:02:05

If this is not just a goady post:

YABU

it's none of your business

And I can see the "no dc, no opinion" point because we've all been smug twats about parenting at some point before we were parents!

SeptemberFlowers Mon 26-May-14 18:59:53

None of your business.

I would LOVE 24/48hrs away from my DH and dc sometime but that ain't gonna happen any time soon..

Very jealous of your SIL envy and I suspect you are too.

OwlCapone Mon 26-May-14 18:59:17

Yes, YABU.

Welcome to MN, baptism by AIBU!

SqutterNutBaush Mon 26-May-14 18:53:38

My mum and Dad buggered off to Florida for a fortnight leaving me at a friends and my brother at my Aunts when they got married, I was 11 and DB was 3.

Didn't bother us at all and we did go with them for 3 years after that (apparently they were just scoping it out grin).

We had fun without our parents and I'm sure they had fun without us, it was a one off so no issues.

YABU.

everlong Mon 26-May-14 18:51:08

Lol laurie

SpicyPear Mon 26-May-14 18:49:44

YABextremelyU

They are plenty old enough to be left and are being cared for by family. It's a honeymoon.

yabu, I used to love staying at my nan's house when my rents went away.

LoveBeingInTheSun Mon 26-May-14 17:54:59

Yes you are

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 26-May-14 17:37:50

Are we not supposed to go anywhere without our children then until they've grown up and moved out?

My DH and his brother used to holiday very year with their grandparents, they've got some lovely memories.

mumeeee Mon 26-May-14 17:05:20

Another one saying YABU, My DC are grown up now but they used to stay with their GP for a week at that age and loved it. I'm sure they would have been fine staying 2 weeks,'

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 26-May-14 16:53:33

My Dsis and BIL went away for 10 days without their kids who were 2 and 4 at the time. Their grandparents stayed with them, so they could have time as newlyweds, without screaming kids around.

Who wants to take kids on a honeymoon.

Mckayz Mon 26-May-14 16:44:22

Stop the press. Newlyweds are going on honeymoon!

YABU

RedRoom Mon 26-May-14 16:43:06

YABU. What is wrong with a child staying with his or her GPs for a week?

Cardinal Mon 26-May-14 16:40:35

Kids on a honeymoon? Yuck!

GertrudeBell Mon 26-May-14 16:10:17

Good for them. How lovely to have some time together at the start of their marriage.

HemlockStarglimmer Mon 26-May-14 16:03:15

What with one thing and another my parents didn't have a honeymoon until they'd been married for over ten years. Did they take us with them? Did they heck as like!

I really cannot see what the problem is.

HannerHet Mon 26-May-14 15:42:59

Yabu, it's nothing to do with you

BerniesBurneze Mon 26-May-14 15:41:01

Bleugh, YABU.

PrincessBabyCat Mon 26-May-14 15:39:20

Why would you bring your kids on a honeymoon? That's a time for the two to bond together exclusively as a couple.

This may surprise you, but a parents life does not revolve around their children at every waking moment. They need a break sometimes.

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